Field Report: damn flakiness so frustrating!

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I'm at a loss with this one.

A met an Asian-American girl in a queue at Uni enrolment day who's barely just arrived in the country. Surely she'd be keen to meet new people?

It's a humid day, I'm getting tired of waiting at the head of the queue for so long. I turn around and the girl behind me looks surpisingly decent (the whole room was deviod of talent!).
So I casually say, "We finally get to the head of the queue and it stops moving."

She laughs aloud as if it was the funniest thing man's ever said. Then straight away, she gives good EC asks whether I'm a first year student. I reply, "Nah I'm starting my honours year."

Then her eyes light up and while kinoing me on the arm, she says, "Oh good luck I hear that's the hardest year". Then I'm called up from the queue. FVCK barely 20 seconds and already all that, I'm not that bloody good!

In the second queue she is about 6 people away, and we exchange words briefly. Everyone is listening, it's so silent.
Then 5 mins later, we are waiting for our ID photos to develop and I approach again (she got there first).

Well she beams again and starts yakking and we talk about the uni and American college life. She tells me she's found the campus to be anti-social.....points scored for me.....I bet I'm the first Aussie to acknowledge her presence.

So we go to leave I use a bit of kino, but just before I'm about to number close, she number closes me! "Would it be alright if I got your number?"

Three nights later, I call and the phone rings out....fvck not again, maybe she's busy. So I call again this afternoon and surprisingly she picks up. She remembers me and tells me she just waiting to be picked up by someone at the train station. We small talk for a bit but she yaps so much with that accent I can barely follow at some points (damn you yanks talk so fast! :)).

JUST when I'm about to setup a coffee date, she abruptly says, "Oh my ride's here, can I call you back?" Just like that! Maybe the ride came maybe it didn't, but all I know is it's been 5 hours since.

FVCK! what's the bet she met some 23yo tall Aussie jock last night at her postgrad pub night she told me about? (I'm 2 yrs younger and she knew)
 

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So, she didn't call you back right away. I don't think she indicated that she would call you back right away, did she?

Remember, she just got into town and she's making friends. This is a good thing. A girl with no other friends would get old, really fast. Just call her tomorrow ask her out, so that she knows you're a romantic interest, not just a buddy.
 

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I know what you mean about flakes. I had the hardest time with that when I was first starting out, but it's getting easier and easier to handle when you realize that it's not that bad.

I too had what appeared to be a golden opportunity end up in a flake. She was giving me great body language (leaning in towards me, as if she was hanging on every word), great EC, and appeared genuinely pleased when I asked her for her number.

I left a message for her, but I haven't heard back. Oh well. I will try her one more time before next-ing her.

I know that all the DJs on the board don't believe in leaving messages -- and I would agree, before the days of caller id and cell phones.

However, now that everyone has a cell phone with caller id capability, she's going to know whether or not you called -- and not leaving a message just seems weak.
 

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to think I though this thread would solve my dry sculp problems...

Do you goto Monash Uni 40 Quid ?

Remember Americans are Very Very open and loud by nature.. No Pun intended guys :D

Last weekend I was out clubing on the coast and there was a group of American HB's at subway yakking away and carrying on ... been a DJ I just had to run up and High Fived all of them (6 or 7) introduced myself and fluffed for a bit. Got tons of EC and Kino , but i think they were just been ultra friendly...

I think when I told them I was an Aussie that was just icing on the cake mate :D

Don't you just love orientation week !!! I think i might join up with the Bikini Sociaty. lol


Out.
 

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Dont set up coffee. Give her an incentive besides yourself to come out.

Say you are checking out the latest exhibition at XXX and that she should join you, or that there is this great place that has YYY. Since you are already going, it would be cool if she could tag along.

Make sure it is something you do anyway, and not going out of your way to do it. This way you are doing her a favour and if she doesn't bite, it is her loss.

Coffee in a new city is boring IMO.
 

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When did she flake? I think you are overreacting. Give it a few days. I think she likes you. Don't do coffee - impress her and do something outrageously fun!
 

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You must understand talking to a chick means nothing in university. Most people are open to talk and sometimes merely talk. Just number close every chick and pray one will have enough IL to give out her number.

I go to Uni of Queensland where 60% are women, 90% guys AFC. With these odds you are bound to land an uber HB.;)
 

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vdk: I don't think it's as open at my Uni compared to Queensland. After some huge survey they found MU to be the unfriendlest, most stuck-up etc. in Australia. The chick was right, and she could pick it straight away.

But anyway, she told me she'd call me back so isn't the ball in her court? And i've heard people say that if a girl is interested, she'll make it easy for you to get in touch. Are you sure it's wise to submit and call again in three days like a desperate beggar?

Also, I agree about having dates that are more interesting, but I don't want to invest too much time and/or money when I barely know the person.
 

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Originally posted by duke007
FVCK! what's the bet she met some 23yo tall Aussie jock last night at her postgrad pub night she told me about? (I'm 2 yrs younger and she knew)
What's the bet she has a life outside of you and you're paranoid? ;)

She's just a girl. Relax.
 

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I know, but sh1t, how much more apparent IL do I need to secure a date
 

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upadte

Well damn! I didn't expect this:
She called TWO days after the initial phone call, and was all apologetic for not calling me back sooner!

I knew there was something funny about the supposed flake...But still, because I wasn't expecting this the convo wasn't that great but I made sure I lined up a date this time.

Let this be a lesson to everyone - this site encourages NEXTing if one little thing goes wrong, but that doesn't necessarily mean she's not interested in you.

Don't let yourself get pissed off either!
 

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congrats on setting up the date duke.
but seriously, 5 hours after she hadn't called back, your posting about it on the internet and thinking its all over? sounds to me like she's the only girl your talking to at the moment? i think maybe after 2 days you could have posted something, but 5 hours? come on.
atleast you didn't sms her saying something like "why haven't you called me? i don't know what i did wrong, i'm really sorry!" (i know people who would).
now i'm no king dj duke i'm still learning, but i think you should realise you over reacted there. even if she was to never call you back, theres plenty more girls out there.

importantly, congrats again on setting up the date and aswell as making a cold approach. i've never done one, so i'm impressed.
 

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yeah you're right quest, I overreacted a little.
Mainly because my last 3 number-closing CA's ended in flakes, and IL here seemed very high.

Also, her tone in saying, "Can I call you back?" was not very positive.
 
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