Field Report (bus stop)

[SuSHI]

oh...k guys, this is indeed a field report.
Plus as a bonus, I also have a few questions.

Well...yesterday I was waiting for the bus to go to work. I was there by myself for about 15 mins. No buses at all! But then, comes this girl down the street. And we don't make eye contact or anything. She walks to the stop and also waits.

10 mins of silence passes by and still no bus or talking between her and I. Then I decide to break the ice.

I asked her if it usaully took very long for the bus of this street to come cause I had been at the stop for 25 mins. So we both decide that the bus for this street was prolly out of service. And so I suggest we go down to a different street and get another bus going in the same direction.

Yep, thats right, now I was in a good situation...
We had a 10 min walk to get to the other stop. So I had time to dj.

Me: So...WHats your name?

her: "A", whats your name?

Me: "SuSHI" , nice to meet ya A.

blah blah blah... small talk.

Anyways, we get to the bus stop and a bit of a silence came up. But then we somehow got to talking about work and it turns out she works with a friend of mine.

The bus comes and we get on...This was the awkard part as I did not know where to sit. So I sat across from her in the back of the bus. And I was thinking of number closing right as she got off the bus. But and this is a big ass BUT.
A girl friend of hers steps on the bus and starts chatting with her. I could tell they were not really close friends but anyways, it threw me off on the number closing.

So I get off the bus into the station and dessappeared(sp?). Yeah, i know where I f*cked up.

But hey...I was happy I went through with it.

I have a question however.

Since this girl knows my friend cause she works with him. And I am going to see this friend of mine in summer school in a week.

Should I ask him to hook me up with her? the thing is...If he does bring it up with her at work a week from now...would she even care at that point? because it will be a week before I see my friend and by then, if he brings it up to her, she might think I am desperate.

How could I go about doing this? Would It seem like a lack of confidence on my part if I were to get her number through my friend?

If I ever run into her again, I would go for the number. But i am most likely not gonna, so...


thnx for reading this rant/field report/ question,
SuSHI.

 

[krd]

That sounds like exactly what I would do in such a situation. 10 minutes would most likely go by before I get up enough courage to talk to a girl, even if she happens to be standing next to me.

I think your move of suggesting taking another street was very DJ. It gave the impression that you were taking charge of the situation. I think there is a 50/50 chance I would have done the same thing.

Choosing to sit in the back of the bus is definitely something I'd do. I'd be afraid of making it seem like I was following her around or looking desperate, so I'd overcompensate by sitting as far away from her as I could. Just as I'd sit down, I'd probably start thinking I should have sat closer, but that it's too late to move unless I'd want to really seem like I was following her around and looking desperate.

Her friend would come on and that would totally throw me. I'd figure it for a lost cause and get off the bus quickly, maybe without even saying bye. Then, I'd be feeling pissed off at myself that I let another opportunity get away.

You're in a complicated situation now that I, myself, would not know what to do about, so don't take my words as gospel. But I would think twice before getting her number off a friend, because it may look like you don't have the courage to do it yourself. However, if you might not see her again, then it may be your only chance. Here, it all comes down to whether or not girls are really that critical about everything a guy does. Would a little thing like getting a number off your friend wreck your chances significantly? Or would she still be attracted to you based on your first impression? I don't have the answer; maybe somebody else might.

 

[Mr. Delicious]

why not go visit your friend at work. Unless its a very formal place with strictass managers i visit my friends occassionally at work. When you go there you may run into that girl and you can start talking to her and get her number then?

 

[SuSHI]

Yeah, but you see.
They work at a store that sells party supplies, like baloons and such. I can't just go in there, if I'm not throwing a party right? It may seem too desperate.

 

[krd]

I think you and your friend should talk and see if you can both figure out something that will allow you to see this girl again. I'm sure if he's really a friend, he'd be willing to help you out. You guys could even plan a time when you could go visit and maybe come up with a reason for you being there (apart from the girl, of course). This would be more effective than just showing up unnannounced. You guys could say that you were just going in to visit your friend to say hi, perhaps you don't get to see each other often. You could make plans to hang out sometime and invite the girl along. This is just my suggestion; you guys may be able to come up with something better on your own, but I'd say definitely talk to him.

Is your friend single? Or does he have a girlfriend? This could have an effect on the outcome, so it would be smart to try and stay informed on such things.