Female Wingman?

Sexy_Malibu

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Hey guys I was just wondering what you guys opinions were on having a female wingman (or as HeyPretty called it "ChicknWing" ha ha!) I know that some of you don't even believe that men adn women can be friends, but I know some of you do have female friends... and I was curious if you guys thought that winging was different for men and women. I think I could be a pretty good wingman for my guy friends when the time calls for it. But I don't know if they would necessarily do as well for me. Just curious what the overall consensus was on this topic... :)
 

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Good idea. I could use a female wingman. Too bad most girls I know are too selfish to help a brotha out.
 

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the girl i was hitting on might assume you were my GF. not cool.
 

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Originally posted by Knicknack
the girl i was hitting on might assume you were my GF. not cool.
I was kind of thinking it might work in two ways... You know how girls want what they can't have. When they see a guy with a girl, any girl, they automatically find him more attractive than if he was alone. (Once it's established that the wingman is NOT your GF, the original attraction still stands, although they might not realize where it came from).

The second reason, I was thinking was that women trust other women... I mean, that's not necessarily true, I don't trust most chicks as far as a DJ could throw them... but what I mean is that if a guy came up to me, talking up his friend... or a girl came up to me, talking up her friend... I might be more likely to trust the girl's opinion than the guy's opinion because women know what women want (or at least most women like to believe that that is true).

I do think that female-wingmen would have to wing in a different way than men would.
 

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Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
but what I mean is that if a guy came up to me, talking up his friend... or a girl came up to me, talking up her friend... I might be more likely to trust the girl's opinion than the guy's opinion because women know what women want (or at least most women like to believe that that is true).

I do think that female-wingmen would have to wing in a different way than men would.
In that instance of winging that may be true but what would you do when you had to keep the friend busy while your wing is talking to his target? Interesting topic.
 

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The male and the female wingman serve two different purposes. The male wingman is suppose to act as the "grenade jumper" by talking to your target's potential ****blocking friends. If these girls are satisfied with the attention, they will feel no reason to hinder your game. The female wingman is kind of a "stage girl" who provides the jealousy bait. She flirts with you and you flirt back, leaving the impression that you two could be fvck buddies. Naturally, your target will become more interested in you because women love a little competition. The female wingman can also be used as a "grenade jumper" for a guy who is competing with you for the target. The female acts interested and lets him number close (or fake number close) while you are free of interference. However, most women won't play this role because it puts them in a dangerous position with potential "Let Me Take You Home" Guys. If possible, bring both types of artillery when you go out.
 
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good idea...last year I ran into this asian player...real cool cat...had 3 beautiful white girls with him...and he even set me up with one of his crew...while they were busy setting him up with other beautiful women....

I had to hand it to him...infact I did give him his respect.
 

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"ChicknWing".... I love it.....

A million dollars can't buy you the kind of validation being with a woman brings you.

I have a female friend whose mission in life is to see me married. One night we were at a club. I was minding my business when she says "I'm gonna go find you some girls". Before I could hogtie and gag her for even contemplating such a stupid move she was off.....

Minutes later she returns with a cutie who is smiling at me from ear to ear ready to get her groove on. This continued all night long with several other women, each time the girl was more than willing to go along with it. Needless to say I said "fukk it" and went along with it myself!

Shocked the HELL out of me. Here I am thinking these chicks would see me as a loser by her approaching for me, when nothing could have been further from the truth.
 

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We only use a female as an "anchor" to reach our target.
 

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Nope.

1. Forget about any females approaching you...With a girl, you aint gettin that

2. The whole concept of the wingman is to take out the HB friend that may get in the way.....a girl can't do that.

3. The girl may end up pickin up her own man. i dunno about you, but I didn't go to the bar to talk to guys or have them invading my space
 

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Yes they can work but not in the traditional sense of wingmen.

I was actually out the other night with some female and male friends and one of my guy friends and I were checking out the room. We spotted one and made comments to each other about her. One of the girls piped up and wanted to know who we were looking at and offered to go over and 'talk' to her for me as she said that this was something women were okay and appreciated more than guys approaching.

The other girls in the group agreed. So I figured I'd test it out. It worked and I've since gone on to ask other female friends about it and the general reaction is that it is okay.

Still, I'm not advocating giving up doing the approaching yourself. We still have to do that.
 

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Originally posted by STR8UP
"ChicknWing".... I love it.....

A million dollars can't buy you the kind of validation being with a woman brings you.

I have a female friend whose mission in life is to see me married. One night we were at a club. I was minding my business when she says "I'm gonna go find you some girls". Before I could hogtie and gag her for even contemplating such a stupid move she was off.....

Minutes later she returns with a cutie who is smiling at me from ear to ear ready to get her groove on. This continued all night long with several other women, each time the girl was more than willing to go along with it. Needless to say I said "fukk it" and went along with it myself!

Shocked the HELL out of me. Here I am thinking these chicks would see me as a loser by her approaching for me, when nothing could have been further from the truth.
Nobody is better at talking you up to another chick than a chick friend!

And some people say that men and women can never be friends! :rolleyes:
 

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I had a female wingman last week and didn't even realise it. I was picking up this girl at the bar, I knew half the people in there. On girl I went to college with a couple of years ago was hanging around flirting, grabbing my ass, kinoing me and generally screwing around. This was great social proof, I didn't realise it until know.

The girl (from college) is seeing an AFC, I'll end up banging her in the coming months, I see her on the bus to school all the time(same bus, different institutions).
 

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this is what I do. I'll have a female family memeber of mine chill with me at a club, she will start talking with some nice looking females and the next thing you know she is showing me off to them and building me a road to the inside of their pants

K.I.P
Desire Me.
 

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I highly doubt that will work, unless you flirt with your family members...
 

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A female winglady is an excellent idea..people who have never field tested this and are only talking in theory are talking out of their asses

by winglady..I mean a chick thats on your side..and helping to help you score numbers (i.e. social proof)

Ive had alot of success with alot of my LJBF ladyfriends in the past

I even have gone out with my sister (it helps if your friend/family wing-person) is attractive..and have had much success with this without flirting with my sister

Other ladies rarely question who the girl u are with is..and automatically assume you two are an item

which immediately increases her IL..and I dont tell the ladies what my relation with my wing-lady is..unless they ask..and when I tell them its my sister..it doesnt Lower her IL!

because like a previous poster said..once her IL is up do to your association with another girl..the attraction/IL tends to "stick" with that person like a first impression

so Malibu..if you were to act like a winglady...whats in it for you?

what are you doing Sat night?
 
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Another way a female can "wing it" :rolleyes: is just by making that first approach into a group of girls. I know it can seem lame for someone to approach for you... but usually if a guy goes into a group of girls even if he has no interest in any of them the girls usually assume he does. But if I'm hanging out with some guy friends and we're near a group of hot girls I might say something to one of them "Oh I love your earrings" or something other bullsh*t compliment girls give each other. That starts a conversation with the group without the immediate assumption that someone is trying to get in someone else's pants. (It seems that once that assumption happens, defense mechanisms come up... but if they are just happy to get a compliment, thinking it has no ulterior motive... then they're more likely to accept any move you make because they're happy, they're complimented, we're all friends now...)
so Malibu..if you were to act like a winglady...whats in it for you?
Is there always something in it for the wingman? You take one for the team because they're you're friends and you know they'll get your back the next time around when you need them. It works like that with all friends, male or female.
 

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so you expect some guy to return the favor eh?

thats what wingmen are about..you help out someone..they help you out another time

floozy
 

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Originally posted by Starman
so you expect some guy to return the favor eh?

thats what wingmen are about..you help out someone..they help you out another time

floozy
:eek:

Floozy!? I prefer S L U T, thank you very much. :D

As for a guy returning the favor... I can see how a female wingman might help a guy out... but I'm sure if it would work in the reverse as well... What do you guys think? I'd help out my friends just because they're my friends, not necessarily for reciprocation. But that wouldn't hurt either... ;)
 

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I'd be worried with a female wingman... I'm a good looking fela and I wouldn't want to hurt the girl winging. Thats why I don't have female friends, girls are usually attracted to me and any time I spend with them can be construde as attraction. I've been called @ 2 in the morning by crying girls expressing their 'love' for me, it's a pain in the ass. But rubbing it in a potential AFF[average frustrated female]'s face? Thats just mean.

But, in a perfect world, where I could be just friends with a cool, sexy girl, I'd love having a wing. And I'd return the favor [lol, wouldn't it be weird, a guy walking up to guys tellin em to go have sex with his friend, haha].

Sexy... I've read a few of your posts, I must say you apear to be quite the fun, interesting, down to earth girl, its so refreshing.
 
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