Marlimus
Senior Don Juan
FEMALE PSYCHOLOGY 101
…and how this knowledge is crucial to being a player.
By Marlimus
marlimus@hotmail.com
It is genetically wired into the female mammalian and reptilian brains to be attracted to strong males. Females would select the strongest male in the tribe or cave to mate with so as to produce strong offspring with the highest chance of survival. This is genetic self-preservation, Darwin’s natural selection. The dominant male is assumed to have the genetic advantage and as thus be the best suitor. Self- preservation behavior is programmed into the brains of all animals. The female does not 'decide' to be attracted to the strong male; it is an unconscious reaction, just as the female is automatically repulsed by the weaker males who try- unsuccessfully- to mate with them. Whether by evolution, alien interference, act of God or cosmic accident, the female is designed to be attracted to whatever male displays characteristics of strength. The dominant male is also automatically assumed to be the best provider, especially where the male hunts and not the female.
In modern, more complex organisms, strength ties in with a larger concept of social status. For this example, I will use the example of the wolf pack. The alpha male uses his strength to attain social status as pack leader. This enables him to display the body language of the dominant one without challenge, which the females notice. The female wolves do not logically decide to be attracted to the head wolf, it is just that nature has made it so that the behaviors that the alpha male exhibits create attraction in the females.
After thousands of years of evolution and social programming, the mechanism still works.
Women are still attracted to strong men and men of social status. What has changed, however, is the definition of strength, and the criteria for social value.
Strength no longer means big muscles and the ability to drag home prey. Modern strength is about independence, confidence, self-esteem, in other words, strength of character and emotional self-sufficiency. Social status includes money, power, fame, popularity and of course, the specific kind of strength we just discussed.
As a result, certain types of behaviors that communicate strength and weakness can stimulate or diminish attraction in the female mind.
WHY NICE GUYS FAIL WITH WOMEN
Being Mr. Nice Guy unconsciously communicates weakness, because nice guy, ass-kissing behaviors are seen as neediness. A strong man does not need a particular woman, a weak man clings to her. A strong man psychologically or verbally disciplines a woman who steps out of line, a weak man doesn't stand up for himself because he is terrified of offending her.
A strong man does not see it necessary to try to prove himself worthy to a woman by being the perfect gentleman. The weak man acts as though he is a lowly candidate being interviewed for a job when he carries a girl out.
Very Important- Do not misinterpret me. Being strong and being a gentleman are perfectly compatible, as long as chivalry is not done in the spirit of neediness and desperation.
Being a jerk is just as bad, but it is more successful than being too nice, because not giving a damn about how a woman feels, as abusive and cruel as it is, is more conducive to attraction than neediness. This is why women say that they want the nice guy and then go after the bad boy who drinks too much and doesn’t exactly treat her like a princess.
You cannot convince a woman that you should be her man because you would treat her the best out of all the other guys. I am sorry, it doesn't work that way. You cannot convice a woman to like you by subtly showing off what a great guy you are by displaying special talents or abilities, such as offering to play your guitar for her or reciting poetry. Such behavior is perceived as you trying to solicit approval, which is interpreted as weakness unconsciously.
If you ask a woman about these things, she might give you a blank stare, or say its bull, because all these things go on in a woman's mind unconsciously, in the older, more primitive part of her brain. Women will admit, however, that they chase guys who are a challenge, and quickly lose interest in those guys that like them a little too much. However, they themselves do not know the psychology behind it, they just know how it works. It is as if they can drive, but they can’t explain to you how the piston engine operates.
Here are some practical "strong man, weak man" scenarios.
The strong man leaves immediately if a woman is 15 minutes late, and does not call to find out what happened, because the ball is in her court. A weak man would wait for an hour then call 3 times trying to find out why she didn’t show.
The strong man tells a woman that being on her cell phone all the time during a date is unacceptable, the weak man doesn’t say a word.
The strong man calls a woman and ends the conversation after about 15 minutes and goes about his business, a weak man tries to keep her on the phone for as long as he can, thinking that long, drawn-out conversations will get him anywhere.
The strong man doesn’t change the radio station if the girl says that she hates a song, as a matter of fact, he playfully turns it up a notch (Deangelo). The weak man apologizes profusely and changes the station even if he likes the song.
The strong man is not insensitive, rude, mean or self-centered. However, he does have self-respect, and does not idolize any woman.
SO WHAT KIND OF BEHAVIOR TRIGGERS ATTRACTION?
Being the modern, socially evolved equivalent of the dominant one. Leaving her on the edge of her seat wondering whether you like her or not, instead of foolishly professing your undying love. Teasing her to show that you have the sheer confidence to pick at her. Being unpredictable and changing the amounts of attention you give her (almost ignore her one day, hug her the next) Being confident and acting as though you already know for a fact that she likes you. Asking her out in such as way so as to suggest that you already expect her to say yes. Not calling her very often, cutting off all conversations after 15 minutes and ending all interactions first to show her that you have your own life, and don't need to be around her to find fulfillment.
…and how this knowledge is crucial to being a player.
By Marlimus
marlimus@hotmail.com
It is genetically wired into the female mammalian and reptilian brains to be attracted to strong males. Females would select the strongest male in the tribe or cave to mate with so as to produce strong offspring with the highest chance of survival. This is genetic self-preservation, Darwin’s natural selection. The dominant male is assumed to have the genetic advantage and as thus be the best suitor. Self- preservation behavior is programmed into the brains of all animals. The female does not 'decide' to be attracted to the strong male; it is an unconscious reaction, just as the female is automatically repulsed by the weaker males who try- unsuccessfully- to mate with them. Whether by evolution, alien interference, act of God or cosmic accident, the female is designed to be attracted to whatever male displays characteristics of strength. The dominant male is also automatically assumed to be the best provider, especially where the male hunts and not the female.
In modern, more complex organisms, strength ties in with a larger concept of social status. For this example, I will use the example of the wolf pack. The alpha male uses his strength to attain social status as pack leader. This enables him to display the body language of the dominant one without challenge, which the females notice. The female wolves do not logically decide to be attracted to the head wolf, it is just that nature has made it so that the behaviors that the alpha male exhibits create attraction in the females.
After thousands of years of evolution and social programming, the mechanism still works.
Women are still attracted to strong men and men of social status. What has changed, however, is the definition of strength, and the criteria for social value.
Strength no longer means big muscles and the ability to drag home prey. Modern strength is about independence, confidence, self-esteem, in other words, strength of character and emotional self-sufficiency. Social status includes money, power, fame, popularity and of course, the specific kind of strength we just discussed.
As a result, certain types of behaviors that communicate strength and weakness can stimulate or diminish attraction in the female mind.
WHY NICE GUYS FAIL WITH WOMEN
Being Mr. Nice Guy unconsciously communicates weakness, because nice guy, ass-kissing behaviors are seen as neediness. A strong man does not need a particular woman, a weak man clings to her. A strong man psychologically or verbally disciplines a woman who steps out of line, a weak man doesn't stand up for himself because he is terrified of offending her.
A strong man does not see it necessary to try to prove himself worthy to a woman by being the perfect gentleman. The weak man acts as though he is a lowly candidate being interviewed for a job when he carries a girl out.
Very Important- Do not misinterpret me. Being strong and being a gentleman are perfectly compatible, as long as chivalry is not done in the spirit of neediness and desperation.
Being a jerk is just as bad, but it is more successful than being too nice, because not giving a damn about how a woman feels, as abusive and cruel as it is, is more conducive to attraction than neediness. This is why women say that they want the nice guy and then go after the bad boy who drinks too much and doesn’t exactly treat her like a princess.
You cannot convince a woman that you should be her man because you would treat her the best out of all the other guys. I am sorry, it doesn't work that way. You cannot convice a woman to like you by subtly showing off what a great guy you are by displaying special talents or abilities, such as offering to play your guitar for her or reciting poetry. Such behavior is perceived as you trying to solicit approval, which is interpreted as weakness unconsciously.
If you ask a woman about these things, she might give you a blank stare, or say its bull, because all these things go on in a woman's mind unconsciously, in the older, more primitive part of her brain. Women will admit, however, that they chase guys who are a challenge, and quickly lose interest in those guys that like them a little too much. However, they themselves do not know the psychology behind it, they just know how it works. It is as if they can drive, but they can’t explain to you how the piston engine operates.
Here are some practical "strong man, weak man" scenarios.
The strong man leaves immediately if a woman is 15 minutes late, and does not call to find out what happened, because the ball is in her court. A weak man would wait for an hour then call 3 times trying to find out why she didn’t show.
The strong man tells a woman that being on her cell phone all the time during a date is unacceptable, the weak man doesn’t say a word.
The strong man calls a woman and ends the conversation after about 15 minutes and goes about his business, a weak man tries to keep her on the phone for as long as he can, thinking that long, drawn-out conversations will get him anywhere.
The strong man doesn’t change the radio station if the girl says that she hates a song, as a matter of fact, he playfully turns it up a notch (Deangelo). The weak man apologizes profusely and changes the station even if he likes the song.
The strong man is not insensitive, rude, mean or self-centered. However, he does have self-respect, and does not idolize any woman.
SO WHAT KIND OF BEHAVIOR TRIGGERS ATTRACTION?
Being the modern, socially evolved equivalent of the dominant one. Leaving her on the edge of her seat wondering whether you like her or not, instead of foolishly professing your undying love. Teasing her to show that you have the sheer confidence to pick at her. Being unpredictable and changing the amounts of attention you give her (almost ignore her one day, hug her the next) Being confident and acting as though you already know for a fact that she likes you. Asking her out in such as way so as to suggest that you already expect her to say yes. Not calling her very often, cutting off all conversations after 15 minutes and ending all interactions first to show her that you have your own life, and don't need to be around her to find fulfillment.
