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Don Juan
I recently moved to a new city and looking to expand my social networks and maybe even find a great woman I created an account on okcupid. However, I made an account as a female to simply scope out the competition in addition to viewing female profiles. I also wanted to see what type of communication traffic a pretty woman with a well written profile could expect on a dating site and the types of messages guys might send. I wrote out a decent profile summary similar to something I might be looking for in a potential woman...along with a few pictures of one of my friends in the past. Scale of 1 to 10 probably a solid 8 and maybe a 9, not the hot type but very cute and pretty. Here are some results & observations:
Over a span of 3 days I recieved 60+ messages and 100+ views
-Over those messages recieved about 15 decent messages (25%) well thought out and specifically mentioned something from my profile. I would say a woman would potentially respond to these...but very selectively after checking your profile.
-Rest were one line sentences or "Hey how was your weekend", "Thought I'd say hello", etc...Attractive woman online probably wouldn't have had the time to open these one liners and probably dismissed or deleted them, unless the small picture by the message looked like it might be a handsome guy.
-By day 3 it was actually pretty overwhelming and message notifications cluttered my personal email inbox and so had to disable the account
-If you use online dating and attempt to contact an attractive and quality woman hopefully this provides some insight and you know what you're up against. Chances of her even reading or contacting you back is very small. She must quickly disqualify guys and will look for any reason to click next, bad pictures, poorly written profile, grammatical errors, education/status, income, etc...nothing personal but it just becomes a chore after some time and the profile was only active for 3 days!
Now I made a real account as myself on match.com and initially didn't post my income. I heard you normally don't want to post it if less than 40k or over 100k for obvious reasons. Anything in the middle range is acceptable and up to PAR in the income category. I asked my female friends what they thought about this and she asked would you ever message a girl that didn't post a picture? Her point was well taken. Men are attracted to looks, while woman do look for some stability/status/money. What are your thoughts on posting an income or maybe even an income in the higher range 100k+ are you just begging to attract the gold diggers? My intent is not to attact short term dates but a genuine and quality woman for a committed relationship eventually leading to marriage.
Over a span of 3 days I recieved 60+ messages and 100+ views
-Over those messages recieved about 15 decent messages (25%) well thought out and specifically mentioned something from my profile. I would say a woman would potentially respond to these...but very selectively after checking your profile.
-Rest were one line sentences or "Hey how was your weekend", "Thought I'd say hello", etc...Attractive woman online probably wouldn't have had the time to open these one liners and probably dismissed or deleted them, unless the small picture by the message looked like it might be a handsome guy.
-By day 3 it was actually pretty overwhelming and message notifications cluttered my personal email inbox and so had to disable the account
-If you use online dating and attempt to contact an attractive and quality woman hopefully this provides some insight and you know what you're up against. Chances of her even reading or contacting you back is very small. She must quickly disqualify guys and will look for any reason to click next, bad pictures, poorly written profile, grammatical errors, education/status, income, etc...nothing personal but it just becomes a chore after some time and the profile was only active for 3 days!
Now I made a real account as myself on match.com and initially didn't post my income. I heard you normally don't want to post it if less than 40k or over 100k for obvious reasons. Anything in the middle range is acceptable and up to PAR in the income category. I asked my female friends what they thought about this and she asked would you ever message a girl that didn't post a picture? Her point was well taken. Men are attracted to looks, while woman do look for some stability/status/money. What are your thoughts on posting an income or maybe even an income in the higher range 100k+ are you just begging to attract the gold diggers? My intent is not to attact short term dates but a genuine and quality woman for a committed relationship eventually leading to marriage.
