Fell in love with my best friends girlfriend

[Feathered Serpent]

My best friend.. I've known him since 5th grade. (We are in mid 20'th now)

They've been together for 5 years.
All this time I liked her. A lot.

Recently found out she loves me too - she told me. Since then we've talked about it and kissed on two occasions (i only see her when i hang out with my friend)

I told her that I can't betray my friend (which I feel has already happened).

Why does life has to be so hard ?

Any advice ?

 

[Sexual]

At this point- here's what I'd want you to do if you were my best friend.

Jump off a cliff and make it look like an accident. That way I won't have to know, you'll punish yourself and rot in Hell for eternity so you're making up for what you did (you'll feel a lot better afterwards), and my girl will come back to me because... well, you're dead.

 

[Feathered Serpent]

I'm thinking about moving someplace else.

I feel like I've lost either of them.

 

[JohnJones]

Originally posted by Trippsta
At this point- here's what I'd want you to do if you were my best friend.

Jump off a cliff and make it look like an accident. That way I won't have to know, you'll punish yourself and rot in Hell for eternity so you're making up for what you did (you'll feel a lot better afterwards), and my girl will come back to me because... well, you're dead.

I think you need to get her to go over the cliff too -- why does he want a g/f who not only cheats but does it with his b/f?

Either just go away or tell her it was a mistake and can't happen again unless she dumps him and he's okay with it. Do you want to be in love with a cheater?

 

[JT47319]

Fycking special flower.

First time reader, first time poster, huh? Get over it. She's gone. She's never coming back and odds are she was never interested in your AFC ass. Get in line with your fellow DJ, WBAFCers.

Tough love buddy. Go to The View forum if you want touchy feely "dating" advice from a bunch of females who'll coddle you with platitudes.

 

[MisterAl]

I am you speaking from the future ten years from now if you decide to pursue this girl any further.

DO NOT spend ANY more time with her!

Biggest goddam mistake of my life. How lucky for you this time machine was here.

It's only kisses now. Walk away now and don't look back. Your buddy will forgive you. Girlfriends don't usually last. Friends from 5th grade do, only if you don't stab them in their backs!

I warned you.

 

[MacDiddy]

The outcome is that you'll lose your best friend. Is it worth it for a chick that you might not last a year with. She did it with you and she'll do it with someone else. Take a look at some of the guys here and you'll see that relationships dun really last that long. Your best friend is your mate. Someone you can depend on for life. You met this chick and gained rapport easily coz you where close to your best friend and she therefore didn't have her normal defenses up. Had you been some other schmuck, she wouldn't have even battered an eyelid (ok that may have been a bit exaggerated).

Best friends are always in a unique position to easily gain rapport with your chick, and therefore be the person that she can turn to when things are not looking good. Thats why I never give my chick a chance to get along real well with my mates. But I expect my mates to respect my property (so to speak) too.

<I just realized I've rehashed what other ppl have said. But the message can't be any louder. Don't do it!!!!>

 

[NewMan]

End it NOW.

Stop pulling this sh#t and going behind you best friends back.

He's your friend for fvck sake - and will still be there for YOU after the Ho leaves him for someone else.

This chick had zero integrity - and will only do the same thing to you eventually.

 

[b's nuts]

bros before hos. you should be slapped, do you like knowing you stabbed one of your boys in the back?

 

[Feathered Serpent]

How did I stab him ?
First time she said she liked me I told her that nothing was possible - becasue she was my best friends girl.

Why is it my fault that she no longer loves him ?
I never made a move on her. Was always carefull trying not to give her any ideas.

 

[JohnJones]

No matter what, there is no technical analysis that is going to save this situation. You kissed her twice (or she kissed you twice) or whatever -- girls play that dopey game where they shift blame because they didn't kiss back or something like that.

He's your good friend. Don't be involved with his girl. If she breaks up with him and he's okay with you two then go for it

 

[Feathered Serpent]

Yes, i had decided from the very start not to get involved with her.

What do I tell her ? I love you but lets remain friends ?

 

[JohnJones]

It's not a romance novel -- tell her she's great (that she cheated on her b/f) and you're great (went behind your friend's back) but that its done and not to bring it up again.

Then go find another girl

 

[NewMan]

Don't put the blame on her - because your more at fault.

You kissed her - you were not forced you did it out of your own free will.

Hello.

Your in love with her?


Give me a break.

that's only becuase you know you can't have her.

6 months down the line you'll be tired of her - and you will have lost a friend in the process.

The trouble with you is, you never even considered you Bro - if so you would have never have kissed her - and you wouldn't be brandishing such things as I love her - we love each other etc.

Tell her that it can never be. That you fvcked up and that you don't want her.

 

[DJ_Dork]

Stop using those generic lines "bros before hos" "friends last forever, girls don't"

friends just like girlfriends do not last forever.

sometimes a girl will hang around a boyfriend because she's got nothing better and if she cheats, there's nothing you can do about it.

don't blame the boy at all.

is it the guy's fault for not being emotionally supporting or the girl's fault for cheating? i'd say 50/50.


featheredserpent should be prepared that the girl might want to make him into a fbuddy!!!

 

[AmgineEX]

Everytime Feather says the word "love," i cringe. You don't "love" her. You're infatuated because she's the girl that you can't touch because he's your best friend's girl, the forbidden fruit if you will.

 

[MR_PERFECT]

I think you guys have been giving him a lot of bad advice. You have to determine if the friendship is really all that valuable to you. If your love for her is stronger than your friendship, then forget the friendship and go after the girl. Friends come and go just like women, you have to determine if your friendship is worth the sacrifice.

 

[AmgineEX]

mr_perfect, you realize that feathered is talking about his BEST BUDDY since 5th grade. He's in his twenties now, so that means that he's been friends with the guy for atleast half of his life. Chicks come and go, it's a well known fact. Guys stick around for a lot longer. I wouldn't even take the chance of pissing off my best bud over a girl, no girl's worth it.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Feathered Serpent
My best friend.. I've known him since 5th grade. (We are in mid 20'th now)

They've been together for 5 years.
All this time I liked her. A lot.

Recently found out she loves me too - she told me. Since then we've talked about it and kissed on two occasions (i only see her when i hang out with my friend)

I told her that I can't betray my friend (which I feel has already happened).

Why does life has to be so hard ?

Any advice ?

That was wrong dude. Avoid being alone with her. When you are in her vicinity in public, be cordial but NO KINO nor any type of talk about her feelings or yours.

Life is only hard when YOU make it that way.

 

[HHloser2]

Since 5th grade? I cant believe your even considering it. Ill burn before i did that.