Feelings Without Sexual Attraction?

[stuartSan]

I feel weird, but I really like this girl. We've known each other for quite some time already. I'm not going to go into the details but it basically is me really emotionally liking her, not in a sisterly sort of way, but no sexual attraction at all.

Is there anyway to get around this? Or does anyone else have the same experience? We both really like each other but me not wanting to bone her is making this really akward for the both of us, and its a real shame to let things go just because of my problem.

I do feel sexually attracted to other women, and I've tried imagining guys to see if I was gay. Fortunately I'm still straight.

 

[Ar7]

Dude what part of msia you from? I ve visited Msia once, bloody loved every moment of being there

And to answer your question, yes I have felt like that before, it was when I went to meet a long time friend of mine in Malaysia. (few years back)

At first I really thought my thoughts for her were so pure. Then one day we were slow dancing and kissing in my hotel room, and suddenly my friend down there said a big cheesy "hello" .

Sometimes when we are too focused on our conscious mind we tend to neglet our subconscious being. Get physical with her, it might just wake up the sleeping desier you have for her.

If you are already physical with her, and it's not happening for you then, perhaps you should seek professional help.

Nevertheless I don't think it is always necessarily to be sexually attracted to somone that interests you.

 

[NMMWCR]

You have a rare and beautiful thing with this girl, stuartSan. Women who have something on the inside that is truly and deeply appealing are extraordinarily rare. Sex with a woman you are that in synch with is a glorioius thing. You have the urge for her, it's just a different kind than you are used to experiencing.

This is one of those situations where kino works in reverse.

Imagine yourself with her tomorrow, warming her up slowly. When she starts stroking you back, you stop her. Tell her you want to just enjoy touching her for awhile. Keep at it until you begin to feel her skin turning warm beneath your fingers. Gaze into her eyes. When you see her start to flush with excitement, you will suddenly uncover your latent desire for her.

 

[BobbDobbs]

It isn't unusual to feel that way about a girl. Sexual feelings will come soon enough and they will be very powerful. Don't worry about it. Nature will take its course.

 

[Bonhomme]

I've experienced this, too

Yeah, a few years ago I met a woman who was obviously crazy for me, but I was not so hot for her on a sexual basis. I enjoyed hanging out with her on account of her personality, but never wanted to get involved because I'd be too likely to let her go if someone came my way who I was more hot for.

So we went along going out as friends. I never topld her a thing about any of my current relationships and dates, and we enjoyed each other's company. She eventually married a cool man, and I'm happy for her. We've kept in touch, and I'm sure I'll continue to socilize with them.

 

[princelydeeds]

I have a chick that I think is one of the most beautiful people that I know, ON the INSIDE. I love her as a person. If I asked her to marry me today she would be the most over joyed woman on earth. The problem lies in the fact, I don't find her attractive in the least. We have pretty good sex, but she isn't an easy one for me to look at. She isnt a total beast but she certainly isn't what Im used to dating. i could never marry her, she will do whatever I say, cook clean, fukk me like a *****, but honestly I keep myself a little distant cause I know I could never be truly attracted to her. Maybe your better than me but im honest with myself. I have to really love looking at someone in order to settle down with them. If im gonna be stuck with someone forever, I gotta at least like looking at them.

 

[stuartSan]

Ar7, I'm from Subang Jaya, Selangor. I assume that you've probably been in the Klang Valley area because most other parts of Malaysia are boring.

Back to the topic, we've known each other long enough, yet nothings happening. We tried all kinds of foreplay, but when its time for penetration, I just don't feel like doing it.

Now we're having some time apart because she's unhappy with this. And I thought chicks used to dig guys who didn't think of getting into their pants all the while.

I still don't know whats wrong and if there's no solution, there'll be no choice but to end the bf/gf relationship with her and just continue as friends. Kinda hurts though.

 

[iqqi]

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