Feeling sick...

[Mental]

Is there any ay to get rid of feeling sick?

A woman I've been somewhat interested in; decides she's dating someone. She tells everyone this, then proceeds to start cuddling and talking baby talk with this guy. Honestly, I was instantly sick to my stomach. I left five minutes later.

But I feel very ill right now. Right now, my stomach is very queasy.

How do I get rid of feeling sick?

The odd thing is, I'm on stage. While I get nervous sometimes, I never get queasy... but I do when I get rejected.

I've asked out a lot of girls in the last 10 years, and have gotten rejected every time, so I would think I'd be used to it, and it wouldn't phase me in the least... but no, I'm still feeling very sick, every time.

I have no way to salvage this day or this night. It's too late to do much of anything. Clubbing isn't my thing. I don't meet many women, and I have a harder time meeting worthwhile women.

So I'm stuck at home, yes, working too, (on a bad day, this is EXTRA fun) feeling like I'm about to barf. I went out to have fun, and ended up an hour later feeling sick to my stomach, alone, stressed out, and in a bad temper.

what's with that?!

And how the hell do I cure this queasy feeling?

 

[Last Man Standing]

your name says it all - it is not your physical that is ailing - it is your mental state - fix it and all else will follow!

 

[willo000]

are you taking "game" too seriously?

hey Mental,

you've got to remember that just because you liked one girl and she was interested in somebody else, that's it not the end of the world. There is always another woman out there that is smarter, more beautiful and more fun that the one you currently want.

Golden rule: always focus on more than one woman.

You said you've asked out plenty of women over the last 10 years and you got rejected every time. Maybe you're following the game to closely and directly trying to "get a woman".

Instead, make your only goal to make friends with women. I know this goes against what a lot of people say but remember taking some sort of action towards your ideal future (being successful with women) is better than doing nothing.

Notice something you don't like about a beautiful woman and you'll get better responses when you approach. You won't look like you're trying to pick them up and that counts!

Forget pickup, forget techniques and remember… socialize just for the heck of it and you'll see an improvement.

 

[Mental]

hey Mental,

you've got to remember that just because you liked one girl and she was interested in somebody else, that's it not the end of the world. There is always another woman out there that is smarter, more beautiful and more fun that the one you currently want.

Golden rule: always focus on more than one woman.

You said you've asked out plenty of women over the last 10 years and you got rejected every time. Maybe you're following the game to closely and directly trying to "get a woman".

Instead, make your only goal to make friends with women. I know this goes against what a lot of people say but remember taking some sort of action towards your ideal future (being successful with women) is better than doing nothing.

Notice something you don't like about a beautiful woman and you'll get better responses when you approach. You won't look like you're trying to pick them up and that counts!

Forget pickup, forget techniques and remember… socialize just for the heck of it and you'll see an improvement.

Actually, my focus HAS been to get to know the woman first, no big date really... but I still get rejected. The rare time I don't get rejected for something, I am still instantly rejected for the boyfriend role. But my style has been for a very long time "get to know you first."

My asking out a lot of women means roughly a hundred in the last 10 years or so, at first, I'd ask them to coffee, but try to make it clear if I was interested in just friendship or that I thought she was cool, and might be interested in a little more. This basically means the times I've asked so called friends to dances, or wanted to hang out as friends, or actually "asking them out for coffee." That's little less than one woman a month for friendship or otherwise.

A lot of women end up creeping me out or I don't want to talk to them because they're shallow, rude, or just angry miserable people, so it's rare (I feel it is) when 1) A woman is single 2) when a woman will spend any time with me. 3) go near me (and I try to look ok). 4) talk to me. I try to start conversations, and I get ignored, or I get nastyness.

I don't always get a crush on a woman if she is nice to me, there are other factors.

I try not to develop feelings for any one woman, but this is difficult if I meet 10 women a month, and 9 of them are a combination of being married or engaged, over the age of 50, druggies, sluts, boozers, or very angry and b*tchy.

If I DO see a woman, find her attractive, and have a great conversation with her, and go home fairly happy, I can then bet that it will probably be 4 months later until I see her again, IF I ever see her again at all, (which is actually quite common)

The few others I'd like to get to know better 1) think I'm creepy, ugly or both 2) I see them 3-4 times a year.

The ones I do spend time with otherwise would never ever consider dating me. I'm never seen as an option. I'm never considered.

See, when a woman thinks I MIGHT be interested, they also run for the hills... even when I'm not interested, they seem to avoid me if they think I might want to dare to see if they want to grab a coffee.