Feeling lost guys...(rant-ish)

[Dan08]

This is probably more for my benefit than any other reason, I want my thoughts out there and if you guys wanna chip in with something feel free.

Been kicking around SS for awhile guys, it's got me through a rough breakup, my first ONS and a better view on life.
However, I've lost it.....I don't have the drive to get into the gym anymore, I don't have the mindset I tried to cultivate about just enjoying ****, I'm struggling really to re-capture what I had since coming to SS.

In part I think it's down to change of scenery. I was at uni when I first found SS and could motivate myself to get out there and do ****, go to the gym, go out and party since it was all new to me but since I've come home from uni for the summer I don't have the same commitment, I'm in the middle of nowhere for starters.
In addition, I worry that all of the previous months were just a means of getting over the ex hence the gym got it out of my system but now I no longer feel the need to go back there as an example....
I know I should be doing it for me, should try to improve but I don't know what to turn my hand to nor feel the motivation to do so right now....

The only positives I can take right now is I have 2-3 jobs part time, I'm going to Spain on Sunday for the week, just invested £1300 into a business venture that I'm looking forward to watching grow and probably the biggest positive to my life through reading SS is that I now don't take bull**** from so called friends and have no qualms with cutting them out.

My life is so routine right now, on the days I'm not working I'll chill, play piano, occasionally meet a mate or sleep in till lunchtime.
This wasn't the guy who'd get up after an all-nighter at uni and hit the gym hard, or go round to friends flats and hang and crack serious banter with uni friends.

I think in part I'm bored and I want to break out of it but I don't know how, I worry I won't get my **** together for uni, I worry when push comes to shove I won't pull, won't approach when out, won't get back into the gym....

I worry it'll be a vicious cycle if I can't sort it out now.

I'm trying to re-read the bible to get some kick outta that but I just don't know guys.

My sig has a workout journal and a no fap journal, as you can see from both neither have been updated in some time.
I didn't update the workout journal because I lack a routine in the gym and feel no desire in getting in there as my diet is not near the calories required to bulk so why bother?

No fap was going well but it fell to **** and now it's 1-2 times a day because I'm bored out of my skull...

Tl:dr - Feeling sorry for myself, lost what drive I had but want to pull my **** together and rediscover it. Help.

 

[Justin Time]

I'm on day 4 of no fap. Got blue balled last night and managed well. Felt the urge today, but fought it...and I do feel quite assertive. I never paid close attention to these feelings when I'd go without doing it for a while but my moods those times make sense now.

It sucks being in a place where not a lot of people are around. I've learnt to cope with it. I get out on the weekends and keep myself occupied with work. If I didn't have a job I'd be playing music big time. Just find something creative/new that jives with your current living situation. Live it up, man!

 

[Sonny Knight]

This is probably more for my benefit than any other reason, I want my thoughts out there and if you guys wanna chip in with something feel free.

Been kicking around SS for awhile guys, it's got me through a rough breakup, my first ONS and a better view on life.
However, I've lost it.....I don't have the drive to get into the gym anymore, I don't have the mindset I tried to cultivate about just enjoying ****, I'm struggling really to re-capture what I had since coming to SS.

In part I think it's down to change of scenery. I was at uni when I first found SS and could motivate myself to get out there and do ****, go to the gym, go out and party since it was all new to me but since I've come home from uni for the summer I don't have the same commitment, I'm in the middle of nowhere for starters.
In addition, I worry that all of the previous months were just a means of getting over the ex hence the gym got it out of my system but now I no longer feel the need to go back there as an example....
I know I should be doing it for me, should try to improve but I don't know what to turn my hand to nor feel the motivation to do so right now....

The only positives I can take right now is I have 2-3 jobs part time, I'm going to Spain on Sunday for the week, just invested £1300 into a business venture that I'm looking forward to watching grow and probably the biggest positive to my life through reading SS is that I now don't take bull**** from so called friends and have no qualms with cutting them out.

My life is so routine right now, on the days I'm not working I'll chill, play piano, occasionally meet a mate or sleep in till lunchtime.
This wasn't the guy who'd get up after an all-nighter at uni and hit the gym hard, or go round to friends flats and hang and crack serious banter with uni friends.

I think in part I'm bored and I want to break out of it but I don't know how, I worry I won't get my **** together for uni, I worry when push comes to shove I won't pull, won't approach when out, won't get back into the gym....

I worry it'll be a vicious cycle if I can't sort it out now.

I'm trying to re-read the bible to get some kick outta that but I just don't know guys.

My sig has a workout journal and a no fap journal, as you can see from both neither have been updated in some time.
I didn't update the workout journal because I lack a routine in the gym and feel no desire in getting in there as my diet is not near the calories required to bulk so why bother?

No fap was going well but it fell to **** and now it's 1-2 times a day because I'm bored out of my skull...

Tl:dr - Feeling sorry for myself, lost what drive I had but want to pull my **** together and rediscover it. Help.

Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It is a very mean and nasty place and it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't how hard you're hit; it's about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward. How much you can take, and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done. Now, if you know what you're worth, then go out and get what you're worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hit, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you are because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain't you. You're better than that!

 

[Dan08]

That didn't help one iota...

 

[TheFapPrince]

That didn't help one iota...

Well then go fvck yourself. That will help ya

 

[Dan08]

Nice mate, appreciate it. I'll be sure to be the first to offer any help should you require it here on SS.

 

[Purefilth]

You need to find something to focus on. Hobby / gym / Studies.

You need a goal. What do you want out of life? Figure that out, then figure a plan on how to achieve that goal break it into tiny steps if you have to.

Then carry out the plan. As you start to achieve little things the big things seem much more feasible.

And eventually Youll realise that all those negatives are NOTHING.
They dont really affect you. Not unless you let them.

 

[VikingKing]

Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It is a very mean and nasty place and it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't how hard you're hit; it's about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward. How much you can take, and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done. Now, if you know what you're worth, then go out and get what you're worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hit, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you are because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain't you. You're better than that!

great post.