Feeling Bloated and unattractive

[ManOMan]

Do you DJ's ever feel this?

I know its a feminine trait to obsess about looks and physique.

I am fairly good looking and workout and have a nice physique.

I was raised in a family that valued beauty and good looks.

But unfortunately, I never got past my "ugly duckling" phase (teased alot as a kid/teen by family , friends, girls )

I was a pizza face.

Im 27 years old now, and whenever I see a HB, I automatically think Im too ugly to approach her. or she will think "why is this ugly guy bothering me??"

its an automatic thought , and I cant seem to stop it no matter how hard I try.

This issue has bothered me for a long time. I always look at photo's of my self and look for flaws.

How can I over come this??

 

[white_hype]

post a pic of your face and i can give you tips


or just say what you think is wrong with your face and we'll tell you what we think about it

but ive seen plenty of ugly dudes dating HB's, so do not let your apperance be an excuse for you not talking to girls

also hit the gym hard and make your body look its best, everyone can do that no matter what your genes are

 

[WaterTiger]

Stop shooting yourself in the foot!

White Hype is right. I too have seen some beautiful women with some FUGGLY men! Stop worrying over your looks! Women don't gage looks quite as highly as guys do. If you blow her away with your confidence and sparking wit...you're getting laid. Meanwhile the gorgeous guy with the crappy attitude and tacky pick-up lines goes home alone.

There was a happy ending to that Ugly Duckling story you know. Some body smacked him in the head and said: "HEY! You are freaking beautiful!"
Consider yourself smacked!

 

[kyokon]

Have you got laid lately?? I was in similar frame of mind not so long ago and although i consciously thought that

I am fairly good looking and workout and have a nice physique.

somehow it was not in my subconscious. I submit that getting to homebase with a girl will kill those doubts and put the above thought in place of them for good. (kinda catch22 though aint it, to get there you needa be confident etc) but don't sweat it, if you look in the mirror and like what you see then so do most girls I reckon.

 

[Ser_i]

here's a secret of mine, I'm 1 meter 74 I weigh 78 kilo's (all muscle ) and I'm having those early signs of baldness, and to add to this I have to realy pay attention at my facial hair.


but the signal I give to women is,

I'm a matured guy, I know what I want, I can f*ck them silly, I can get their best girlfriend if they disrespect me, I can make their world if they are more then simply nice to me.


work on yourself, get new clothes, look for health products, It will boost your moral and increase your charm... you still have the fear of not being good enough for a woman, wrong attitude, are they good enough for you ? they can't be tooo good for you after all YOU are the price

 

[Austin Allegro]

Just look around you at the gorgeous women and who they go out with. Most of the men are only averagely good looking and some are downright ugly - not 'model' types.

But what they do tend to have is confidence. In my experience women will not notice, or worry too much about, men who are short, balding, etc etc as long as they have a certain 'presence'.

Don't compare yourself with men in magazines - I have even heard some women say that a lot of model types are 'pretty boys' - they tend to go for more rugged types.

 

[CLOONEY]

yep somedays I feel like I am not good enough, and then I look in the mirror and say Holy fukc, who is he.................hehehe. No really some days I feel bad about myself, but u just gotta keep going and wait until the good days, and they do come, the times when u feel on top of the world. It is only human nature, everyone feels insecure sometimes, EVERYONE, no matter what u look like. SO dont worry, just keep on going and slowly but surely make your life better.

Take it easy