Fastest way to a relationship?

[Hank Moodie]

Hows it goin boys

All my life ive had plenty of sexual experiences with women growing up but Ive never had much relationship experience. For some reason extended dating wasnt my thing and I didnt really know how to go about it, which sounds fuked to be honest. Hence, Ive decided to get close to a few bitcches and hopefully later on get more than one relationship going on at the same time.

Ive been missing out on this shyt for 19 years so I would appreciate it if you could kinda guide me through what I need to do to get to the BF/GF point.

Just a little about me: I currently live in residence at a bigasss party university and Ive got decent game.


"You can't snort a line of coke off a woman’s a** and not wonder about her hopes and dreams, it's not gentlemanly" - Hank Moody

 

[ELITE]

You sound needy, dont expect things, just let it come too you. Relationships can be fun. Just be carefull with who. No fb girls,are dramma queens, look for girls that me your standard who will be relationship type...

 

[mikeyb]

Quoting another SS member: "Relationships are expenses, not investments". Don't be so desperate to get into one, it's not all sex and cuddles.

 

[Hank Moodie]

I like the "Relationship are expenses" quote but dont get me wrong. Needy has nothing to do with it, Im not desperate for a relationship its just Ive never had a serious one so I want to try it out nawmean?

 

[808]

I know what you mean..But relationships aren't all they're cracked up to be. Once you're in one (provided the woman initiates the exclusivity), it means you can no longer actively spin plates, whatever...

My advice is to not even actively look for a relationship. Keep spinning plates, do what you normally do, etc. Let this stuff come naturally. If a woman is interested, she will be the one to bring up exclusivity. If no woman does bring this up, learn what you're doing wrong and keep moving. Never get hung up on any one woman; never let them dominate your life.

 

[schttrj]

I can understand where you are coming from.

The rule is...

Never ask for a relationship yourself.

Let it happen AUTOMATICALLY!

Having said that. You must understand that there are certain rules to be maintained to get into a relationship.

1. Honesty

2. Deep Rapport

3. Real Connection

4. Emotional Maturity

5. Sexual Chemistry

...and such.

To end with, I must say, getting into a relationship is HARD but nevertheless, extremely satisfying...if you know what I mean.

 

[Diaforetikos]

Just because he asked a question about something he is interested in, why do we always feel that we need to voice our opinion about his question? Lets answer it first, then explain why we feel the way we do about his question.

First off, schttrj pretty much hit the mark on this one. It takes more effort and time. You can get a relationship doing the same thing as you would do getting a ONS. But you need more rapport and comfort. She has to trust you before you get into a relationship.

You never initiate the idea of the relationship. Let her do it. The one who cares the least in the relationship holds the most power. Telling her you want one shows that your easy, aka not a challenge.

Do what you know, meaning, find a girl you want, but make sure she is the one you actually want. If she irritates you, drop her asap. If she is constantly angry, drop her. You need to be able to constantly go back to this girl without dreading anything.




Now here is why people say don't jump into a relationship...

Its work. You can't slack or half a** it. You constantly have to game her, always reminding her why she is attracted to you.

You have to watch out for laziness. Relationships breed comfort, which isn't always good.

There is a huge chance that you'll get hurt. You have to invest yourself into the person in order to gain their trust. If they leave you, your hurt. Its just how life works.

You miss out on life experiences. You can't meet new women as often as your use to, especially with the history you've stated prior, you gotta drop your old lifestyle to gain her trust.

You gotta sacrifice things. Relationships are about giving. If you got something you don't think you can drop for the girl, don't get in a relationship.




Relationships aren't for everyone. Its your choice in the end. Best way to learn is experience, so hoped this helped your decision.

 

[handle]

Let it happen if you want to try it... You say you have decent game and you're partying it up in college. I'm sure one of the girls you hook up with could become a relationship. Just don't push too hard for it -- hook up a lot, then start hanging out a bit and see if a relationship seems like a good idea.