Falling in love - Old ex came back into the scene!

[Trance]

So 5 years ago i had a girlfriend during a year. I loved that year, we had terrific times together, never had discussions, and we really enjoyed eachother and our time together. Then we broke up, and a couple of months latter she started a relation with a guy she liked a lot before me. It lasted like 4 years.
Meanwhile i had a 3 year LTR, and broke up 10 months ago.

All this time i saw her like from 2 months in 2 months, altough she was in my college. And in the first year of my 3 year LTR i still liked this girl cause i loved her so much.

The other day i met her in the train, and i ask about her stuff, and she tells me she broke up 6 months ago.. Suddenly i felt a click. Can we be together again? This girl is so great, i'd kill for her, its the kind of girl any guy wants to marry.

Today i went for a cofee with her, i enjoy a lot being with her. I dont know if its possible she can start to have feelings for me again. She is hard to start a relationship, she really has to like someone.

What are the chances of it to happen again 4 years latter? I'm inexperient in the matters of coming back together with an old ex, feedback would be most welcome, specially if someone has similar experiences.

 

[Trance]

it would give some insight if someone would post a similar experience..

 

[NewMan]

Why did you guys originally break up?

I would say that you should just focus on the present - focus on your DJ'ing like you would any other woman.

Again the story goes - Keep active - keep dating other women and you will be fine.

 

[KillingTime]

What's the point of hearing everyones stories? Those outcomes have nothing to do with you (or anyone else who makes a post like this).

Step 1 in my opinion is to calm yourself down a bit, "id kill for her".... if your really that crazy about her, you get in a relationship with her and you will most likely turn completely AFC before you know it. It's hard to play all the right moves and be a challenge when you are completely obsessed over a girl, so get your act together.

After you've done that, stop questioning everything and just go for it.
"i dont know if its possible she can start to have feelings for me again"
^ Honestly, how are WE supposed to know either? Just put your moves on her and you tell US how it went down.

"she really has to like someone"
^ well put all your moves to practice and make her like you! Just remember it's a 50/50 chance.

My Point: Sitting here listening to other peoples situations will do nothing for yours right now except waste time (in which someone else can come in and steal this girl!), just go and do it.

 

[Trance]

Nah, of course i would NEVER be afc again lol i learned a lot from relationships in my 1 year one and the 3 year one. After that the DJ phase also teached me a lot about women. If i'd enter a relationship with this girl, i't would be very mature from both of us, im sure of it. She already graduated, and i'm graduating this year, we both had our experiences, and now both of us know how to handle relations in the best way to make the best of it.


I broke up with with her because i wanted some space, wanted to know if i really liked her or not, if i'd be better with other chick (since she was my 1st serious girlfriend). So we did, and i dated a couple of chicks during 1 month or 2, and then i realized how much i liked this girl. I asked her back, but she didnt want. And she didnt want because she had a crush on other guy before we started to date, and was like wondering how would things be with him (she only had a 2 month relation before me if you consider that serious).


Of course i'll keep dating other chicks till i know if i can get her or not. But if i can, i'd be more than happy only with her.


Its weird that i see the positive vibes coming from chicks that i barelly know, and from this one i know so well its much harder to understand if there is interest of not, altough we only went 2 times for a cofee since i knew she was available.
I think i should keep it cool, and dont show clear interest in her for now, just make enjoy my company, make her want my company and then make a move.

 

[Trance]

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