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[luber873]

Drunk with colleagues last night and my GF sees one of her friends from another area. She immediately walks over to his table and he puts his hand on her back, arm, etc.

Later she's sitting in front of me talking with me and her gf when he comes over again. She introduces me to him (without mentioning I'm her bf) and again he's touching her. Her gf even looked at me with a WTF is going on look on her face. She then walked with him back to his table with his other friends.

Is this a test?

 

[Mike32ct]

That's no test. That's a red flag. I'm not sure what else to say.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Total red flag and completely inexcusable.

How long have you two been together? She needs to be straightened out, and that's your job. Become scarce. Back way off. When she figures out something is wrong and asks you about it, tell her you are very disappointed in her. Bring it up briefly, and with no emotion. Tell her you expect better from a person who is to be considered your girlfriend. Tell her she had crossed your boundaries and it raises a grave concern to you. Chicks understand the whole "boundary" thing.

If she reacts badly, it's time to move on as she is not gf material. If she expresses sorrow, make sure she verbalizes why behavior like that is wrong. If you continue with her, watch her carefully. One transgression and she should be kicked to the curb.

It's very important for a man to orchestrate his relationship (in the early phases) so that she lives in constant fear of losing you. This is the natural order. If you don't do this, you will be the one experiencing that fear.

 

[luber873]

How long have you two been together?

Dated earlier this year, had a huge fight when she ditched me one night and sorta did the same thing. Despite ditching me she came to the same bar I was at and mid-conversation with me about our fight sees a guy friend and runs over and hugs him.

Got back together after a few months off. Been dating for about 2 months. She brought up the "what are we" a month ago and she brought up the "exclusivity" talk 2 weeks ago.

We've only had that fight earlier this year and every other time we hangout has been great.

We talked about 15 minutes after this happened and she re-iterated she only wants me and likes me. We were still drunk. I just played it cool and said I wasn't mad. Would it be wise to bring this up now or would it cause damage?

 

[The Duke]

Biatches are famous for saying all sorts of things. When it gets all confusing and you can't make heads or tails of all their noise then judge her only by her actions.


I'd keep a close eye on her.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Women only act stupid, blunt and disrespectful when they believe there won't be a negative outcome. She is getting very COMFORTABLE and pushing the limits as a result (out of boredom and curiosity).

Remember the question that EVERY woman asks herself in a relationship --> How far can I push this beta before he snaps? Hmmm... I wonder.

Remember the most important rules of being a DJ (according to me):

1. Always care LESS than the girl.

2. Always be a bigger a*shole than the girl.

The minute a woman suspects she is better than you, stronger than you, more attractive than you, etc... she'll start mistreating you.

 

[Iceberg]

Got back together after a few months off. Been dating for about 2 months. She brought up the "what are we" a month ago and she brought up the "exclusivity" talk 2 weeks ago.

Well, those conversations don't mean anything. So I wouldn't necessarily take that as a contract. She's saying the words of someone who values your time and commitment and her actions are proving otherwise.

I woman who valued your "exclusivity" wouldn't put you in such an uncomfortable position. And don't think for a moment that she's not aware of what was happening.

We talked about 15 minutes after this happened and she re-iterated she only wants me and likes me.

More words. This girl's ACTIONS say that while she might like you, she also likes the attention of other random guys as well.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

I'll put it to you simple: No girl who cares about you, or who cares about holding onto you, would do what she did. A girl who likes you is too worried about doing things to lose you to pull something like this. She's doing these things because, subconsciously, she wants out.

That's the simple answer. I have yet to date a girl who liked me so much that she just had to flirt with other guys - it's counter-productive. But you already know this in your gut - heck, you know this based on your previous experience with her. So suck it up, dump her, and find another girl who won't do things like this. Hope this helps!