Hey guys,
Michael Jordan has missed thousands upon thousands of basketball shots...
Getting rejected or a bad reaction is not really a big deal. It's how you react after the rejection (and if you let it emotionally affect you) that matters more
(You can learn as much from failure as you can from success)
Try going out with a super happy positive attitude...like you're a kid in a candy store...and try approaching like 10 girls. This will pump up your state drastically.
At the same time go in with the attitude that you don't give a damn, and are just out to have a good time no matter what happens.
Do this with the mindset that your are out to have a good time and as a LEARNING EXPERIENCE.... You'll learn so much more from doing this sort of excercise than sitting at home reading about 'game'
Even if an interaction goes 'bad' just continue pressing on...
A lot of times an interaction that you initially think is 'bad' actually turns out good.
Remember that women will often put on a negative front when you first approach them, especially in a club. This is usually a test to see what your intentions are or if you'll tuck your tail between your legs and run away. She also, often doesn't want to appear 'easy' to you or anyone else watching.
How you react to her is often what makes or breaks an interaction. No matter how she reacts remain confident and positive.
Be completely unaffected by the outcome.
If the interaction still isn't going so well, keep your head up, smile and move on. (whatever happened remember that you got to practice and probably learned something)
If you're a guy who's generally shy you probably have a pretty pessimistic attitude and are not even aware of this.
Deny the negative chatter box in your head from affecting your emotions and mood. You have to counter and shut off any negative thoughts and keep on trekking!
Learn from the experience. How did your state/ positive attitude affect the interaction? What did you learn about staying engaged in the conversation and persistence?
Even I have nights where I'm rejected countless times but still end up having a good time. Maybe I'll meet some interesting characters, or just chill and have some good conversations.
A couple week ago I had such a 'bad' night, probably because I was in a negative state already. My anxiety felt like it was creeping back and I was letting it get the most of me. I kept trying to pump up my state and had a lot of bad reactions from girls.
Anyways at the end of the night I ended up meeting a girl who I'm currently seeing.
What does this prove?
That persistence pays off especially in this game.
If I had let my mood get the most of me I would have given up, but I kept trying to have a good time and finally connected with someone...
Make every interaction a learning experience... good luck
:cheer:
~Will
Michael Jordan has missed thousands upon thousands of basketball shots...
Getting rejected or a bad reaction is not really a big deal. It's how you react after the rejection (and if you let it emotionally affect you) that matters more
(You can learn as much from failure as you can from success)
Try going out with a super happy positive attitude...like you're a kid in a candy store...and try approaching like 10 girls. This will pump up your state drastically.
At the same time go in with the attitude that you don't give a damn, and are just out to have a good time no matter what happens.
Do this with the mindset that your are out to have a good time and as a LEARNING EXPERIENCE.... You'll learn so much more from doing this sort of excercise than sitting at home reading about 'game'
Even if an interaction goes 'bad' just continue pressing on...
A lot of times an interaction that you initially think is 'bad' actually turns out good.
Remember that women will often put on a negative front when you first approach them, especially in a club. This is usually a test to see what your intentions are or if you'll tuck your tail between your legs and run away. She also, often doesn't want to appear 'easy' to you or anyone else watching.
How you react to her is often what makes or breaks an interaction. No matter how she reacts remain confident and positive.
Be completely unaffected by the outcome.
If the interaction still isn't going so well, keep your head up, smile and move on. (whatever happened remember that you got to practice and probably learned something)
If you're a guy who's generally shy you probably have a pretty pessimistic attitude and are not even aware of this.
Deny the negative chatter box in your head from affecting your emotions and mood. You have to counter and shut off any negative thoughts and keep on trekking!
Learn from the experience. How did your state/ positive attitude affect the interaction? What did you learn about staying engaged in the conversation and persistence?
Even I have nights where I'm rejected countless times but still end up having a good time. Maybe I'll meet some interesting characters, or just chill and have some good conversations.
A couple week ago I had such a 'bad' night, probably because I was in a negative state already. My anxiety felt like it was creeping back and I was letting it get the most of me. I kept trying to pump up my state and had a lot of bad reactions from girls.
Anyways at the end of the night I ended up meeting a girl who I'm currently seeing.
What does this prove?
That persistence pays off especially in this game.
If I had let my mood get the most of me I would have given up, but I kept trying to have a good time and finally connected with someone...
Make every interaction a learning experience... good luck
:cheer:
~Will
