So was supposed to meet up with this girl tonight for a couple of drinks. She had some stuff to do earlier in the night so she told me she'd text me when she's done and is ready to go out. And so far I've yet to hear from her (so I assume she's just blowing me off). Wish I didn't waste my night on some b*tch. I'm honestly just blowing off some steam.
F*ck I hate being blown off
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imarockstar
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dont worry about it dude. shes not worth your time or your time wasted thinking about her. try to adapt the mindset of "fvck it shes missing out on spending time with me" rather than "man why doesnt she want to see me". its tough but you gotta get this positive mindset going. i was reading some Pook a few weeks ago and the post was about patience, its in the bible. there were some times weeks ago when i felt like everyone around me was getting laid that night. the girls from work were going home to their bfs, the slvt at work was banging some random dude, and even though i know i was the man and it should be me, i quickly thought about patience.
2 weeks later this girl i met at a party texts me asking to hang out. just be patient man, keep improving yourself and dont let these women affect your emotions. as long as your a man with s*it going for you, theres a hott chick that will want to be around you. dont beat yourself up, ive been blown off plenty, most of these girls are attention wh*res tho.
also, think of it this way. as of late, ive been seeing this girl. im not the player type, i go for relationships, no disrespect to the playas but its just not how i operate. but since i have this girl ive been giving attention to, the attention wh*res want it back. they hit me up every once in a while, and usually i dont text them back, because im already interested in someone else. these girls who are blowing you off may have plenty of men at their disposal, or someone they are currently seeing. the point is, some of the girls that hit me up are potential. i would talk to them if i wasnt already involved. the same goes for the girl that blew you off. you could be potential to her if her current situation doesnt work out, as long as you dont fvck it up by getting mad at her. whatever you do dont contact this girl again unless she contacts you or if you see her out and about. if a girl texted me over and over again it would piss me off and look desperate, same deal goes for us guys.
trust me, if she wants to hang out with you, she will make it happen or contact you apologizing later. she may be seeing someone. she may be testing you. she may just not be interested.
dont stress dude, just do what u do. at least your taking initiative by asking these girls out, more than what a lot of guys are currently doing. dont give up bro
2 weeks later this girl i met at a party texts me asking to hang out. just be patient man, keep improving yourself and dont let these women affect your emotions. as long as your a man with s*it going for you, theres a hott chick that will want to be around you. dont beat yourself up, ive been blown off plenty, most of these girls are attention wh*res tho.
also, think of it this way. as of late, ive been seeing this girl. im not the player type, i go for relationships, no disrespect to the playas but its just not how i operate. but since i have this girl ive been giving attention to, the attention wh*res want it back. they hit me up every once in a while, and usually i dont text them back, because im already interested in someone else. these girls who are blowing you off may have plenty of men at their disposal, or someone they are currently seeing. the point is, some of the girls that hit me up are potential. i would talk to them if i wasnt already involved. the same goes for the girl that blew you off. you could be potential to her if her current situation doesnt work out, as long as you dont fvck it up by getting mad at her. whatever you do dont contact this girl again unless she contacts you or if you see her out and about. if a girl texted me over and over again it would piss me off and look desperate, same deal goes for us guys.
trust me, if she wants to hang out with you, she will make it happen or contact you apologizing later. she may be seeing someone. she may be testing you. she may just not be interested.
dont stress dude, just do what u do. at least your taking initiative by asking these girls out, more than what a lot of guys are currently doing. dont give up bro
The Mad Ghost
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Why couldn't you hang out with those people and then if she happend to text or call, tell them you had to be somewhere else? or stopped studying in the same scenario, I fail to see why you'd be so p!ssed about it, what happend to the other plates you where spinning?
PRMoon
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If you ever have signs of being blown off you should just make the best of a bad situation and socialize with those around you. Often times when I'm meeting someone for drinks and I show up first, I'll strike up conversation with the people closest to me at the bar, or the bartender/****tail waitress, regardless. Opportunities to expand your social network exist at every turn an should be followed up as such. Besides talking to everyone is fun and a great way to kill time. Often times you'll be pleasantly surprised by the outcome when you're expecting nothing anyway.
I feel your pain brother. Have you gone back to analyze your history of interactions with this girl to see what you might have done wrong/could have done differently?Scion said:
What I started doing is following the George Costanza method of doing "the opposite" (search for it on youtube). Basically it's doing the opposite of what you did that hasn't worked for you. You should try it.
So later tonight I go on msn and I see the girl who blew me off was on. She shoots me a message saying sorry but her thing with her friend went too long. Yeah sure, I bet her "friend" is some dude, and the "thing" was f*cking. B*tch can't even come up with a suitable excuse, especially when there's things like cell phones that could be used to call or text someone instead of blowing them off. C*nt.
DonGorgon
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Scion said:
She is doing something i like to call the "Crazy dude test"... she is flaking on purpose to see if you over react and act hostile at all.. women do this alot these days cause the over population of males have cause increase desperation and frustration in many men which cause them to act hostile and violent with women so women play BS games to see if you will snap easily..
When a ho does this you need to become very neutral and just say "ok kool we can kikit some other time" do not try to indicate when the exact next time will be .. you must act like it does not matter to you if or when it happens...
Yup its ****ed up games but we have to play them if we want sex
Forty0ztoFreedom
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That seems like BS to me. A girl flakes, gives a sh*tty excuse, and you're just supposed to take it as a test and continue on? I could agree with not letting it get to you and just saying "No worries" or something . . but to continue on with that girl? Really?
jophil28
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MY guess is that she had no intention of meeting you, and she invented that lame excuse about having to do some stuff. This allows her not to meet you and to concoct an explanation for the next day when you call her ," Oh , I got all caught up in .. blah blah..and I just couldn't get away.. more blah blah..."Scion said:
Women are weaklings when it comes to refusing date invitations. They find ways to exit through the side door as quietly as possible to avoid any personal discomfort. OF course they think nothing of lying their way out of an invitation from a guy, BUT would never do the same to a girlfriend or a female coworker. Unfortunately most women do not regard men as worthy of common courtesy and basic social good manners.
The best way to deal with a flake is with total silence. Do not call her tonight or EVER. If she wanted to be with you she would have at least called you while she was taking care of stuff and explained her lateness. . Everyone has a cell don't they ?
IF she calls you the next day, listen for a genuine explanation for her rudeness, and it better be up there with a medical emergency.
Then she owes you a good sounding counter offer.
Anything less deserves a "bye bye" and a red line through her name.
I agree with the above post. If a girl blows you off, blow HER off right back. I'd say the best way to deal with their stupid tests is to show you just don't care, period. If you don't get back with her I'd think it would send a clear message that you have better things to do than deal with her bull****.
I was supposed to be meeting up with a girl from POF tomorrow and the last conversation we had was over Yahoo messenger on Tuesday night. She was rambling on about some stalker from POF and at one point said "Hold on a sec, my dad is on the phone." and that was the last I heard from her. I'm not going to bother sending a text today or tomorrow asking if the date is still on. If she wants to blow me off, she can go to hell because I'm not wasting another second on her.
I was supposed to be meeting up with a girl from POF tomorrow and the last conversation we had was over Yahoo messenger on Tuesday night. She was rambling on about some stalker from POF and at one point said "Hold on a sec, my dad is on the phone." and that was the last I heard from her. I'm not going to bother sending a text today or tomorrow asking if the date is still on. If she wants to blow me off, she can go to hell because I'm not wasting another second on her.
I've already deleted her number. I do have her on msn, will probably leave her on there and just ignore her. It does suck having no options because you have to make an effort to not be desperate and contact lost causes (I'm not sure if I explained that right, but u know what I mean?).
Forty0ztoFreedom
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You do have options. Tomorrow is FRIDAY.
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Scion said:
I've had this happen with someone whom I was already boning, had been boning for over 5 years, and even had been in a "serious relationship" with at some point.
What it came down to in my situation, and could be happening in yours, is that I was too eager and too available.
I was basically in a position where she knew she was the center of my universe (I had no real hobbies, not many friends, no school, or anything else of relevance going on) and she could have me at her beck and call.
I have since learned my lesson, and will do my damnedest to keep myself from doing that sh*t again. Perhaps you should consider the same.
WTF do you have her on msn? So you like having women you are romantically interested in knowing when you are at home doing nothing playing on your computer, and removing even more sense of mystery from you? Do you like increasing your availability for them even more rather than doing the opposite which is what creates attraction in a woman?Scion said:
I remember when I was still stupid in the game I used to get their IM, facebook, myspace and I was silly enough to believe i was scoring points every time I got them as a friend on any of those. It was only until I became smarter and started watching guys that actually are good with women that I started learning. You think PUA's want girls to know what they are doing at any given time? Of course not. Even if you are a loser that spends all day on the computer as long as you don't let girls you are interested in see that it's fine. It's about letting them imagine what you might be doing rather than seeing it. Ask yourself would James Bond be asking hotties for their msn so he could chat them up? Of course not!
I ended up deleting all my accounts and making new ones in secret just to keep family and close friends there. If a girl i'm interested in asks me if I have any I tell them I do but I only use it for family. Watch their reaction closely as that answer will impress them as it shows you have some standards for yourself rather than lying which she knows you could but you chose not to because you have balls.
Im, facebook, myspace ARE FOR YOUR FRIENDS! Not women you are romantically interested in. Get that through your head and stop decreasing your aura of mystery and increasing your availability at the same time. Women should only be able to reach you by phone or in person, THAT'S IT!
Lol, I have a messaging app on my iPhone (eBuddy). I have to be not using the app for 2 hours before it automatically logs me out (I rarely manually log out). So even if I'm not using it there's a chance I checked it in the last 2 hours. The only reason I have her on msn is because when I met her her phone was broken so she gave me her email instead. I then got her number the first time I talk to her on msn. I don't have any other girls I'm romantically interested in on msn (except for a couple of attention *****s I met online). And I have 1 girl that added me on facebook after she opened me. But I think she's a attention ***** too, for one she has like a dozen guys on facebook leaving messages like "Hey hottie", "When we grabbing a drink sexy", etc. So don't know what's her deal, she seems to have enough orbiters, why open me and track me down on facebook.f283000 said:
And Espi, the problem's not girls saying no, the problem is girls saying yes and then flaking/blowing me off. The whole yes = no thing annoys me.
WORKEROUTER
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Scion said:
Scion I feel your frusteration! But don't despair! And no more whining on a forum like a wussy boy!
THE SOLUTION: You need MORE WOMEN TO CALL. For instance, I was once like you, being blown off etc, and then having to be all pissy about it. BUT NO MORE. Take tonight..I have a date scheduled with a hot latina chick (who's also a total f*cking flake...but who cares I never call her anyway!)...and then this other cutie...for ONE of the girls, I leave it ambiguous whether we're hanging out or not which means that if one cancels BINGO I just hit up the other one! In the rare case that BOTH of them flake...then that's what the BARS ARE FOR! F8CK it's TH. night anyway there's tons of hot p*ssy out there tonight!! Go get a piece of the action
Now if you DON"T CURRENTLY have the women, then when a girl blows you off again, you need to hit up the bars or the clubs and pick up some girls! Noone to go with? WHO CARES! Go alone!
In all honesty brah, and not to hijack the thread, but what the hell do you DO at a bar by yourself? Especially if money is tight and you can't afford to pay the ridiculous prices a bar charges for a friggin' beer? What do you do to not come across as a "creeper" or loser?WORKEROUTER said:
Just curious.
