Eye Contact

[EveryGurlsWish22]

How important is eye contact when you first meet a girl? I have tried several cold pick-ups and I didn't get any eye contact. Is that why they were unsuccessful?

 

[Viking25]

yes

 

[Cheiradawg]

It might not be a great idea to do cold pickups without getting eye contact first. Eye contact is your invitation to go and talk to her. If you go in without ec then, you are going in uninvited. Personally I NEVER go for a PU without ec first.

Make sure you have ec before you try anything. Then once you make ec DO NOT LOOK AWAY FIRST. When you talk to them, make sure they know why you are there, drop some C&F when possible, keep it short and sweet and don't wuss out b4 a close.

GL MAN

 

[MindOverMatter]

I always initiate approaches without getting an eyecontact first. Eyecontact is an extrovert characteristic in my opinion, and an introvert girl will not show it unless she is really comfortable. That doesn't mean the girl isn't interested or not capable of a potential lay/relationship, it just means you have to do more work.

If she's shy, and nervous, it prolly means that she's not used to being approached by guys and doesn't know how to react properly. What you have to do, is make her feel comfortable. Have a good laid-back conversation, throw in some light humor, and get her to open up. Just make her feel comfortable, and then do a number close.

 

[Player_Supreme]

I am like a master vampire. I don't approach unless I'm invited in. And this happens through eye contact. If a woman is digging you she is going to look at you.

 

[Ebach]

Eye contact is so important that I can basically kill a girl with my eyes. I can drop them on the bed and start undressing them with my eyes.

 

[mahon83050]

I personally do not do Cold approaches either. If a group of hot chicks are at a bar and I do not see them looking my way ( I would not approach). Most girls will send out signals that they want you to approach them (eye contact, a girl walking by you several times also.) If a chick in a non-customer service area smiles at you that is definitely a green light.

However, as MindoverMatter stated earlier, some girls may be nervous or uncomfortable giving signals. In example, my cousin ( a chick) had her friend over her house this past Christmas. I was introduced to her and everytime I walked into the room she did not even glance at me and did not seem friendly. My thoughts were this chick maybe has a b/f, or thinks I am ugly. Two weeks later I get a card from my cousin telling me that her friend thought I was gorgeous. I was totally taken by surprise due to her previous behavior.

 

[static]

I have encountered girls who didn't make EC, but still demonstrated interest after I approached. I would end up getting their numbers. I remember one girl who blantently avoided EC, but after I talked to her she was asking me to go out with her to places. I think it has to do with their perception of your power and a lack of confidence on their part. Haven't you ever avoided EC with girls you perceive to be better than you?

However, there are girls who look away or avoid EC because they don't want you to approach.