Extremely wierd situation, need input

[Viper423]

Ok, so me and this girl have known each other for 4 years and have just now started doing things together. We have both said that we like each other, so that's not the problem. We kissed, made out, and messed around (fingered her) all for the first time after homecoming this past saturday. The problem is that she doesn't want anyone to know what's going on between us. We both go to a small private school and pretty much everyone knows that I like her, they just don't know that she likes me just as much. Her problem is that she doesn't want anyone to know what's going on because she doesn't want people to start talking about us. So while we are at school, we both put on a good show and "act" like nothing is going on, but when we leave school, we go out and mess around. She said that when we get out of high school she wants to pursue a relationship with me, but right now she doesn't need the drama from people at school. I mean, I'm perfectly fine with messing around and stuff away from school, it just bugs me that she doesn't want anyone to know she likes me too, and doesn't want anyone to know anything about us. Is this normal? I mean, should I be worried? Because outside of school she acts totally different towards me. There's even a long streak of her calling me the past 12 nights in a row.

 

[M2k961]

Hi,

In my opinion, she's doing the right thing. Who needs to put up with everyone's crap? Just do what you said, mess around outside of school. You're lucky you were able to get her after 4 years

If I was able to stand some of the superficial idiots in my grade, and started a relationship with one, I'd say to her the same thing this girl is telling you.

But when you get down to it, who cares? You still have your fun, without the "drama" in school.

M2k

 

[Viper423]

Ok, but the thing is that I like her a little more then just someone to mess around with. Don't get me wrong, I like it, but I like her a lot more then that and really want a relationship with her, but she isn't budging. I dont see the problem, we both like each other.

 

[Serialized3]

Think about why she wouldn't want anyone to know whats going on between you two. Does she want other guys to think shes available? Sounds really shady to me man, just appreciate it and don't take her "we can have a relationship after highschool" idea too seriously. Girls that age don't know what they want to do in the next WEEK, let alone after high school.

 

[Vincent]

K I sumarized points i want to discuss

Originally posted by Viper423
The problem is that she doesn't want anyone to know what's going on between us. Her problem is that she doesn't want anyone to know what's going on because she doesn't want people to start talking about us.

So basically she is embarresed to be seen around you? What you disagree? well think about it, why would she care if she really liked you. It sounds like she is just using you

I mean, I'm perfectly fine with messing around and stuff away from school, it just bugs me that she doesn't want anyone to know she likes me too, and doesn't want anyone to know anything about us.

Continuation from above, she if just using you in one way or another. She's full of crap when she says she doesn't want the attention. Chicks LOVE attention like non other.

Is this normal? I mean, should I be worried?[/B]

No its not normal. Chicks love attention as i said above, and the move the better. You may need to be worried. But you need to get some F*cking Balls and go up to her and say "Hey I'm not totally liking this that we can't be seen together at school. Lets cut the bullcrap or leave."

Either give her 1 chance to fix this or NEXT the B*tch!

 

[mynameisrobert]

dont be dumb.

this girl isnt bieng "shady" from the way this sounds. it seems to me that she just wants to stay out of all the bull**** gossip that goes around in school. can you blame her? many relationships end because of lies and rumors. you should be happy with where you are. or you can finger yourself.

 

[mynameisrobert]

what the ****?????

This ****ing piece of **** discussion forum doesnt allow you to utilize your right to free speech. it changes every damn curse word to a bunch of ****ing stars. i look like an ******* typing with astrisks interrupting what im trying to say, *****. EAT ****!!!!! ********************************************************************************************************

 

[Crusader]

Re: what the ****?????

Originally posted by mynameisrobert
This ****ing piece of **** discussion forum doesnt allow you to utilize your right to free speech. it changes every damn curse word to a bunch of ****ing stars. i look like an ******* typing with astrisks interrupting what im trying to say, *****. EAT ****!!!!! ********************************************************************************************************

Someone sounds frustrated.

 

[blienk]

This girl could be trying to decieve you or her reasons might be legitimate. There is really no way for any of us to know for certain. You know her better than any of us, and you're gonna have to make the final decision.

 

[Jimbo2k]

what about in public outside of school? You guys ever go out? What is she like then?

 

[Strong325]

It's no one's business about your guys relationship. Consider yourself lucky. You found a real keeper.

 

[Viper423]

She works and I play sports, but every chance we get and every weekend we go out. When we go out, she acts totally different towards me opposed to when we are at school. Like I said before, she has even said that we need to be good "actors" at school so no one gets suspicious. See, pretty much everyone knows that I like her and that we go to the movies and stuff, but no one knows that she likes me too, and no one knows that we are messing around. When we go out, she is usually a lot more playful, and after a movie or something, we'll usually go to my car and make out, and mess around.