Extremely high IL or psycho?

[ProQD]

How do you differentiate between a girl who has extremely high IL and one who is psycho?

I went out with this girl last weekend right before she went to California to visit her sister. I've known her for 8 months, but during that time she was engaged. I ran into her one night and asked her if she was married by now. She said she broke it off a month ago and she's single now. She then confessed that she's always liked me. I figured that was just drunk talk (we were at a bar), but I exchanged numbers with her anyway. She called the next day and asked me out to go clubbing with her and her friends. I declined and asked her out the following afternoon (she was flying to CA early the next morning). We had a great date, but now she's called me over eight times in less than a week. She's called me 4 times from CA. Mostly she gets my answering machine, but last time I talked to her she said, "I don't want to scare you...,but are we dating exclusively?" This after only one date, is she for real? During the time I've known her I've never seen signs of obsession, psycho, etc...

Any advice/experiences would be appreciated. I've never had a girl come on this fast and strong before and I don't know if I should be excited or scared. I find this girl attractive, but I think this situation has potential to be a dream come true or my worst nightmare.

 

[StrongBad]

Was there any element of sarcasm in her statement saying "are we exclusive?" If so, I think that's pretty damn funny haha.

If not, I'd be a little concerned and would potentially advise you to pay attention to her actions/words around you.

You've had 1 date, have not established any intimate bond with her. Any "feelings" you have of her are created purely in your mind and not based in reality. Don't think she is miss perfect and dive head first into this.

However, if you date her for a while, find out she isn't a psycho hose beast, and want an LTR, the interest level is there so that's definitely good.

 

[xblitz44x]

I don't think it's worth the potential problems that could arise. If she's already assuming that you guys are exclusive after ONE clubbing date, what's going to happen when you take her to dinner for a REAL date, or when you kiss her, or when you throw your d1ck in her? Imagine how much the calling, and the 'psycho' behavior is going to intensify. I'm sure she likes you a lot, and does have IL, but that's mixed with a little craze and it makes for a sequel to "Fatal Attraction". Do what you want, but if you take this any further I really hope you enjoy eating boiled rabbit.

-Blitz

 

[ZeeOwl]

Well she obviously has sky-high IL. But it's also obvious that there's something going on here...

Best case: She's on the rebound from her failed LTR/marriage plans, and is looking for emotional compensation for her dissapointment and hurt feelings.

Worst case: She's psycho. She'll stalk you, and possibly become violently dangerous.

Or something in between. Up to you if you want to pursue. Possible short term sex buddy. STR: doubtful. LTR: not a chance.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Beware of the rebound!!![/i] Of course she has a high IL, she broke up with a guy she was going to make the ultimate commitment and she is unsure of her worth. If you are the first guy that has shown her considerable interest since the break up, guess who is going to be he therapist, pep squad, shoulder to cry on, scape goat for all her ex's mistakes (he was a man too so you fit the mold), receiver of new skeletons and old ones that have climbed up to the surface and general Frankenstein Monster to experiment on.

 

[ProQD]

Update

Thanks to all who responded, I have an update. She is indeed psycho! After I spent some time with her she started to expose the skeletons in her closet. She said she's been diagnosed with Bipolar and always seems to be suffering from some sort of physical ailment (real or imagined, I'm not sure) She claims she's had a very rough life (again, not sure if this is based on reality or her perceived reality). I believe she's a pretty serious case due to the scars on her arms. Apparently she engages in self injury when she's having an episode. Self mutilation is a pretty serious issue. The fact that she just up and dropped her fiancé was another big red flag. The strange thing is I've know her for awhile, we have mutual friends, and I've had no clue about her mental condition prior. She hid it very well. So guys, always trust your gut feelings!

So now it's my time to bail out. This might get tricky.

 

[Ridingthelightning]

Maybe she is the type of girl that is an extremist when it comes to dating. These type of girls make up their mind on spur of the moment decisions and will stay with it until they can't stand you anymore, they burn themselves out on you. Its usually just a way to get over their ex and you're the tissue for their issue, regardless of whether they talk about their ex or not. If they want to date you then the flaunt and throw themselves at you. When that goes away they simply say I don't want to date anymore.

 

[jnallen]

The only chick I ever met like this I can now not get to got the hell away. She did the same.

Within a couple of dates she was calling me every night after work. If I didn't call back she was upset.

She escalated out dating to more and more in a short period of time and started showing up un-announced at various times.

You don't even want to know where it went from there.

 

[jnallen]

Run man!

Shes a cutter

Borderline Personality Disorder

http://bpd411.org/

Not the best link but it leads to more

 

[Austin Allegro]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Beware of the rebound!!![/i] Of course she has a high IL, she broke up with a guy she was going to make the ultimate commitment and she is unsure of her worth. If you are the first guy that has shown her considerable interest since the break up, guess who is going to be he therapist, pep squad, shoulder to cry on, scape goat for all her ex's mistakes (he was a man too so you fit the mold), receiver of new skeletons and old ones that have climbed up to the surface and general Frankenstein Monster to experiment on.

Francisco that made me LOL! Perhaps we should adopt FM (Frankenstein's Monster) as yet another DJ term!?