Extreme mood shifts

[godofanxiety]

Ok, I'll say say first that I'm familiar with most of the concepts used on this site (having been lurking for some time now), but my practical experience is almost non existent.

To the point: my girlfriend is acting very strange at the moment, going from pretty hot for me to sub zero cold in a matter of seconds, is very irritable, constantly contradicts herself and so on. For example in a club she acts really cold, and then says out of the blue: "I want to have sex with you", then cold again.

What is going on and what is the best course of action? And please don't say NEXT, because I care about really much (oh, and save yourself the trouble of mentioning oneitis and calling me an AFC, I know I am ) .

 

[font]

Ask her what the fvck is up!

 

[godofanxiety]

Yeah, the sensible thing to do. But the answers I get are: nothing or I don't know what are you talking about, just my mood and all that.

 

[godofanxiety]

I would still rather try to find out what am I doing wrong (at least for future reference), and try to save the relationship. Should I just ignore this and try to improve my game with her, or is there some more specific action to take (apart from NEXTing)?
Oh, and I like the don juan tag under my nick:crackup:

 

[spider_007]

there is a good post around her on moodey girls....i'll try and find it, it slips my might right now.

There is an actual mediacl reason for it, (i bolive)

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

Bipolar disorder.

 

[godofanxiety]

No, she is not bipolar, their phases last for weeks, I heard. And anyway, she has not always been like this.

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

No, she is not bipolar, their phases last for weeks, I heard. And anyway, she has not always been like this.

If teenager: http://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2005/03/20/teenagers-and-rapid-mood-swings-bipolar/

It CAN be a normal part of her develpment. Maybe, or maybe she's bipolar.

Or ADHD: http://add.about.com/od/bipolardisorde1/a/moodvsbipolar.htm

I have been diagnosed with Cyclothymia, rapid-cycling bipolar, which can mean very little time between mood swings - say, a few hours, compared to 'classic' bipolar, in which manic and depressed episodes can last weeks. Being afflicted with this mental disorder, i would liken it to an unstoppable roller coaster, as I'm sure other people suffering it might as well.

http://everything2.com/index.pl?node=bipolar disorder

So as you can see bipolar does not mean weeks of mood swings. It can happen quicker. Use common sense next time and don't believe someone because they heard that their cousin's dog's friends owner said so.


Or maybe your girl is just stressed. Have you tried talking to her and communicating instead of hypothesizing and asking everyone else what's wrong with her? Especially people who don't know her. Like here at SoSymp.

 

[godofanxiety]

Thanks for the help guys. Yes, I really tend to hypothesize and analyze things too much, that's the reason why our relationship is not the best ever.

Ok, I tried talking to her, and she is really stressed out about something (that has nothing to do with me). I tried to be supportive, but nothing I said would calm her down, she just got more annoyed.

Should I just leave her for a couple of days, or try to somehow turn her mind away from it?

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

Thanks for the help guys. Yes, I really tend to hypothesize and analyze things too much, that's the reason why our relationship is not the best ever.

Ok, I tried talking to her, and she is really stressed out about something (that has nothing to do with me). I tried to be supportive, but nothing I said would calm her down, she just got more annoyed.

Should I just leave her for a couple of days, or try to somehow turn her mind away from it?

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[Vypros]

She's playing stupid games with you. (what is she stressed about?)

give her some time to herself, it sounds like she needs.

Don't call her for AT LEAST a week.

 

[godofanxiety]

Her problem is of a medical nature (I think she has nothing to worry about, though), so I fear I may seem like insensitive ******* if I leave her for a week.

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

Ok, I'll say say first that I'm familiar with most of the concepts used on this site (having been lurking for some time now), but my practical experience is almost non existent.

To the point: my girlfriend is acting very strange at the moment, going from pretty hot for me to sub zero cold in a matter of seconds, is very irritable, constantly contradicts herself and so on. What is going on and what is the best course of action?

Her problem is of a medical nature.

So if you know that it is medical in nature, why DID YOU LIE at the beginning?

Methinks you're full of sh*t.

 

[godofanxiety]

You didn't understand. In the meantime I talked to her, and found out she is concerned about her health for some reason. Nothing to do about bipolar disorder.

 

[Road Demon]

Is she under extreme stress? if not read up on cluster B personality disorders

One of the cluster B disorders with extreme minute to minute mood changes is
Borderline Personality disorder (BPD). Search the forum. Lots of good info and experiences of several people.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I'm on hiatus with one of my plates until she seeks professional help (which she suggested she should do). The longer we don't engage, the further down she goes into the rotation. How does she bring herself back up? She has to earn it (again).

 

[My Name is Nobody]

I'm on hiatus with one of my plates until she seeks professional help (which she suggested she should do). The longer we don't engage, the further down she goes into the rotation. How does she bring herself back up? She has to earn it (again).

Real talk.

If a woman you are with ever disrespects you, she should be gone until she EARNS you back.

Ofcourse most of us are not like Francisco and have no other women around so we try and find ways to keep the same one even though that is AFC behavior.

 

[Obsidian]

If you're gonna be a chump, then getting one good piece of advice from us (like ignore her for several days, she's bored with you) isn't going to help you much or save any relationship. Don't even bother posting here unless you're willing to abandon your chumpish life.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

If you're gonna be a chump, then getting one good piece of advice from us (like ignore her for several days, she's bored with you) isn't going to help you much or save any relationship. Don't even bother posting here unless you're willing to abandon your chumpish life.

Ignore her for several days and then what?

What if she doesn't respond to that treatment? Go back to being AFC again?

I would tell her straight up that you will NOT tolerate her behavior once and for all.

 

[Obsidian]

good advice, but only if you're sure that you're not already smothering her