EX keeps messaging me random crap

Bokanovsky

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(and just saying, I extremely doubt you're anywhere near my level of intellect, clearly cuz you can't read)
Clearly not. To be anywhere near your level of intellect, I’d have to be a door knob.
 

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Clearly not. To be anywhere near your level of intellect, I’d have to be a door knob.
lmao nice one.

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Was seeing a chick for 6 months last year it was a pretty intense relationship she told me she loved me on a couple of occasions but I knew there was something off about her

eventually discovered she was making bank from being a sugar baby and ended it there and then , she took it very badly but we went our separate ways I removed her from all social media and deleted her number

Fast forward 6 months and she has reached out to me on at least 4 occasions on two different numbers usually about once every 6 weeks

1) wishing me happy birthday

2) asking me to sort something for her ( which I wouldn't do )

3) Asking me for directions

4) asking me where is best to park

I usually just respond with something ****y like when she asked me for directions and I said is your google maps broken or something ?

The interactions never really cumulate to much and I'm fairly sure she is with someone else

Is she just trying to keep a line of contact open ? , bread crumbing ?

To clarify I am not really interested in pursuing. another relationship with this girl just interested in what peoples opinions are on the psychology

My view is it seems I am clearly on her mind a lot and she is struggling to move on
Alpha widowed by you and like @soulforge said; you're most likely the backup guy that she wants to monkey branch back to as the other guys she meet/have meet after you is measured, vetted and compared against you her experience of you as a top shelf guy...

This is also probably why she went so totally mental when you "broke up" with her and cut the connection as she know she will never get a guy of your class (In her mind), ever again.
 

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She’s probably not used to guys unceremoniously dumping her. That and the fact that you did it after finding out her dirty secret must have really scrambled her hamster.

You are obviously on her mind and she’s trying to provoke a response. Does it mean that’s she trying to get back with you? Not necessarily.
Yeh doesn't necessarily mean she is trying to get back. Often it's just trying to get a win to see if OP crumbles, or she simply wants to feel out another branch, just incase her current situation doesn't last.
 

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Yeh doesn't necessarily mean she is trying to get back. Often it's just trying to get a win to see if OP crumbles, or she simply wants to feel out another branch, just incase her current situation doesn't last.
I agree thinking about it this is the most likely play
 

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After thinking about it some more I suspect what she's doing is trying to keep herself on MY mind

She wants me back in her life but wants to try and incite me into doing the chasing so if it backfires she can retain plausible deniability and pride
 

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After thinking about it some more I suspect what she's doing is trying to keep herself on MY mind

She wants me back in her life but wants to try and incite me into doing the chasing so if it backfires she can retain plausible deniability and pride

Yes this.. and if you did engage or even show just a little interest in her, she will likely just ghost. I could be wrong, but this seems to be my assessment.
 

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Definitely I love sussing this sh1t out

Thanks boys
You did the dumping. You hold the power right now. Simply let her show her hand.

Ignore the breadcrumbs.. If she doesn't clearly display outright interest in reconciliation, then stay on your path, don't give up your power.
 
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