Dash Riprock
Master Don Juan
I've (42 y.o.) been dating this girl "Toni" (31 y.o.) for about 9 months. All indications from her are very positive--her IL remains very high: good sex, has NEVER broken a date, plenty of affection, interaction, she buys dinner for me, cooks for me, massages, we do road trips, lots of outdoor stuff--it's all good.
[FYI: I've been "student" of the Doc Love program for more than five years which basically says always employ Confidence, (self) Control, and Challenge. I've gotten to the point of where I can employ this in balance and harmony quite easily. I won't elaborate on the details, but I'm not pulling AFC crap with her.]
The dealio is this: Her ex-husband (36 y.o.) is still in the picture BIG TIME. I even know the guy. He works out at my gym and seems like a good guy. He's pretty small and very average looking. Long story short: they dated a few years ago and then got married when it looked like she would lose her citizenship. They got divorced maybe two years ago, but hang out for lunch or dinner every week. They still buy each other xmas and b.d. gifts and to the best of my knowledge, talk and communicate quite a bit.
A few years ago, they would come down to the gym together and workout. I remember watching them interact and thought they were brother and sister by their mannerisms toward each other (and they actually kind of look alike). My gym buddies and I would comment and even nicknamed her "platonic" because their relationship seemed to be not romantic but well, platonic. They seem like "best friends."
I've never said a word or asked about anything about their current relationship. In time, she did fill me in on some of the details (marriage, citizenship deal) without me asking. I just listened, smiled, and commented very little.
The whole thing is just a little weird. I cannot say that I'm all that threatened, but nobody ever wants to get burned either.
You read on this board time and time again that exes are exes for a reason.
BUT...
It is possible to be THAT compatible with someone you were actually married to and not have romantic feelings towards them?
I mean, I've heard of people staying friends after marriage breakups (more and more it seems; ESPN radio host Colin Cower says he talks to his ex-wife every day for 15 minutes and they're still "great friends"), but these two are practically best friends.
**Protecting that heart**
Thoughts?
[FYI: I've been "student" of the Doc Love program for more than five years which basically says always employ Confidence, (self) Control, and Challenge. I've gotten to the point of where I can employ this in balance and harmony quite easily. I won't elaborate on the details, but I'm not pulling AFC crap with her.]
The dealio is this: Her ex-husband (36 y.o.) is still in the picture BIG TIME. I even know the guy. He works out at my gym and seems like a good guy. He's pretty small and very average looking. Long story short: they dated a few years ago and then got married when it looked like she would lose her citizenship. They got divorced maybe two years ago, but hang out for lunch or dinner every week. They still buy each other xmas and b.d. gifts and to the best of my knowledge, talk and communicate quite a bit.
A few years ago, they would come down to the gym together and workout. I remember watching them interact and thought they were brother and sister by their mannerisms toward each other (and they actually kind of look alike). My gym buddies and I would comment and even nicknamed her "platonic" because their relationship seemed to be not romantic but well, platonic. They seem like "best friends."
I've never said a word or asked about anything about their current relationship. In time, she did fill me in on some of the details (marriage, citizenship deal) without me asking. I just listened, smiled, and commented very little.
The whole thing is just a little weird. I cannot say that I'm all that threatened, but nobody ever wants to get burned either.
You read on this board time and time again that exes are exes for a reason.
BUT...
It is possible to be THAT compatible with someone you were actually married to and not have romantic feelings towards them?
I mean, I've heard of people staying friends after marriage breakups (more and more it seems; ESPN radio host Colin Cower says he talks to his ex-wife every day for 15 minutes and they're still "great friends"), but these two are practically best friends.
**Protecting that heart**
Thoughts?