ex girl"friend"

[jbrunner_ipa]

Ok, read the whole thing before you reply to this one.

My girlfriend (of three years) and I broke up last february. Here's my deal. This girl had been my closest friend since elementary school. We dated and i decided it wasn't going to work and broke it off, she waited around for a while and then started dating one of my other really close guy-friends. Anyway, they're going out and they've broken up once and gotten back together, but things are going good i guess.
My dillemma is.............not that i want to date this girl again, in fact i do not want to date this girl again. But i really want to restore the friendship that we had, without her thinking that i'm trying to hook up. I called her last month once to see if she wanted to go hang out and have coffee and she told me that she had a paper to write and never offered an alternate time. So right now i'm afraid that if i call she'll think i'm trying to hook up again and maybe she just doesn't want to know me anymore but we live on the same college campus.
Anyway, any suggestions on this matter at all. What would you guys do?

 

[jbrunner_ipa]

oh come on people......

 

[HuuBinh]

she may have meant a lot to you as friends before the hook-up and i can understand why you'd want to relive that. But, most djs here would agree with me that you should move on for apparent reasons. A better friend can always be found, look to the future, not the past.

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

Definitely move on, atleast for the time being. She is not going to trust you in a 1 on 1 type of situation, due to your past with her. Plus, girls know for a fact that Guys do not let **** slide without a fight, its in our nature.

 

[Cremasta]

Originally posted by jbrunner_ipa
But i really want to restore the friendship that we had,

Why?

You only need to be on civil speaking terms. Don't bother trying to hang out with her, you have other friends (hopefully) for that.

 

[drixsa]

i think it is over for now

she still feels the way about you that many guys here feel about their one-itis

i know she was pissed to begin with hence her dating your close friend

sometimes ppl just need a little space to cool off for a while

and get their heart restored