Ex Gf was losing interest so i dumped her?

The North Dragon

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ok so al shorten it down to make it easier to answer

-we argue on the phone and i hang up because i was annoyed and didnt want to say things i didnt mean
-i ignore her and speak to her th next day-
-next day she turns 180 and pulls back. we constantly arguing now over text because she woulndt met face to face and talk about it.
- few days later no change except she wants space or break?
-her reason= wanted space to know where she stands and so we dont hate each other. i thought it was bull and she wanted to see if the grass was greener.
- couple days later ( at this point havent seen her in 1 week) i agree to give her space and we dont talk
- couple days pass she adds boys on facebook, talks to them and hides her facebook relationship status
-i dump her. reason= beat her at her own game, get the upper hand and to save myself from gettin hurt by her cheating or dumping me.
- THE BREAK UP CONVO

Me-Being apart and given u space isnt going to help this relationship. so lets go our seperate ways now and let that be the end of it. thanks for the memories. ( this was text because she ignore my calls)

her- i left my phone at home. i said we shud have a few weeks space you havent lasted 2 days. is this want you really want? you should have said from the start. you know i'l always love you and never forget you :) we had some great times and will never forget them. dont be a stranger i hope we can still be friends?

me- *name* ur away out looking for other people so thats it. i know what space means. am going to want my things back

her- looking for other people? excuse me but where did u hear that from? i've not spoken to any1 else. space means time for me and only me.i told u that from the start but if u couldnt manage that then i gues this is what is has came down to which is a shame. come get ur things one night next week or something. ( which i still havent )

me-time apart wont help our relationship

her- it was. we needed space and time to think and to miss each other. its ok though no worries

me-nah well uve got all th time and space you need.

her- am not arguing about this. i wanted space and u said u wud give me it

me- well uve got all the space in the world now enjoy

that was it. 12 days ago and havent heard a thing since. deletedd her number and from facebook. i dont want to get jealous. still have feelings for her and would like to sort it out but wasnt going weeks without talkin to her and being taken for a ride wonering if she would come back or not. i believe i did the right thing but hasnt she made an effort to stay or even try fix it?


our relationship lasted 2.5 years. we have split up before and she came back. this time is different obviously. makes me feel better and drive to continue with NC everytime people tell me am going the right way about this :)
 

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haha, she really flipped the script on ya. Sorry to laugh, but these kinds of threads pop up here a lot. Unfortunately, SHE asked for the break. She pretty much broke up with you. You then decided to officially end something that was already over. She was cool with it because she already made up her mind. You were doing it as a power play, and you can tell by her texts back she knew that. You should have broken up with her in person. If you are going to break up with someone over text, don't have a conversation about it. Just say you're through and don't respond. Women are better at playing the breakup game than men because they know they have other options. In addition, usually when a break occurs the woman is initiating it, and the man is in total AFC status. What does an AFC do when he gets broken up with? Tries to fight it out and argue and tell the other person "you have all the space in the world." If you want to be emotional, I would advise against it--but at least do it in person so she doesn't have a chance to sit there and think about how she will next belittle you. She is probably sitting on her phone laughing with her friends. If you do it in person, at least you get a genuine response.
 

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go get your things ... dont have anymore conversations... dissapear from her life and ignore any contact attempt from her.

block her from facebook. its time to redesign your life.
 

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Interesting, I think break in this case meant I don't want to be with you anymore and seems that maybe she already had something in the pipelines did she seem more secretive etc towards end?
 

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you posted the same exact shib a month ago...she still hasnt contacted you?
 

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Go ghost.

Fighting is futile. No good is here that is for you.

Your princess was already in another castle before you told her to go there.

Spin more plates.

Case closed.
 
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