ex gf mad i had sex with another girl

[Powerofmindset]

We dated for 9 months. I was totally AFC even though I knew better after she said "I love you." She broke up with me on vacation. I wrote about it before on here. I left that vacation early and she stayed with the rest of the group in Vegas. I went no contact immediately.

She msgs me on facebook saying this is the situation with the hotel and what money was going where. She also mentioned that she deleted my number and was sorry to email me this. Some months later I get an email from her again through facebook saying some sort of inside joke in order for me to respond. Still no contact.

I start to recently hear about her "talking about me" from mutual friends and how she didn't understand why I didn't email her back.

Now today she text msgs my roommate and says something along the lines of how this typical it is for me and this mutual hb we know are fvcking. aka...upset.

Not totally sure what to do. I felt like I totally had everything under control with my emotions and now because of this it is back to me feeling like "oops i fvcked up my chances with being with her again."

Out of the mutual friends we know, 2 are getting married to eachother and everyone is in the groomsmen/bridesmaid partys including myself and her. I figured that would be the next time I saw her and if something went down that route I would approach it carefully. Until then I would keep working on myself (school, work, new projects, lifting) and getting the occasional lays.

This girl that I'm banging is an AW by all standards and oddly enough she knows my ex gf and her sister. Apparently, the girl I am banging's boyfriend was stolen from her by my ex gf's sister and in an act of revenge threw eggs at her car. Stupid high school shyt...but may be a reason why she is mad about me and this girl fvcking.

What would you do?

 

[Tiguere]

continue to bang away... the more you ignore her and she continues to hear from you the more attractive youll become in her eyes.

 

[f283000]

continue to bang away... the more you ignore her and she continues to hear from you the more attractive youll become in her eyes.

This!!!

In fact you should bang even more girls and hopefully she hears about it.

The more successful a man is with women the more attractive and "worth fighting for" he becomes. You are pre-selected in their eyes and are the prize.

 

[betheman]

This!!!

In fact you should bang even more girls and hopefully she hears about it.

The more successful a man is with women the more attractive and "worth fighting for" he becomes. You are pre-selected in their eyes and are the prize.

Absolutely!

 

[Powerofmindset]

So even tho it seems she is mad at the matter at hand...it just increased my chances? Even tho those 2 girls apparently don't like each other for whatever reason?

Additional information: I've been in no contact with this girl since I came back from vacation...roughly the beginning of August 2011.

Text msg reads: So Powerofmindset and HB, huh?! Hahaha. Perfect. I knew I was always right. TOO much intuition.

 

[Iceberg]

So even tho it seems she is mad at the matter at hand...it just increased my chances? Even tho those 2 girls apparently don't like each other for whatever reason?

Yes. There's nothing a girl loves more than screwing over another girl. The fact that getting you back would involve stealing you from this woman she hates, only makes your Ex want you more.

But once you go back to her, this new-found value you have would just diminish after a month or two. So if I were you, I'd just avoid the ex anyway.

Additional information: I've been in no contact with this girl since I came back from vacation...roughly the beginning of August 2011.

Text msg reads: So Powerofmindset and HB, huh?! Hahaha. Perfect. I knew I was always right. TOO much intuition.

Crazy talk from a crazy woman. Ignore and move forward.

 

[Powerofmindset]

Yes. There's nothing a girl loves more than screwing over another girl. The fact that getting you back would involve stealing you from this woman she hates, only makes your Ex want you more.

But once you go back to her, this new-found value you have would just diminish after a month or two. So if I were you, I'd just avoid the ex anyway.



Crazy talk from a crazy woman. Ignore and move forward.

Is that in all cases? How would I go about still wanting to get her back at some point? Would it last?

 

[Iceberg]

Is that in all cases?

Is anything EVER true in all cases?

How would I go about still wanting to get her back at some point?

Try something and find out.

Would it last?

Try something and find out.

Sorry, but I get annoyed with posters like you who can never seem to ask a question, accept the answer, and walk away.

 

[betheman]

Is that in all cases? How would I go about still wanting to get her back at some point? Would it last?

No one can say for certain, however the odda are not in your favour, she broke up with you, on vacation, she e mails you to let you know she has deleted your number, she wants a response, she wants to know how much she hurt you...she doesnt love you, she doesnt even seem to really care about you1 now, what makes you think you can make a go of this?

 

[Powerofmindset]

No one can say for certain, however the odda are not in your favour, she broke up with you, on vacation, she e mails you to let you know she has deleted your number, she wants a response, she wants to know how much she hurt you...she doesnt love you, she doesnt even seem to really care about you1 now, what makes you think you can make a go of this?

Then why the constant asking of mutual friends asking/talking about me recently? Why throw out inside jokes in order for me to talk to her? Just to see how she hurt me? I disagree only because that was never talked about.

 

[Chamber36]

She's trying to make you come back like a little b*tch. She is just tricking you. She probably purposely sent some gossip for you to hear, just to see if you would come running back. People are manipulative. They try to fool you.

Most importantly you are not supposed to give a fvck what she thinks. Cut contact. She's your ex. You got bigger fish to fry.

 

[Iceberg]

Then why the constant asking of mutual friends asking/talking about me recently? Why throw out inside jokes in order for me to talk to her? Just to see how she hurt me? I disagree only because that was never talked about.

Sigh.

And THIS is why I said:

Sorry, but I get annoyed with posters like you who can never seem to ask a question, accept the answer, and walk away.

Posters like this just come here for the attention. He got plenty of advice. Now it's up to him to make his own path.

This thread has outlived its usefulness.

 

[GameTime76]

Sad to see Nice Guys on here who try to get back with their ex... Real Don Juans moved on.

 

[IamJosan]

Don't go back to your ex. It won't be the same and besides, you don't want a girl that starts trouble. I say keep doing what you're doing, keep fvckin this girl, get new girls, and when the time comes when you have to see your ex at the weeding, stay confident and keep her in her place. You didn't do anything wrong so you shouldn't feel guilty about anything. Even if you did do something wrong, don't let her disrespect you.

 

[The_411]

Women are convining to the nth degree. This is a typical powerplay to try to regain control.

When a woman is mad it means she cares or at the very least it upset /jealous that you aren't paying her attention.

The only thing your ex is worth is perhaps a one night stand keeping the 4F's in mind

Find, Feel, F, Forget.

I'm not sure it's even worth the drama.

 

[Powerofmindset]

well i finally gave in and i text her a msg saying if she wants to be civil that's fine and that there are no hard feelings. She tried to say things like "it was hard for me too" but i ignored it and said it didn't matter and that there are no hard feelings. I got fed up with my so called friends constantly talking behind my back so i decided to make it clear to her myself. So currently i'm re-evaluating my current friends for talking about me all the time...this isnt the first time (some of the things arent exgf related issues).

the next day she "accidentally" text msgs me that was for her parents, i'm guessing. I didn't respond.

 

[nismo-4]

continue to bang away... the more you ignore her and she continues to hear from you the more attractive youll become in her eyes.

I couldn't have said it any better!!!

It ain't worth going back to the ex.

Case f**kin' closed!

 

[Groovy]

I would see if I still like my ex. Then I would understand why she dumped me. If I still liked her, I would patiently try to fix my mistakes and wait a little until I do that. Then I would make another shot at my ex.