Ex GF just sent me an email after almost THREE YEARS OF BREAKING UP

El Payaso

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I received an email from her last night reading:

Hi Payaso, I miss you and I'm sorry. Please dont hate me anymore.
Kk bye.

I just laughed for a good long time and after a few minutes, I deleted it.

Her apology isn't a real one. It's purely for two things. For her own self validation and to see if she still has power over me.

I hate using the word BPD because I think that many of the people here who use that word to describe their ex are just men that refused to set their boundaries in the relationship and supplicated to the woman's every desire. Which was who I was.

I was constantly walking on egg shells with her, she cut me off from all my friends and almost my family, I was constantly trying to please her but nothing was ever good for her. She was EXTREMELY jealous and self loathing. She was a terrible human being.

The main fact was I was naive and a wuss. This enabled all her terrible behaviors. The funny thing is SHE was the one who broke up with me because "I didn't understand her as a woman". Which was true anyway. I was clueless and naive.

Typically, as an AFC, I begged her and begged her but she kicked me to the curb. She threw the friendship line and I happily accepted. After a few days of listening to her talk about the other guys she was dating and how much bigger their c0cks were in comparison to mine, I came to my senses and told her I can't be friends because I like her as more than a friend.

She got upset and yelled at me for "destroying a good thing". Saying she trusted me to be her good friend. That she never ever wants to talk to me again. That I "betrayed her feelings". Lol. She blocked me on EVERYTHING. I just said "I'm glad you understand" and left.

That's the last thing I ever said to her. Now after three years of riding her c0ck carousel and not being able to find a man to settle down with, she's trying to reel me in with her tired old tactics. Smh. Women can be so pathetic sometimes.

I have a feeling she heard I'm doing much better now from my sister because they're good friends. Now, she has come back to see if she can break me down again. She's like the demonic spawn from hell that just can't be destroyed.

I have no interest in even sticking my d!ck in her. The thought of it just makes me shudder. She was a nasty human being all around.

In a way, I'm glad that she came into my life. She made me realize how naive I was and how much I had to learn about women. She was the one who made me discover all this red pill stuff so I'm grateful to her for that.

In a twisted way, if it wasn't for her, I wouldn't be in a much healthier relationship right now.

Thank you, crazy ex gf from hell.
 

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Gotta melt metal first to shape it into something stronger bro. This is the b!tch who took your misbegotten @ss through the furnace and turned you into what you are today. Don't have to like someone to be thankful.
 

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I laugh so much at the "Hi Payaso" thing for some reason xD

Damn you, Spanish!!

As much as I hate this tired-ass phrase, seems like things indeed "happened for a reason here" my man.
 

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Dude everyone has a girl that he used to love and she dumped him. It is impossibly to be frienda with ex girlfriend. If i were you i will be a man and answer the email shortly and wish her a good luck in the life. If you guys keep in touch after one chat i would act cool and show her what is she missing but never ever say you miss her or want her just be cool once and then ignore her she will look for your attention.
 

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El Payaso said:
I received an email from her last night reading:

Hi Payaso, I miss you and I'm sorry. Please dont hate me anymore.
Kk bye.

I just laughed for a good long time and after a few minutes, I deleted it.

Her apology isn't a real one. It's purely for two things. For her own self validation and to see if she still has power over me.

I hate using the word BPD because I think that many of the people here who use that word to describe their ex are just men that refused to set their boundaries in the relationship and supplicated to the woman's every desire. Which was who I was.

I was constantly walking on egg shells with her, she cut me off from all my friends and almost my family, I was constantly trying to please her but nothing was ever good for her. She was EXTREMELY jealous and self loathing. She was a terrible human being.

The main fact was I was naive and a wuss. This enabled all her terrible behaviors. The funny thing is SHE was the one who broke up with me because "I didn't understand her as a woman". Which was true anyway. I was clueless and naive.

Typically, as an AFC, I begged her and begged her but she kicked me to the curb. She threw the friendship line and I happily accepted. After a few days of listening to her talk about the other guys she was dating and how much bigger their c0cks were in comparison to mine, I came to my senses and told her I can't be friends because I like her as more than a friend.

She got upset and yelled at me for "destroying a good thing". Saying she trusted me to be her good friend. That she never ever wants to talk to me again. That I "betrayed her feelings". Lol. She blocked me on EVERYTHING. I just said "I'm glad you understand" and left.

That's the last thing I ever said to her. Now after three years of riding her c0ck carousel and not being able to find a man to settle down with, she's trying to reel me in with her tired old tactics. Smh. Women can be so pathetic sometimes.

I have a feeling she heard I'm doing much better now from my sister because they're good friends. Now, she has come back to see if she can break me down again. She's like the demonic spawn from hell that just can't be destroyed.

I have no interest in even sticking my d!ck in her. The thought of it just makes me shudder. She was a nasty human being all around.

In a way, I'm glad that she came into my life. She made me realize how naive I was and how much I had to learn about women. She was the one who made me discover all this red pill stuff so I'm grateful to her for that.

In a twisted way, if it wasn't for her, I wouldn't be in a much healthier relationship right now.

Thank you, crazy ex gf from hell.
That's the situation my best friend is in currently, I hope he follows a similar route to yours at least.
 

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El Pay,

Emotional vampires mate. The world is full of 'em.

The old adage of not being a counsellor/emotional sponge to a woman (nor anyone in fact) is becoming more real to me every day. I got fed up with being the psychological crutch that everyone leans on a long time ago. Nowadays I listen intently, but the moment there is even a glimpse of transference/projection on to me, I back the f*ck up.

You did exactly the right thing by getting rid of that email. Validation an power is all she's about; she obviously hasn't changed.

You da MAN!
 

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El Payaso said:
I received an email from her last night reading:

Hi Payaso, I miss you and I'm sorry. Please dont hate me anymore.
Kk bye.
she didn't even have the courtesy to add the "el" to your name.

this ain't no apology bro, this a full blown aw attempt for her to contact you, she doesn't want you to forget about her, she wants you to keep thinking of her.

i had an ex who did this every so often, i just blocked her on everything, all you do is just laugh at how stupid they are :crackup:
 

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Zakito said:
Dude everyone has a girl that he used to love and she dumped him. It is impossibly to be frienda with ex girlfriend. If i were you i will be a man and answer the email shortly and wish her a good luck in the life. If you guys keep in touch after one chat i would act cool and show her what is she missing but never ever say you miss her or want her just be cool once and then ignore her she will look for your attention.
Is this not a good approach?

Guys I'm no expert but would have thought answering with something like it would be good?

"Hello, I don't hate you and I hope things are going well for you. I wish you good luck in life. Bye"

In my mind implies you have moved on, you wishing her well shows you are in a much better place than her and above it.

Then of course no contact after that if she attempts to reply, re-engage, which I'm sure she will.

On 2nd thoughts maybe no contact and delete is the best actually.
 

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She is having a rough time, her ego is hurting. You know what would make her really feel good? Seeing she still has her hooks in you.

That's all she wants.

How do you feel about that? What's your next step?
 

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noobolgy said:
She is having a rough time, her ego is hurting. You know what would make her really feel good? Seeing she still has her hooks in you.

That's all she wants.

How do you feel about that? What's your next step?
Part of me wants to lambast her for all the things she did to me but I know better than that. I won't even give her any attention. I will ignore her. I'm happy where I am right now.
 
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