Every one talks about having a backbone with women and not being a pushover
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marmel75
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Be in control of things. Don't be wishy washy. Have a set plan for when you ask her out---date, time, place. When you meet her in person, lead her...to the bar, to the table, to where ever you are going. You lead she follows.
Don't do "favors" for her she can easily do herself. Don't agree to watch her purse. At least not without teasing her about it--maybe saying something like "Well, I dunno, you'll have to get up and do a little dance for me first"--it completely destroys her compliance test because she had to do something you asked first.
Basically just be a man. You are in charge. Do what you do.
Well you see because of several factors.....feminism, political correctness, men been raised by single woman, society and media placing women as having more value etc men grow up being afraid to offend women and equally seeking their approval..........
......thinking they are been respectful, they actually end up suplicating. Men then enter the dating world and find on a sexual level this behavior repulses women. Think about it.....women love differently than men......she must respect you and there must be an element of adoration (she has to look up to you to a degree)........but how could she ever respect a sniveling man who seeks her approval and is afraid to offend her............she can't......
So, firstly the approval seeking must be addressed. You have to observe yourself and see at some level are you seeking her approval.
It's important to express your own opinions with out tapering them so you don't offend her (while remaining socially relevant)....
A really important word to add to your vocabulary with a woman is the word NO........
so many men are afraid to say no, in case they lose her approval (in other words, maybe she will no longer like me). But this wishy washy behavior is exactly what turns people off.....
No can be used also to keep things in your frame and get her following you........for example.....her "let's grab a bite to eat", you "no. let's go in a half an hour. I'm doing something"
Really having a back bone is standing up for yourself. You have to be willing to walk out the door and she has to know it without it being said....
Also, be decisive.......none of this ......eh what do you want to do? .......have a plan, know what you're doing, lead....