After recently completing a summer program in Cali, I realized that your average guy will regularly find himself in a situation, where he comes in contact with three chicks: The primary chick , the secondary chick , and tertiary chick . Allow me to explain:
Primary Chick : This girl can also be called the one-itis. She's probably the first girl that you caught checking you out, the first girl who showed any hint of interest. You either approached her or she miraculously approached you. The two of you get to talking and it seems like you have a lot in common. You make her laugh, she makes you laugh, and the two of you see each other regularly. You immediately see her as "the one" who has everything you need: attractive, great personality, intelligent, and sweet. Infatuation sets in and you become a little desperate. You devote too much time to her and forget to talk to other girls. She senses your desperation and things make a 180. She either begins to avoid you, play mind games, or use you as friendship zone material. In other words, you're fvcked. The spark you two had is over.
Secondary Chick : This girl is usually connected to the primary chick in some way but not always. She could be a good friend of hers or her roommate, whatever. She's just as attractive as your one-itis, maybe even more attractive with a similar personality. The problem was that the primary chick was probably a little more talkative with you and gave off a little more sexual energy. You sensed that she was attracted to (possibly to compete with your one-itis) but you never thought much of it because you were too fixated on the primary chick. When the one-itis finally gives you the boot, you turned to the secondary chick for one or both of these reasons 1) You've become attracted to her 2) You want to make your one-itis jealous. Either way, it's too late because the secondary chick figured you were not interested and moved on.
Tertiary Chick : This is one of those sporadic occasions where you find yourself putting a girl in the friendship zone. This girl is usually not connected with the two other girls and comes out of nowhere. She gives you constant eye contact, goes out of her way to talk to you, and gives hints of wanting a relationship with you ("You remind me of my last bf"). While your one-itis is no longer in your vicinity, this girl seems to be everywhere you are. You begin to ask yourself, "How the hell did this happen?" You realize that you may have either come off as a challenge by not showing interest, you came off too confidence around her, or you were just nice to her and she took it the wrong way. She seems like a sweet girl but she is either physically unattractive or has a really annoying personality(usually the former has more weight). You would never consider hooking up with her even in your most desperate hour. You don't use her to make your one-itis jealous because you know it won't work. However, you continue to be nice to her because 1) You feel sorry for her because you were once in her position or 2) You don't want bad karma. This girl makes you feel guilty because you realize just how shallow you are. There is really nothing you can do about these girls, just don't lead them on.
Ok I'm done ranting. Beware of this type of situation. It happens to me A LOT.
Primary Chick : This girl can also be called the one-itis. She's probably the first girl that you caught checking you out, the first girl who showed any hint of interest. You either approached her or she miraculously approached you. The two of you get to talking and it seems like you have a lot in common. You make her laugh, she makes you laugh, and the two of you see each other regularly. You immediately see her as "the one" who has everything you need: attractive, great personality, intelligent, and sweet. Infatuation sets in and you become a little desperate. You devote too much time to her and forget to talk to other girls. She senses your desperation and things make a 180. She either begins to avoid you, play mind games, or use you as friendship zone material. In other words, you're fvcked. The spark you two had is over.
Secondary Chick : This girl is usually connected to the primary chick in some way but not always. She could be a good friend of hers or her roommate, whatever. She's just as attractive as your one-itis, maybe even more attractive with a similar personality. The problem was that the primary chick was probably a little more talkative with you and gave off a little more sexual energy. You sensed that she was attracted to (possibly to compete with your one-itis) but you never thought much of it because you were too fixated on the primary chick. When the one-itis finally gives you the boot, you turned to the secondary chick for one or both of these reasons 1) You've become attracted to her 2) You want to make your one-itis jealous. Either way, it's too late because the secondary chick figured you were not interested and moved on.
Tertiary Chick : This is one of those sporadic occasions where you find yourself putting a girl in the friendship zone. This girl is usually not connected with the two other girls and comes out of nowhere. She gives you constant eye contact, goes out of her way to talk to you, and gives hints of wanting a relationship with you ("You remind me of my last bf"). While your one-itis is no longer in your vicinity, this girl seems to be everywhere you are. You begin to ask yourself, "How the hell did this happen?" You realize that you may have either come off as a challenge by not showing interest, you came off too confidence around her, or you were just nice to her and she took it the wrong way. She seems like a sweet girl but she is either physically unattractive or has a really annoying personality(usually the former has more weight). You would never consider hooking up with her even in your most desperate hour. You don't use her to make your one-itis jealous because you know it won't work. However, you continue to be nice to her because 1) You feel sorry for her because you were once in her position or 2) You don't want bad karma. This girl makes you feel guilty because you realize just how shallow you are. There is really nothing you can do about these girls, just don't lead them on.
Ok I'm done ranting. Beware of this type of situation. It happens to me A LOT.