I am fully aware of discard cycles with npds and im guessing they are the samr for bpd..i mysrlf in someehat of a narc maybe some bpd traits but not heavy on the bpd and unconvential (this bpd even told me that about being unconventional)..Started hanging out with this girl 2 months ago. Knew of her and she knows mutual people..She is bpd with npd...she is on lexapro and Xanax so she is in fact...i have been around a full blown narc for 9 years (non sexual) and have experienced all kinds of things discards idealization abuse mental physical etc so I'm somewhat seasoned...but this time the dynamic was different with this other girl...we were "dating" in her words...had sex a couple times hung out all the time slept together all the time.
Thru out the time we were speaking she was in contact with an ex that lived with her for 6 months..she likes live in BFs lol. I'm 34 (she's 28) got a six pack eat clean drive a nice car educated good looking etc...this other dude was 20 skinny lkke 110 lbs no lie...bisexual ate fast food smoked etc etc. So obviously no competition just a whole different type of person..but I know she is bpdnpd so they mirror etc to get something...in the case with me she needed companionship and somebody to sleep with bf date whatever...we were affectionate alot passionate kissing hand holding cuddling etc...but I knew she was fake most of the time. But she did feel comfortable around me but at the same time said she felt intimated by me which was good. She's use to running dudes over...dudes have gotten her all kinds of things even a house!! So I was just taking out to little meals and maybe get her nails done and that's it i probably spent no more than 500 on her in 2 months lol..sure I would drive her to whatever she needed to do and I didn't care. We had sex and we slept every night together..i was giving her companionship and she was giving me companionship..sure she try to hit me up for gifts here and there but I'm not a fool and I know her track record and basically got her no gifts whatsoever..yet i get things all these guys wanted from her for a cheap price lol.
We had one blowup a while back didn't talk for a few days then we contacted each other and things were fine from there but she was still texting the 20 yr old and even mentioned he was possibly coming to See her at the end of this month..she was just weird super sensitive..like if I did something minute she would get really weird and standoffish...ome time I asked why she was getting shy and that night she was giving me negative body language all night another time she demanded my card to buy something online and I said no she then said sorry for getting mad and I didn't even know she was mad lol..the reason is and I told her is that she can talk to the 20 yr old all she wants but I'm not investing as long as they are texting..lets face it 20 yr old has nothing on me so she wants to talk but I'm not gonna buy anything I was honestly laughing in her face about how she acts like she is high and mighty yet she is texting some 20 yr old who at one point had rotting teeth because he didn't brush when he had braces.
She knew but she said she likes to control guys and younger ones are easier and older ones arent...she also went on to say that usually she treats older guys as sugar daddys and I was an "excpetion" lol cuz I was seriously buying her zero just 20 dollar meals.
This whole time the 20 yr old coming to drive from out of stste kind of loomed over I didn't really talk about it but I knew there was a good chance of getting discarded right before the Dude was coming so I refused to get her anything because I know st the end of the day it would be a total waste.
2 nights ago I decided to text this other girl to see a movie to hedge my bet because the night before in bed her body language was getting cold so I felt something coming ..we go see a movie and I get a text from psycho...she asks me to go to Macy's to return someybujg i say let's go tomorrow I'm at the gym she said ok my mom will take me so I said I'll come over after the gym and she said ok.
I start to go to her house and text her and say I'm coming..she says "babe" don't because she is eating out wi th her mom and she'll text when she gets home I say ok...she texts later and says I'm going to bed early (it's 11) because I have blah blah to do. This is very uncharacteristic of her because she wants me around all the time..i try to call her no answer I know something is up.then I start texting what is wrong? Then she texts so I call and she doesn't answer so now I know something is really up....this goes on and I just start saying wtf is wrong with u she then goes on to text i just wanna be alone...i text whatever she refuses to amswer so then I'm finally like"if ur upset I didn't leave the gym to take u then I'm sorry didn't know it would upset u" because that is literally what it was she felt so hurt I didn't drop everything for her...then we get into sh1t talking to each other and starts asking me to buy her a chair that j was sitting on that she broke when she sat on top of me and to apologize to her for sending "horrific" messages abiit her going to macys with her mom whchh i never did I said send me a screenshot of what she was talking about but never did of cousre...we go at for hours she starts naming this that this that about me I fire back..she knows I'm not a pushover and she even told me before she wouldn't want to get into a full blown argument with me. I held back alot because she is mentally screwed up but I did say some things back...she told me guys get scared when she gets crazy and don't say anything back so she probably wasn't use to people arguing back..she was doing self projection identication at points and she just had alot of stuff on her list of things about me..she painted me black..i was saying messed up things back and said u wanna fix things let's fix it now if not then don't then she went on to say how it's tempting and how I'm cool and cute but then said ljbf i said no..we went back and forth for hours I said f it go be with whoever I don't give a f. Went to sleep
The next day I'm a little distraught obviously and I get a text from the narc I've known for 9 years (they know each other) she says so and so just texted me saying u said this that about me..the only thing I said really was that she was a narcissistic disordered person lol..she then texted me she's done with me I'm blocked yada yada I said go f urself both of u are pieces of sh1t..ive been thru 100 we are done phases so I'm not even worried....i text the bpd and tell her to stop texting her...we get into again for hours I say go be with someone else u won we aren't gonna talk i will leave u alone so u won..sent her a screen shot of the other girl saying she's coming to my house at 7..she called me immature for that pretty sure that zinged her tho lol...more sh1t talking between me and her i start saying messed up things but did significantly hold back she on the other hand let it all out but at the end of the day I don't care what she says because she can't phase me been numb from the other narc for years..i then go on to say she has bpd comorbid with npd antisocial and schizoid ...bssixally say go be with rotting teeth boy idgaf etc etc..she then says blah blah ur blocked.
I text her later on from my other number and say we said whatever to each other I'm not hurt in the slightest I'm sorry ur sorry so it's all whatever (I just kept saying whatever to keep it vague) then said we can be friends we can be enemies we can be frenimies be whatever we have no business dating each other ....i then said i can take her to her appointments unless it would too much for her to handle..i then said i sent her and edible hello kitty arrangement(inside joke) but canceled the order after I got the text from the narc.. i ended it with u wanna talknto me then talk to me u don't then don't we can be whatever so do whatever u want it's the US of A land of the free lolol.
I can guarantee the 20 yr old is coming now for sure...thats fine i got sh1 t to do..but now the question is will she cycle back around? The narc of 9 years got into epic epic things with me I have said the most fd up things to her but it was figt8ng back obviously but like i said it was never in a dating capacstiy...so I have no idea if she will hoover..i can kind of see the 20 yr old and her having a falling out or him going back to his state once it gets bad with her and possibly coming around..she is a hermit she doesnt leave her house barely and i live literslly 2 miles from her...but after what she was saying about all the issues she had I have no idea ...part of me says it's 60/40 She contacts me another part is saying she may never...everytime I had a blowup eith the other narc I was like no way will we ever talk again after what was said and done and I have obviously been wrong on that who knows.
Thru out the time we were speaking she was in contact with an ex that lived with her for 6 months..she likes live in BFs lol. I'm 34 (she's 28) got a six pack eat clean drive a nice car educated good looking etc...this other dude was 20 skinny lkke 110 lbs no lie...bisexual ate fast food smoked etc etc. So obviously no competition just a whole different type of person..but I know she is bpdnpd so they mirror etc to get something...in the case with me she needed companionship and somebody to sleep with bf date whatever...we were affectionate alot passionate kissing hand holding cuddling etc...but I knew she was fake most of the time. But she did feel comfortable around me but at the same time said she felt intimated by me which was good. She's use to running dudes over...dudes have gotten her all kinds of things even a house!! So I was just taking out to little meals and maybe get her nails done and that's it i probably spent no more than 500 on her in 2 months lol..sure I would drive her to whatever she needed to do and I didn't care. We had sex and we slept every night together..i was giving her companionship and she was giving me companionship..sure she try to hit me up for gifts here and there but I'm not a fool and I know her track record and basically got her no gifts whatsoever..yet i get things all these guys wanted from her for a cheap price lol.
We had one blowup a while back didn't talk for a few days then we contacted each other and things were fine from there but she was still texting the 20 yr old and even mentioned he was possibly coming to See her at the end of this month..she was just weird super sensitive..like if I did something minute she would get really weird and standoffish...ome time I asked why she was getting shy and that night she was giving me negative body language all night another time she demanded my card to buy something online and I said no she then said sorry for getting mad and I didn't even know she was mad lol..the reason is and I told her is that she can talk to the 20 yr old all she wants but I'm not investing as long as they are texting..lets face it 20 yr old has nothing on me so she wants to talk but I'm not gonna buy anything I was honestly laughing in her face about how she acts like she is high and mighty yet she is texting some 20 yr old who at one point had rotting teeth because he didn't brush when he had braces.
She knew but she said she likes to control guys and younger ones are easier and older ones arent...she also went on to say that usually she treats older guys as sugar daddys and I was an "excpetion" lol cuz I was seriously buying her zero just 20 dollar meals.
This whole time the 20 yr old coming to drive from out of stste kind of loomed over I didn't really talk about it but I knew there was a good chance of getting discarded right before the Dude was coming so I refused to get her anything because I know st the end of the day it would be a total waste.
2 nights ago I decided to text this other girl to see a movie to hedge my bet because the night before in bed her body language was getting cold so I felt something coming ..we go see a movie and I get a text from psycho...she asks me to go to Macy's to return someybujg i say let's go tomorrow I'm at the gym she said ok my mom will take me so I said I'll come over after the gym and she said ok.
I start to go to her house and text her and say I'm coming..she says "babe" don't because she is eating out wi th her mom and she'll text when she gets home I say ok...she texts later and says I'm going to bed early (it's 11) because I have blah blah to do. This is very uncharacteristic of her because she wants me around all the time..i try to call her no answer I know something is up.then I start texting what is wrong? Then she texts so I call and she doesn't answer so now I know something is really up....this goes on and I just start saying wtf is wrong with u she then goes on to text i just wanna be alone...i text whatever she refuses to amswer so then I'm finally like"if ur upset I didn't leave the gym to take u then I'm sorry didn't know it would upset u" because that is literally what it was she felt so hurt I didn't drop everything for her...then we get into sh1t talking to each other and starts asking me to buy her a chair that j was sitting on that she broke when she sat on top of me and to apologize to her for sending "horrific" messages abiit her going to macys with her mom whchh i never did I said send me a screenshot of what she was talking about but never did of cousre...we go at for hours she starts naming this that this that about me I fire back..she knows I'm not a pushover and she even told me before she wouldn't want to get into a full blown argument with me. I held back alot because she is mentally screwed up but I did say some things back...she told me guys get scared when she gets crazy and don't say anything back so she probably wasn't use to people arguing back..she was doing self projection identication at points and she just had alot of stuff on her list of things about me..she painted me black..i was saying messed up things back and said u wanna fix things let's fix it now if not then don't then she went on to say how it's tempting and how I'm cool and cute but then said ljbf i said no..we went back and forth for hours I said f it go be with whoever I don't give a f. Went to sleep
The next day I'm a little distraught obviously and I get a text from the narc I've known for 9 years (they know each other) she says so and so just texted me saying u said this that about me..the only thing I said really was that she was a narcissistic disordered person lol..she then texted me she's done with me I'm blocked yada yada I said go f urself both of u are pieces of sh1t..ive been thru 100 we are done phases so I'm not even worried....i text the bpd and tell her to stop texting her...we get into again for hours I say go be with someone else u won we aren't gonna talk i will leave u alone so u won..sent her a screen shot of the other girl saying she's coming to my house at 7..she called me immature for that pretty sure that zinged her tho lol...more sh1t talking between me and her i start saying messed up things but did significantly hold back she on the other hand let it all out but at the end of the day I don't care what she says because she can't phase me been numb from the other narc for years..i then go on to say she has bpd comorbid with npd antisocial and schizoid ...bssixally say go be with rotting teeth boy idgaf etc etc..she then says blah blah ur blocked.
I text her later on from my other number and say we said whatever to each other I'm not hurt in the slightest I'm sorry ur sorry so it's all whatever (I just kept saying whatever to keep it vague) then said we can be friends we can be enemies we can be frenimies be whatever we have no business dating each other ....i then said i can take her to her appointments unless it would too much for her to handle..i then said i sent her and edible hello kitty arrangement(inside joke) but canceled the order after I got the text from the narc.. i ended it with u wanna talknto me then talk to me u don't then don't we can be whatever so do whatever u want it's the US of A land of the free lolol.
I can guarantee the 20 yr old is coming now for sure...thats fine i got sh1 t to do..but now the question is will she cycle back around? The narc of 9 years got into epic epic things with me I have said the most fd up things to her but it was figt8ng back obviously but like i said it was never in a dating capacstiy...so I have no idea if she will hoover..i can kind of see the 20 yr old and her having a falling out or him going back to his state once it gets bad with her and possibly coming around..she is a hermit she doesnt leave her house barely and i live literslly 2 miles from her...but after what she was saying about all the issues she had I have no idea ...part of me says it's 60/40 She contacts me another part is saying she may never...everytime I had a blowup eith the other narc I was like no way will we ever talk again after what was said and done and I have obviously been wrong on that who knows.
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