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This is sad.

I have friend at work. We are in the co shooting league together. Great guy. I was just talking to another fella who told me this man had gone in for a physical and they suspected colon cancer. We, that's what it was. He had his entire colon removed yesterday. He's middle aged. Lotsa life left, the quality of which will now never be the same.

Plus, a business aquaintance of mine passed away yesterday.

Further, within the last few years, I have lost some really good friends. Some to taking their own lives and others to sudden sickness. All of them fine people.

I know this is depressing but geez. WTF!

I think when I get home tonight I'm gonna make it a point to tell the Mrs I love her and play with my dogs a bit.

And, feel fortunate I'm still swingin and duckin. Maybe I should start a bucket list.
 

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Hang in there..

It's tough sometimes, but it will change to good again. Up and down... As Warren Zevon said, "enjoy every sandwich."
 

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Knowing I could die at any moment makes me overcome my petty fears, and they are petty. I have nothing to lose I'm not getting out of here alive.
 

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The thing that gets me with all this is that except for one, all of my friends who died or got sick were in their 30's, 40's and 50's.

That's just not fair.
 

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5string said:
The thing that gets me with all this is that except for one, all of my friends who died or got sick were in their 30's, 40's and 50's.

That's just not fair.

I learned a long time ago that life is not fair. But it is what it is and have to accept that I have no control over it.

You know you're getting old when you are attending more funerals than weddings. It's a part of life. Two of my good friends died within the last year and a half and it truly was a wake up call.


The bigger picture has a way of sneaking up on you when you least expect it. I hope the younger "mature" men are at least somewhat aware that there will come a time of questioning and an existential crisis will hit them. Hopefully, they will have prepared themselves with the answers that'll let them move on with strength and courage.


Cheers!
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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romangod said:
I learned a long time ago that life is not fair. But it is what it is and have to accept that I have no control over it.

You know you're getting old when you are attending more funerals than weddings. It's a part of life. Two of my good friends died within the last year and a half and it truly was a wake up call.


The bigger picture has a way of sneaking up on you when you least expect it. I hope the younger "mature" men are at least somewhat aware that there will come a time of questioning and an existential crisis will hit them. Hopefully, they will have prepared themselves with the answers that'll let them move on with strength and courage.


Cheers!
I think I hit my "existential crisis" early. I often have thoughts about death...i.e. trying to imagine a world where I no longer exist, or about the insignificance and vulnerability of our world to...well, basically whatever.

Thinking about the vast lengths of empty space, about other stars billions of miles away where there may be life forms humanity will one day make contact with, but the technology will likely not exist (hell, the physics themselves may not be known) that will allow ME to ever reach those far-away places...I just won't live long enough.

I start to worry whether I've already missed out on some awesome experiences. Even dating will bring that into question...are all the "good women" already married off?

I'll tell you what bugs me the most...the older I get, the more I see "fellow" adults for what they really are, instead of what I imagined them to be back when I was young. I find it harder and harder to find sources of inspiration in the people around me, to find ways to "grow" that have any significance. I look around at the people close to me.

Sure, I may not be able to just spawn an empire out of nothing, but I expect to see the next small step I can take, the next thing to stick my nose into, maybe in the example of those around me. But it seems like the older I get, the less inspired people are...the more they are starting to reach points where they don't care to expand the breadth of their life experiences any more. No one wants to take anything to the next level...they "dabble" at best, just enough to learn the most basic parts of everything so they can pontificate with a bunch of other lazy, uninspired f*cks. Case in point...this forum. :p

I start to wonder if the loss of desire, of motivation, of will to change is a consequence of growing old...and I feel it in myself. Sometimes I feel like I'm fighting "growing up" because other "grown-ups" have lost their sense of wonder and passion for living...it's become "routine" for them.
 

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romangod said:
I learned a long time ago that life is not fair. But it is what it is and have to accept that I have no control over it.

You know you're getting old when you are attending more funerals than weddings. It's a part of life. Two of my good friends died within the last year and a half and it truly was a wake up call.


The bigger picture has a way of sneaking up on you when you least expect it. I hope the younger "mature" men are at least somewhat aware that there will come a time of questioning and an existential crisis will hit them. Hopefully, they will have prepared themselves with the answers that'll let them move on with strength and courage.


Cheers!

I have been starting to think about the bigger picture for about a year now... and sadly I don't have many answers. As you have a few years on me can you please share what you've learned.... It could be about God or Philosophy or whatever.... I feel like I am just floating around this earth until I die.
 

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Life is just that, until you're dead.

We'll all be "pushin up daisies". Just a matter of time.
 

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Reyaj said:
As you have a few years on me can you please share what you've learned.... It could be about God or Philosophy or whatever.... I feel like I am just floating around this earth until I die.

Have you got a couple of hours? :whistle:


What I've learned is too broad. Maybe if you had a specific question it might be a little easier.


Cheers!
 

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Regrets!!!! yes I have a few...i have lots!

if I could turn back time (and if this site had been around grrr) things would have been mighty different.
if you see something you want, desire, need...go for it (providing its legal and ethical, my only disclaimers). you dont want to be living with regret
 

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I have been starting to think about the bigger picture for about a year now... and sadly I don't have many answers. As you have a few years on me can you please share what you've learned.... It could be about God or Philosophy or whatever.... I feel like I am just floating around this earth until I die.
Age-old question man. Philosophy, religion, science...there are many approaches...why we are here is a bit of a mystery...personally I'd say there are many "levels" to life, and depending upon how deep you want to go in a certain direction there is surely quite a bit to learn.

try this: http://www.taoteching.org/

or this: http://www.erowid.org/plants/mushrooms/mushrooms.shtml
hehehe

"Life you see, is a mystery, nobody knows exactly why or how it be, why do you hold on when you ought to let go, tune on in and find your flow." :rockon:

And maybe it's too AFC and I'll get burned, but I would say: when you find something that really pulls at you [internal passion, internal identity] and you begin down that path, a whole new world opens up that you may never have thought possible--there are walls--there are resistances--but there are some fountains of discovery out there that just keep flowing.
 
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