I feel I've reached a point in my development where I can get in the flow, so to speak. There are probably a lot of people here who know what I am talking about. Those times when you are completely relaxed, able to shrug off negativity and enjoy yourself. And the girls easily come when you're in that state.
And then about half of the time I don't feel like that at all. I feel like the energy is getting sucked out of me in social situations. I get offended very easily and become depressed when a girl doesn't seem completely invested. In these situations I feel trapped by fear.
This is why I don't have trouble picking up girls at parties but I have difficulty getting into long-term relationships and relationships with girls at school. It's like one day I'll be on fire and the next I feel like ****.
The Power of Now explains that these feelings come from a surfacing of the pain-body, identification with the ego and the triumph of past and future over the Now. The solution presented, however, is vague and I have trouble applying it. The solution is basically to stop thinking about past and future and to separate yourself mentally from your mind. Needless to say it's easier said than done. What has helped you guys in eliminating this fear?
And then about half of the time I don't feel like that at all. I feel like the energy is getting sucked out of me in social situations. I get offended very easily and become depressed when a girl doesn't seem completely invested. In these situations I feel trapped by fear.
This is why I don't have trouble picking up girls at parties but I have difficulty getting into long-term relationships and relationships with girls at school. It's like one day I'll be on fire and the next I feel like ****.
The Power of Now explains that these feelings come from a surfacing of the pain-body, identification with the ego and the triumph of past and future over the Now. The solution presented, however, is vague and I have trouble applying it. The solution is basically to stop thinking about past and future and to separate yourself mentally from your mind. Needless to say it's easier said than done. What has helped you guys in eliminating this fear?