Emotions aren't bad if you control them, right?

[AlexKaiser]

A long time ago when I fell out with girls in high school I swore I would never feel anything again. I'd wish I was asexual because I didn't want to be attracted to them ever.

Then I grew up and realized I'd rather just enjoy company, laugh at jokes, and experience life than down sertraline and risperidone and slide through life feeling on the brink of sleep. While retiring these medications have evolved me to practice controlling my own emotions and differentiating myself from the depraved helpless professional victim/animefag/hardcore gamer community I used to be part of, I still have some way to go, now that I'm diving into THE GAME(tm).

Women want to make you jealous. Women want to make you mad. Women want to make you depressed. Guys want to make you feel inferior. **** tests are mosquitoes and haters are botflies, laying eggs in your skin to grow their maggots of insecurity.

What is one way you can learn to control your emotions around girls so when they attempt to control you or attack you mentally, they fail?

 

[Thorninmyside]

Not caring. I mean real "not caring" as a lifestyle, not some emo coping mechanism of hiding away from the world so it doesn't hurt you anymore.

Learning to control your emotions is the wrong question because it assumes that your emotions are valid (and that's woman talk). Your energy needs to be focused on self love and your own best interests and then you'll naturally get a feel for when someone is pulling you away from your position of strength. Build a warrior mindset and you'll feel a lot less like going full retard, and maintaining a lack of fear of losing because to put yourself first is to win.

"The art of war teaches us to rely not on the likelihood of the enemy’s not coming, but on our own readiness to receive him; not on the chance of his not attacking, but rather on the fact that we have made our position unassailable".
– Sun Tzu, The Art of War

 

[wifehunter]

"A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls."

- ESV

 

[Dingo]

Depends on which emotions...

No matter how in control you think you are sometimes they overwhelm you and beat you to a pulp....

Protect your heart...

 

[Plums]

Find another outlet for your emotional creativeness. Being male and emotional is not a weakness. In many ways men who have emotional natures are very strong. Your need to express your feelings rather than suck them inside where they can fester.
The most passionate love songs are written by men. Prose that rips the heart is often written by men. Think of it as having the ability to perform a great courtship dance.
Why do you think women love rock stars? Think of someone, like maybe Robert Plant when he was younger. Do you see him as unemotional? Watch a film of him. He is a quivering, screaming hunk of emotional sex. He is mesmerising.
Dealing with your own feelings of hurt is trial and error. Sometimes you just have to let it have you for a while and remind yourself that it is a temporary feeling. Don't bury the feelings and pretend you don't have them, that will just screw you up and is cowardly. A problem that a lot of men have is emotional cowardice.
Positive self talk is good and works. You may not feel it works while you are doing it, but like the gym, you won't immediately see the good but give it a few weeks and Bingo, suddenly the shape and strength comes. From that place of strength you will be able to better spot the damaged people and hone in on the undamaged.
So tell yourself the good story and not the bad story.
Listen to sound that has a frequency of 639Hz. Good for emotional pain.

 

[Reykhel]

Meditation...

Taking a few minutes out every day to be mindful. Sitting and observing yourself. Scanning your body and noticing where
there's tension. Purposely letting the tension go, in each part of your body. Observing your breathing. Counting the breath....1 as you breath
in 2 as you breath out.....up until a count of ten. Then starting again. Focusing on the breath and therefor focusing on the present moment.....

.....you lost count? because you got carried away on a though. What was it? Thoughts of food or sex? (sensory desire) Thoughts of anger? (ill will) Doubt? Sleepiness? (sloth and stupor ) That's ok, simply recognize it and let it go, returning to the breath........

Let the thoughts come and go, no grasping them. Like you are sitting at a riverbank and your watching the river going by. The river is your thoughts. Simply let them pass. Observe without grasping.

.....things that make us feel good?? We desire more and more....(GRASPING) ...Things that make us feel bad???? We want to run from them (AVERSION).......Just fvcking BE. Just BE. And Breath.

This is observing ego. You observe behaviors, but you don't hold on to them, judge them or react to them. You observe your feelings. You don't have to ascribe meaning. You just don't have to. Just observe.

You don't control your emotions. You create a space. A space in which you can observe them. You don't have to grasp your emotions an become reactory. Observing ego allows you to breath and observe what feeling is floating around. Observe it, but don't become it.

Simply choosing to observe your breath allows you that space to choose to be PROACTIVE instead of REACTIVE

 

[bigneil]

Exactly! Emotions aren't bad if you control them (with controlling them being defined as not expressing them to begin with).