The Duke
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I recently glanced over a book written by a woman for women regarding successful dating. There was a section that really hit home with me on why some of us have the issues we do with women and why the tools we use work.
The author basically explained how emotional maturity develops from childhood thru the early adult stages and why full development is critical for healthy adult relationships. If one does not fully develop in emotional maturity, they will likely not have the capacity to love.
The longer a person continues into adulthood without the essential skills of personal responsibility, empathy, and self control, the more likely they will have relationship problems with people, the law, or work.
Adults with these issues are often classified as having Cluster B disorders(Bipolar, Borderline, Narcissistic). It is highly unlikely that those with "stunted" emotional development will ever obtain what is necessary for long term relationship success.
"Those with these behaviors are typically motivated by their selfish desire, reward, or punishment, acknowledgment and recognition, or social acceptance or rejection - but not love. They feel a strong desire to find love, approval, and acceptance but make little to no connection to their responsibility to love someone. " This is why push/pull, limiting sex/attention is so powerful.
These people are much like children in adult bodies. Its like they never developed an understanding of the cause/effect relation of their ways. They often spent periods of their life drifting in and out of emotionally dark times often blaming the other person. It is all connected to their level of emotional maturity that did not fully develop in their teens. Most importantly: Empathy, Self Control, and Personal Responsibility.
How many girls have you been with that are lacking in those 3 things??? From my side of the fence, 99% of them suffer from these 3 things I just mentioned. And none of them had been diagnosed with any cluster B disorders, yet all took some form of mental medication to control behavior. lol, they all have their doctors wrapped around their fingers.
This is a side effect of the high divorce rate we have in this country. This is also a side effect of both parents working and no one making sure the child grows up correctly. This is what the "entitled" generation is made from. This is why dating women is what it is these days.
The author basically explained how emotional maturity develops from childhood thru the early adult stages and why full development is critical for healthy adult relationships. If one does not fully develop in emotional maturity, they will likely not have the capacity to love.
The longer a person continues into adulthood without the essential skills of personal responsibility, empathy, and self control, the more likely they will have relationship problems with people, the law, or work.
Adults with these issues are often classified as having Cluster B disorders(Bipolar, Borderline, Narcissistic). It is highly unlikely that those with "stunted" emotional development will ever obtain what is necessary for long term relationship success.
"Those with these behaviors are typically motivated by their selfish desire, reward, or punishment, acknowledgment and recognition, or social acceptance or rejection - but not love. They feel a strong desire to find love, approval, and acceptance but make little to no connection to their responsibility to love someone. " This is why push/pull, limiting sex/attention is so powerful.
These people are much like children in adult bodies. Its like they never developed an understanding of the cause/effect relation of their ways. They often spent periods of their life drifting in and out of emotionally dark times often blaming the other person. It is all connected to their level of emotional maturity that did not fully develop in their teens. Most importantly: Empathy, Self Control, and Personal Responsibility.
How many girls have you been with that are lacking in those 3 things??? From my side of the fence, 99% of them suffer from these 3 things I just mentioned. And none of them had been diagnosed with any cluster B disorders, yet all took some form of mental medication to control behavior. lol, they all have their doctors wrapped around their fingers.
This is a side effect of the high divorce rate we have in this country. This is also a side effect of both parents working and no one making sure the child grows up correctly. This is what the "entitled" generation is made from. This is why dating women is what it is these days.