Emotional control

[Themanthatcan]

I came to this site because one chick screwed me up big time.I was a complete AFC.Now she's back.And I'm coming to the realization that she has emotional control over me still.It's almost like everytime I'm around her I go on "auto-pilot AFC" mode.10 minutes after I can name what I did wrong and how to fix it.I'm not acting like I'm the catch. Day after day the same old line "How was your day" is getting very old.Conversation topics anyone?(Not weather,not how was your day).I need some fresh,new topic.And a way to invest my emotions elsewhere.

 

[Themanthatcan]

I'm beginning to question the reliability of this board.

 

[flexion_]

So what do want out of the woman that completely screwed you over? The solution is to cut contact with her.

You make you happy not women. Read the DJ bible.

 

[piranha45]

spin more plates, and stop spending time with her outside of sex
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=90482

 

[Jack McCrack]

Maybe you're relying on the board too much.

 

[Cod3r]

If you were fvcking a female of equal physical appearance you wouldn't be on here asking for conversation topics about a girl who could give less than a damn about you....


-Cod3r

 

[BigOlePappy]

fvck 30 other girls. you sound like you are still an AFC

 

[FM 3321]

I'm beginning to question the reliability of this board.

Trust me, this board is very reliable. Now about emotional control, you are in control of your emotions. It takes practice, skill and discipline to control your emotions and your reactions to your emotions. Learn how an alpha male acts around a woman he's attracted to and incorporate that into your behavior.

I still struggle with emotional control (who doesn't?) But it's gotten me way ahead of the game most guys play. Women let their emotions go wild, men control their emotions. Be a man.

 

[Cronus]

Try to understand this, internalize it

I came to this site because one chick screwed me up big time.I was a complete AFC.Now she's back.And I'm coming to the realization that she has emotional control over me still.It's almost like everytime I'm around her I go on "auto-pilot AFC" mode.10 minutes after I can name what I did wrong and how to fix it.I'm not acting like I'm the catch. Day after day the same old line "How was your day" is getting very old.Conversation topics anyone?(Not weather,not how was your day).I need some fresh,new topic.And a way to invest my emotions elsewhere.

I'm beginning to question the reliability of this board.

First, you can't expect any help in 30 mins. It will take probably a day or two for people to see this thread. I only check this forum after 12 when I am fixin to go to bed.

The bible has a whole section dedicated to conversation, read that if you want to be a better conversationalist.

The problem is that you have oneitis and you need to get over it. Many guys have already said that if you had another chick that it wouldn't matter who this chick was. So what if you have a bunch a memories with this one chick, build new ones with others. You have to understand that no girl is worth losing your manhood to (unless it is Eva Longoria, or she is AMAZING in bed and even then how much of your manhood does she require). Once you come to the realization that she is just another girl and that you deserve your own respect, this problem will disappear and you will laugh about it.

 

[Frink']

You guys make it sound like your big time players. From the looks of it, you've never been in his situation caus you sit on the nett all day and play world of warcraft or whatever.

Themanthatcan, don't rely on the boards. Ever. 99% of the *little boiz* here dont know what they're talking about. They feel so cool cause they read some posts in the bible. And when it comes to actually being with a girl in real life, it takes alot more than reading a few posts. But the dj bible has its use. What you need to do is to understand the dj bible (atleast the must reads to get how women think) and just get some experience. This is one of your learning experiences. Experience makes you better. You have to make a councious desition to not be afc. It will probobly be uncomfortable. If you fail, try again.

I would say don't dump her. Use her as a learning tool. And stop letting her control you emotionally. Be an ass if you have to.

 

[Frink']

My post was obviously directed at the asses in this thread.