Embarrassed as hell, especially cuz I shouldn't be having this issue, but I cant get hard...

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Well I can, say we're cuddling or some sh!t and I feel her squeezing me tight. I dunno the fvck why, but I get hard from that. Or if we are being playful and messing around, it's like I get hard. But then when it comes down to it all, I cant get hard from fingering her or feeling her up really. Only if she's laying against me. Then (feel free to flame me for this) I lose my erection and I mean ****, I'm 17 years old, this shouldn't be happening to me right now. And here's the thing: I feel no nervousness at all. I don't feel awkward or anything. I just dont get it. This never really happened any other time, I mean if say at a school dance I feel a girl up while dancing with her, you better believe that my friend Johnny is gonna perk up like no other, and I'm usually a bit nervous when I feel a chick up at a dance. But for some reason when I try to escalate to sex, I cant do it. It just goes away. Maybe because I'm NOT nervous? Wtf is going on here?

I do jack it quite a bit which could be the issue so maybe im desensitized to everything? Or maybe porn? But even during the dances I still jacked it while watching porn and still got hard at the smell of a girl.

Any ideas? Also, I apologize for this thread as it's probably really weird to read and discus about such an issue. But it's just embarassing and I need help.

 

[skinnyguy]

Go 30 days no fap

You need to fantasize about your girlfriend instead of porn

 

[playa99]

It sounds psychological to me, I used to have this issue at a similar age. Though I didn't care to admit it at the time, it was suppressed nerves. Even though I didn't feel nervous, because I didn't get it up one time it was in the back of my mind!

Jack the porn in, doesn't do you any good! No fap before a date. Push through to S3x a few times and this issue will go away, it did for me!

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

You have conditioned yourself to only *** when fapping. Other stimuli like fingering aint gonna do it.
Although I am way older (so I have more excuses) there ate times when even though I am super turned on by the woman I am with I cant get hard.
No big deal. Some lube and a hand job gets me hard enough to **** and once I am ****ing there are no more problems. In fact it is a bonus because my girlfriend likes watching me jerk off and I can **** harder and faster without worrying about popping too soon.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Causes (I have found): stress, excess fap, too much drink, hard drugs, poor diet, lack of exercise, lack of attraction.

Fixes: I have definitely noticed a great improvement in this area from the following....

-Once / one day a week fap, average. Zero fap on the other days. Usually a down day, like a Sunday.
-Reducing stress by excluding unreliable, undesirable and demanding people from life.
-Exercise at least three times a week. Heavy weights. This means exercise to exhaustion = increased testosterone and blood flow.
-Eating a mix of muesli and porridge oats most days. This stuff naturally unclogs blood vessels and therefore increased blood flow. Plus an otherwise balanced diet
-Reduction of booze; eradication of all recreational drugs, save a couple or three times a year smoke.

After observing this for a good 3months I no longer have any problems; in fact get woken up in the middle of the night and most mornings by my little friend.

 

[CMNILS87]

No jerking off. Stop it,

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Causes (I have found): stress, excess fap, too much drink, hard drugs, poor diet, lack of exercise, lack of attraction.

Fixes: I have definitely noticed a great improvement in this area from the following....

-Once / one day a week fap, average. Zero fap on the other days. Usually a down day, like a Sunday.
-Reducing stress by excluding unreliable, undesirable and demanding people from life.
-Exercise at least three times a week. Heavy weights. This means exercise to exhaustion = increased testosterone and blood flow.
-Eating a mix of muesli and porridge oats most days. This stuff naturally unclogs blood vessels and therefore increased blood flow. Plus an otherwise balanced diet
-Reduction of booze; eradication of all recreational drugs, save a couple or three times a year smoke.

After observing this for a good 3months I no longer have any problems; in fact get woken up in the middle of the night and most mornings by my little friend.

Its probably stress and excess fap, though I'm not sure what I may be stressed about. I don't drink or do any drugs, I am in pretty good physical condition, and overall I am pretty horny because doing 'stuff' with chicks is almost always on the back of my mind. I think I'll push for it more naturally and have some more plaful fun cuz apparently my body considers that as foreplay.

 

[JohnChops]

You don't have to stop jerking off. Cut back, see how that works. That happened to me and my ex gf awhile ago, was stressed with exams and jerking it every day = no erections. Stopped jerking off so much and it fixed the issue.