Ego was blasted today...HB says she smiled at me just to "return the favor"

[GropeDope]

There's no purpose of this thread other than to share a ****ty experience I had today. You can laugh, insult, criticize or say something positive to me, but it won't matter cause the damage was done already today and I'm pretty much over it now.

Today in the mall after I finished returning some pants that didn't fit me, I decided to try some pickups to kill time cause my hair was styled well and I had some nice clothes on. In fact, the saleswoman, though she was in her 30s, was the one who complimented how I had my hair done, without me saying a word to her. Looking back, I wish I just left.

So there I am, walking out of the store with money back inside of my wallet and my ego a little rasied, and my head is turned to the left to look at people walking in the opposite direction, scanning for HBs. All of a sudden I turn my head back to facing straight forward, and I see this HB 7 brunette 25 feet away pop out of nowhere from an escalator, who is now walking towards my direction. I'm locked right on her eyes which at first were looking around, and then a few seconds later she finally sees me and she locks onto my eyes. I pull up a smile (like a smirk) and also make my upper eyelids close down a little to give off the "damn I think you're hot" look, and she responds with a BIG ass smile that expose her bright white teeth.

We're finally within 4 feet of each other when I stop her with this opener, "I wanted you to know that I think you're stunning." She thanks me and blushes, but right before I can even finish introducing myself, she interrupts me with this bs:

"Yeah sorry I'd love to talk to you but if I do I'm going to be late for a dinner with my boyfriend." Stunned by this, I said to her, "Why did you even bother to smile at me if you weren't interested in talking to me?"

She paused for 3 seconds and then told me that, "you look really cute but I was just returning the favor," (from the smile I gave her) "but I didn't think you would be the kind of guy that would actually stop me right here and have a talk."

Damn. For some ****ed up reason, I took it all as a direct insult/rejection, and my ego got so badly blasted by those comments, that I just cooly said to her, "K later," and walked away. She didn't look back either.

Needless to say, my pickup attempts instantly ended right then and there and I felt like **** after that.

Now that I've gotten it off my chest on this forum, I feel better though. Thanks.

 

[Santos]

It's not really a rejection. I don't think the BF was an excuse to reject you. I think it's the truth. She sees an attractive guy smile at her, she feels good about herself and smiles back - not expecting you to DO anything.

 

[Mr. Latte]

When I read the beginning of your post, ("you can laugh at me, insult me, blah blah blah") I was expecting some wussy cop-out. You did well. Congrats

 

[enkai]

Originally posted by GropeDope
There's no purpose of this thread other than to share a ****ty experience I had today. You can laugh, insult, criticize or say something positive to me, but it won't matter cause the damage was done already today and I'm pretty much over it now.

Today in the mall after I finished returning some pants that didn't fit me, I decided to try some pickups to kill time cause my hair was styled well and I had some nice clothes on. In fact, the saleswoman, though she was in her 30s, was the one who complimented how I had my hair done, without me saying a word to her. Looking back, I wish I just left.

So there I am, walking out of the store with money back inside of my wallet and my ego a little rasied, and my head is turned to the left to look at people walking in the opposite direction, scanning for HBs. All of a sudden I turn my head back to facing straight forward, and I see this HB 7 brunette 25 feet away pop out of nowhere from an escalator, who is now walking towards my direction. I'm locked right on her eyes which at first were looking around, and then a few seconds later she finally sees me and she locks onto my eyes. I pull up a smile (like a smirk) and also make my upper eyelids close down a little to give off the "damn I think you're hot" look, and she responds with a BIG ass smile that expose her bright white teeth.

We're finally within 4 feet of each other when I stop her with this opener, "I wanted you to know that I think you're stunning." She thanks me and blushes, but right before I can even finish introducing myself, she interrupts me with this bs:

"Yeah sorry I'd love to talk to you but if I do I'm going to be late for a dinner with my boyfriend." Stunned by this, I said to her, "Why did you even bother to smile at me if you weren't interested in talking to me?"

She paused for 3 seconds and then told me that, "you look really cute but I was just returning the favor," (from the smile I gave her) "but I didn't think you would be the kind of guy that would actually stop me right here and have a talk."

Damn. For some ****ed up reason, I took it all as a direct insult/rejection, and my ego got so badly blasted by those comments, that I just cooly said to her, "K later," and walked away. She didn't look back either.

Needless to say, my pickup attempts instantly ended right then and there and I felt like **** after that.

Now that I've gotten it off my chest on this forum, I feel better though. Thanks.

I don't know why you took that as an insult, you had the balls to goto upto a hot chik and talk to her, that's something 90% of the guys arn't able to do, did you notice how surprised she was when you did it, so you're the man here, it's all about the experience and getting the skill, forget her and at leaset she was beng honest with you and didn't **** ya and gave you fake digits or something to make herself feel good.

 

[Click Here]

dude. that was all good. jesus dont OD when some girl ACTUALLY blasts your ego like saying "**** off you creepy mother ****er"

 

[MrBond007]

Originally posted by GropeDope
She paused for 3 seconds and then told me that, "you look really cute but I was just returning the favor," (from the smile I gave her) "but I didn't think you would be the kind of guy that would actually stop me right here and have a talk."

Lets analyse this:

She paused for 3 seconds and then told me that, "you look really cute but I was just returning the favor," (from the smile I gave her)

This girl is probably a good socialist and knows how to behav in society.She was just pointing out that it would have been rude to ignore you.Besides,she threw you a compliment.


"but I didn't think you would be the kind of guy that would actually stop me right here and have a talk."

She was stunned by the balls you had to aproach her.She might not have been interested but she still took good note of your boldness.

This would have been a good idea to tell her stuff to let her knoiw you are more than you look or to ask her if the others guys are fleeing her for some reason(*grin*).Wathever.

 

[learningtopimp]

Dude this girl was probably surprised by the confidence to come up to her in a setting like this and talk...and hey she thinks you are cute that is a good sign for the future. I feel ya, but really it's a positive sign for you in the future.

 

[iqqi]

Stunned by this, I said to her, "Why did you even bother to smile at me if you weren't interested in talking to me?"

hope you just said this because you where in "stun". never expect something from someone just because they smile at you!

hahahaha!

 

[Slickster]

She was digging you but had a boyfriend. Too bad, but so what.

She did compliment you. You're being too hard on yourself.

Should have responded with a C+F line to the "I have a bf" response. There have been tons of those posted here.

 

[Julian]

I would definetly not have opened with "your stunning"

I would have just said hi, and introduced myself, asked her name etc. Then when she interrupts with the boyfriend comment i would have matter of factly replied with-

"Oh really? What a coincidence, i was actually JUST going to pick up my girlfriend, looks like we're both taken...but hey, that doesnt mean we cant be friends right?" with possibly a mischevious grin on my face, or maybe just a sincere friendly smile,with some intrigued and raised eyebrows. Or some sh1t lol i havent decided yet.

She would most likely respond with a "oh yeah for sure" at that point i would have been like "well how about you give me your number and we can go out as friends sometime"

She would then hand out the number and damn now your pimp stylin and heading off to your imaginary girlfriend lmao.

 

[StockTrader]

I really don't think this was a blow to your ego at all. Actually an ego booster:

She complimented you. Not all HB's do that.

She took note of your confidence and boldness. You stopped a cutie and talked to her and the vast majority of guys in the mall wouldn't have had the cajones to do that.

She gave a valid reason IMO for not going any father with it. It was probably the truth.

I don't think the returning smile favor overruled these other factors. Overall she liked you more than she disliked you.

If that same scenario happened 10x times, you'd easily land at least a few dates and/or hookups.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

I think your big mistake was in your opener. Have read about compliments? They should be used sparingly. At least she wasn't a HB9, then she probably would have blown you off completely when you complimented her looks. If I was in your position, after locking EC I would have said "Hi, I really wanted to meet you." You have the confidence part down, you just need better material to work with.







PIMP

 

[doctoroxygen]

I would say "You should probably leave a little earlier so you have more time for stuff like this. Have fun!" and then smile ingratiatingly at her and strut away.

 

[A1SteakSauce]

Here's what happened:

You gave the EC, she liked, she gave it back. Good.

Then you complimented a hottie on looks. Oops. Then she lost all interest, you are instantly another drooling dude instead of the man she wants. You got the brushoff.

Then you showed that ** you didn't understand ** the brushoff by asking her why she smiled at you. Dude, *never* ask a woman why she did anything provocative, it's cornering a cat and they will scratch. It's like you called her a slut.

So then she basically explained to you that she had no interest in you. That is anti-slut ******** saying, "No, I didn't give you any buying signals." BS, she did, but she'll never admit it now that she decided you're not an upgrade from the current BF.

But then you *believed* her anti-slut BS and got hurt. You never want to give them the chance to explain how they aren't interested in you b/c it *will* hurt every time. It's a gut punch. We men always believe women when they say our **** is smaller than the other guys.

But the good news: you've got the balls so you can learn the moves. The BF statement was a brushoff but also a test. If she said Husband, that means Game Over. When single white chicks go to India and are afraid of getting assaulted they say Husband not boyfriend. When women say BF -- even Fiancee -- they wait to see the reaction. They are comparing you against their man to see how they did. If you are an available stud, they may decide to upgrade. And they are still shopping until the wedding bells ring even if they claim from here to high heaven that they aren't. (And, they are quite often still shopping after the wedding bells ring, too, in my experience).

Anyway, you're still in play, although it's a clutch situation. You have to show you are the better offer, and there's about one second before the shot clock expires. So you say, "Well, we don't want him getting all pissy on us. Let's do drinks later in the week. Here's my number (and get hers)."

This is powerful b/c you show her that you intend to have her regardless (women love a man who knows what he wants, esp. when it's them) and another man is not a problem. Also, you cast the other guy as the AFC for doing the dinner date (supplication) and getting all anal about the timeframe (gay). Best of all, you just made it like you are both planning to sneak around him. Women *love* being in on little conspiracies. It makes their boring as **** world of makeup and gossip spin a little faster.

Of course, it's impossible to think of this on the spot, but now that you've done it once, you can do the same thing again. Find a hottie in the mall, make EC, do the AFC, "You are stunning," get the BF brushoff, and pull the reversal. It will take her breath away, and you may very well get the digits (b/c if you are upgrade material, he's not *really* a BF, after all, it's amazing how quick that can change).

A1

Note: If by some chance you catch a live one who says, "Listen, Ahole, I just told you that I have a Boyfriend -- " cut her off with something like, "No need to get huffy, dear, you'll find him at the dildo convention next door" as you rapidly put some distance between yourselves. Just keep walking away b/c some of them b!tches is dangerous not to mention their controlling insecure BF's.

 

[myfriendblu]

Yea it wasn't to bad. Like most RAFC's, your ego and emotions are WAY to fragile. Its pretty easy to see that from your post. You need to grow some thicker skin dude.