Ego stability?

[Santos]

Hey guys

I've read something very interesting about how as human beings, we often attribute emotions we are feeling to what is happening in our environment (even though it may have NOTHING to do with why you feel this way). When a woman breaks up with you or you have oneitis and you feel you have lost your true "love" it is because your ego has been shattered. You feel the need for that person to take you back so you can feel better about yourself. Some of us mistake this "feeling" for love, not realising it is actually just your EGO that has been hurt. You feel worthless because this person has made you feel special and now it has been taken away.

This is the biggest cause of oneitis and mistaken feelings of love. If you never have any women in your life (due to you not taking action/being rejected often) and suddenly one comes along that likes you. She has sex with you. She likes being with you. She says she love you. Your ego is boosted, you feel great. You have a purpose. This person makes you feel SPECIAL. Then when she leaves you, you're ego is shattered and you cry like some little sissy. I don't mean to offend anyone with this, I do believe in true love but I think a lot of us THINK we are in love when we are not. I believe love takes a long time, and should be more than how the othe rperson makes you feel about yourself.

So, master DJ's. How can I protect my ego from this damage? Everytime this chick doesn't call me I feel hurt, and it pisses me off. If we get on well then I feel confident. How do I ensure that my ego remains stable?

Comments/advice appreciated.
Santos

 

[Player_Supreme]

1. Process not Outcome:

Learn to focus on enjoying fuc*king with bi*tches. Learn to enjoy jerking her chain. Don’t worry about the outcome. Put yourself in the mindset where your enjoyment comes from ****ing with her and not the getting those panties.

Now don’t get this twisted. Your goal is still to put the biatch on your team, but you gotta do your **** with balance. Not feigning like the werewolf of London. You wanna use a mellow laid back ****y approach on the *****. Show her your not intimidated because she is a dime piece.

By focusing on the Process you take all the stress outta getting the Outcome.

2. Complaining =Powerlessness=Symp. Shut the **** up about ****. Don’t whine about your problems to ho’s. This sh*it makes you look weak and powerless. Real men make their problems go the **** away. Symps whine about theirs. To the ho’ your life is a paradise and you wanna sell her a ride on it of course for a price.
3. Don’t babble on about **** that interest yo ass, talk about her life. This **** amazes me that symps do this over & over again. Talk about themselves trying to impress b*itches into liking them. Biatches are sitting there with a fake smile on their faces wondering WHAT THE FU*CK THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT.
4. Don’t spill your guts about yourself. Bleed this shi*t out slowly. The less they know about you the better. Don’t be that desperate loser mutha ****a who has a desire to share his pathetic little life with a biatch. Don’t talk about your early childhood fears, traumas, how you were potty trained, I mean nothing Create an air of mystery. Like I said before *****es love this ****.

**********

Don't take them seriously! It's here today gone tommorow with some women. Laugh and have fun!

 

[Player_Supreme]

I was at the local Starbucks this morning observing as usual. There is this little latin breezy who comes there with a symp friend who sits and listens to her troubles with men.
It occurred to me that women really are Utilitarian in their relationships.

Women actually don’t like other women. With only a few desirable Males around, women are fierce competitors and are not afraid of fighting dirty. All is fair in love and war should be their moto.

How many times have you seen a b*tch look at her “caller id” and say Oh no its so & so, I don’t want to talk to her right now. And that’s her best friend. I’ve seen emergency situations and *****es are with me and they will avoid their best friends.

How many times have you been walking with the b*tch and she will spot her friend and say Oh sh*t it’s so & so…I hope she didn’t see us. And if the other b*tch did see you guy’s your b*tch will put on her Game Face and act like she’s ecstatic to have bumped into her “friend”.

*****es don’t like each other as much and the NEED each other. Friends are useful. Someone to chat it up with. Someone to compare notes with. Someone to ask favors from. Someone to lean on when sh*t with yo’ ass turns bad. Someone to get leads on other mutha ****as from. To put it point blank Utilitarian Relationships.

*****es are also utilitarian in their relationships with men too. They use us pimp style men for great sex and superior offspring. They use the lesser men (symps), lower ranking men for male attention. Women don’t need these ****ers sexual offerings and are actually designed by evolution to not want their sexual offerings. Remember they are programmed to look for the stronger males in the pack.

I feel for the poor symp who is always sitting with this fine assed latina listening to her stories, hoping for a chance that maybe on a good day one day in the far future she might bless him with the possibility of sex.
_________________
Play the game or get played by the game, your choice. In the art of love their are no victims only volunteers.

 

[RawkinKaoticStyle]

there are you happy!! ?

 

[Santos]

Originally posted by RawkinKaoticStyle
hahaha ohh shyt

?

 

[b's nuts]

bump

 

[Click Here]

bump this i like the concept at the beginning

 

[squirrels]

Ego has really NO business in romance, but it'll creep in there. As men, we have very competitive self-images, so when we land a hot babe, we naturally compile that into our "resume" to be more "competitive." In other words, it becomes a part of our ego.

A real man builds his ego out of the sum of his EXPERIENCES and what he's LEARNED from them. Things come and go...and all things go when we die. Experiences are something no one can take from us, even after death, and are worth so much more than things.

Don't focus on the girl as the end goal. Focus on the experience of your time with her...the time you met, the time you made out, the time she broke your heart...all this becomes a part of you, not her HERSELF. Then she can never be taken away.

I feel compelled to quote Ja Rule here (sorry. ) :

I'm talkin 'bout good livin'
Are you here? You wit' us?
If not, boo, you know what?
I still F**KED you.

 

[Santos]

Originally posted by squirrels
I'm talkin 'bout good livin'
Are you here? You wit' us?
If not, boo, you know what?
I still F**KED you.

LOL, I like. Thanks for the reply.

 

[becker]

Originally posted by Player_Supreme
I was at the local Starbucks this morning observing as usual. There is this little latin breezy who comes there with a symp friend who sits and listens to her troubles with men.
It occurred to me that women really are Utilitarian in their relationships.

Women actually don’t like other women. With only a few desirable Males around, women are fierce competitors and are not afraid of fighting dirty. All is fair in love and war should be their moto.

How many times have you seen a b*tch look at her “caller id” and say Oh no its so & so, I don’t want to talk to her right now. And that’s her best friend. I’ve seen emergency situations and *****es are with me and they will avoid their best friends.

How many times have you been walking with the b*tch and she will spot her friend and say Oh sh*t it’s so & so…I hope she didn’t see us. And if the other b*tch did see you guy’s your b*tch will put on her Game Face and act like she’s ecstatic to have bumped into her “friend”.

*****es don’t like each other as much and the NEED each other. Friends are useful. Someone to chat it up with. Someone to compare notes with. Someone to ask favors from. Someone to lean on when sh*t with yo’ ass turns bad. Someone to get leads on other mutha ****as from. To put it point blank Utilitarian Relationships.

*****es are also utilitarian in their relationships with men too. They use us pimp style men for great sex and superior offspring. They use the lesser men (symps), lower ranking men for male attention. Women don’t need these ****ers sexual offerings and are actually designed by evolution to not want their sexual offerings. Remember they are programmed to look for the stronger males in the pack.

I feel for the poor symp who is always sitting with this fine assed latina listening to her stories, hoping for a chance that maybe on a good day one day in the far future she might bless him with the possibility of sex.
_________________
Play the game or get played by the game, your choice. In the art of love their are no victims only volunteers.

Very nice observation, Player_Supreme, bravo, very true in many ways. A girl once told me that girls are just b*tches toward each other, and I've seen it.

It's just so funny how a girl will compliment another girl on her clothes or whatever, and turn around the next second and totally diss her. It never fails too, it happens no matter how nice the girl is, and not matter how close friends they are.

 

[iqqi]

great post santos, you are on my wise list.

once you are truly secure with yourself and you have a good understanding of human nature, you will know just what to say to your little ego baby to make it feel all better. goo goo ga ga.

here is a thread asking how "higher status" DJ's deal with oneitis. has some good points. yo.

 

[Psycho`Sexual]

Originally posted by Santos
Then when she leaves you, you're ego is shattered and you cry like some little sissy.

Very good!


Almost all emotions which cause tears are created by your ego. Whether it be "happyness" or "tears of joy" anytime you feel like crying its due to your ego.


My solution? Indulge in REAL emotions. LAUGH. As laughter is almost the opposite of crying, pure emotions cause laughter/bliss/ecstacy.

Become a FUN person. Become optomistic. LOVE life. And LAUGH.