Ebs and Flows?

[Buddha_Mind]

Do you find that your game with women comes in ebs and flows?

Perhaps in some ways just like life, there are days of extreme clarity. However, they too are balanced by days of fog and haze and confusion.

I'm not sure if any formula/methodology will ever fit life or women to any exact mold. There is truth that some AFC behavior can turn women off (****, this would turn off anyone...being needy or dependent...when was the last time you enjoyed talking to anyone like this?).

It seems to me even the best player with the greatest game could still end up with some sort of failed marriage or relationship. How can he control everything? How can we predict everything? Seems human beings are so dynamic and complex, along with the ebs and flows of life itself, how can we ever be sure?

I've been sick recently, thus my conscious state has been knocked to a different place, thus also affecting my mojo. Without all of this testosterone kicking (held back by physical sickness), seems I'm looking at things just a bit differently. Perhaps I've been pvssed out in these last few days.

I'm interested in perspectives. I believe that becoming good with women, is like anything else -- it takes work, especially times when we are struggling to keep our motivation and focus. This is no different for other personal goals such as fitness or finances, ect.

How do you all get through your periods of scarcity or frustration?

peace.

 

[Warrior74]

How do you all get through your periods of scarcity or frustration?
peace.

I'm going through a period of scarcity right now. I've been through it before and probably will again. The difference is, in the past when I hit a severe drought I would go into a severe negative mind state. I would blame everything for my problems but me. I would hate the world. And subconsciously hate myself for being so pathetic. Now, I look at it as time to get my sh1t together. Time to refocus my mind on my goals and dreams outside of getting women. Time to work on making my life better. There will always be women, new ones come on the market every day. Just because my personal flow of women has dried up, doesn't mean that women really are scarce. I just haven't done any work on getting out there to get them. And really I could be doing so much more with my life than chasing tail. It's funny, looking back...its when I quit thinking about women and focused on getting my ducks in a row, that's when I usually get a lot of female attention.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

If we are to quantifiably measure success with women as "how much we are getting" at any given time, it would seem that women are a paradox compared to all other pursuits of life: when you honestly stop giving a sh!t, they come flooding out of the woodwork. I have seen this time and time again in my life, when I was the most focused on picking up women I struck out constantly. Since my attention has been put almost entirely on building my practice, they're coming after me again.

So the question is, how does one maintain a healthy degree of male sexual aggression while actually getting laid? I don't give a sh!t what anyone sais, the concept of positive masculinity is so foreign to most women that when they see it, they don't know what the hell they're looking at. I love to beat my chest about grabbing women by the back of the neck as much as the next guy, but in real life that sh!t only works a small percentage of the time and most of the ONS I've had were a result of her coming onto me out of the blue.

The ebbs and flows of the Newtonian laws of pvssy, lol.

So perhaps the way our posters may best be served, is to forget the laws of pickup, and focus on building that business or founding that grass-roots political movement or writing that book or whatever actions a man has on the backburner of his consciousness while GETTING PVSSY is at the front. Men who make great things, need not be worried about the nuts and bolts of getting women, for his cup overfloweth (with pvssy).

 

[Proselytiser]

I like what Warrior said. Yes there are going to be 'dry patches', 'periods of scarcity' whatever you want to call them. It is all about what you do with these periods.

In 33 Strategies of War, Greene talks about the usefulness of retreat and peacetime if you use them to gather your thoughts and strategise for the future. Machiavelli has talked about this also.

What Warrior did in the past, is wasting that time. What he is doing now, is using that time as best he can. If you put a positive spin on your 'dry spell' you can use it to great advantage.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear All,
A very good question,and all the replies,perceptive indeed.Bio rhythms govern all life in all its various activities...I read somewhere years ago that a Japanese Taxi firm checked out the Bio Rhythms of all its Drivers,insisting that on their bad Days they have a paid holiday....The result a big improvement on their safety record and accident and Insurance costs....Haven't you noticed how Luck comes in patches,in general if one Woman finds you attractive one day the chances are increased that other Ladies will feel similarly...If you dip out in the morning,then stay in bed the rest of the day...I noticed in Internet Dating that you had no interest maybe for a fortnight, then in quick succession you got maybe four contacts in a row,bit like catching buses,you wait for twenty minutes,start to walk and bugger me three come along to pass you,one after the other

 

[Buddha_Mind]

These are good replies. I believe there is definite truth to the idea that by pursuing your own goals and forms of personal development, women will flow more naturally. This is because when we are happy and working to develop ourselves, our relationships with everyone around us can also improve. Rather than focusing on shortcomings and faults (our own and others), we are often more enabling and encouraging - also becoming more magnetic.

But I believe that ups and downs are natural, and occur in all realms of our life. I suppose we ought to enjoy the ups, grow positively, and in the downs focus on what we do have control over and keep working towards what we find to be good. Its all progress either way, as long as we don't give up and keep working.