During an approach after how many sh1t tests do you move on

isasda66

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Approach. Got chatting and then first **** test was about age. Which then moved into not being professionally appropriate since she works for the school cafeteria. Then it moved on to not knowing me enough for a number but offered snapchat/instagram. I offered my email and linkedin. But realised it was going dry. Spoke a bit more then moved on.

I knew they were sh1t tests since she was still laughing but after a point it;s exhausting. Almost feels like a performance.
 
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Generally, I expect a few shvt tests to be thrown at me earlier on because of the nature of women in general. For example, if she leaves me on read or isn't initiating anything, I send a "Just checking to see if you are alive" message or something like that. If the shvt continues after that then I next her and move on.
 

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I sh!t test them back, see if they can take it. If not, I lose interest. I can take sh!t tests all day long, I will outlast any woman at that game. The moment you start taking any of it seriously is the moment you kill the vibe.
 

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Depends if I want to play.
If I want to play I know what to do.
If I’m not in the mood then one test and I move on.

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Depends on the context. If it's at a bar/club on a weekend I'd be okay with a couple. If it's a "warm" approach or an approach in the day in a relaxed environment? I'd quite frankly not tolerate much shvt testing. Another example: if it's a first date and they shvt test me when I try to bring them home? Completely normal and expected.

I used to think shvt tests were almost a compliment (after all, women don't shvt test bums) but on the other hand, would they shvt test Leo Decaprio? No. So where's the line? I think shvt tests are usually a sign that they see potential but they don't quite know yet if you're the real deal.

Shvt tests can sometimes be insulting (moreso in the context of a relationship) because it means they are willing to risk throwing away an opportunity with you just to satisfy any shred of doubt that inhabits them. If you were high value enough they would do everything they could to keep you interested.

I firmly believe going after low-interest women is a huge waste of time. So, their degree of shvt testing can be used as a gauge to determine if they're worth pursuing or not.
 
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I have a zero shyt test policy.
But one has to be able to distinguish shyt tests (basically the woman showing disrespect to you) from her indirectly saying that she's not interested/your approach is off. From OP I'd say it's more of the latter.
 

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One thing I've read from a few different people is that most guys bail too early on the interactions before they gave an opportunity for the woman to warm up to them and if they would simply stay a little longer and act nonplussed or even joke with them if they are being difficult it tends to break the ice and help warm them up...

I've never been great at this, but it is interesting
 
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