Dumpings by women

[Full circle]

I was just wondering how many of you have been dumped by women at some point in your relationships? And what eventually followed i.e., how you handled it and did she contact you later on her own?

The reason for this query is simply to determine if a breakup initiated by woman is any different from men. And considering their irrational behavior do realize at some point that they were "too quick" to judge.

Thanks for helping me see this insight.

 

[Royal-tiger]

I believe the termination of a relationship is only different in the sense that women, in general, tend to avoid confrontation. So they may end it quite unexpectedly/abruptly. The real problem is it is extremely difficult to read the oncoming of such a breakup unless you are REALLY paying attention to sublimal details.

As regards getting back together, it depends on the age of the relationship. The longer it is, the more glue there is.

However, getting back together (to avoid pain/vaccum) is not wise. Chances are it will never work second time as well.

In my month-long relationship, I did not see any warning sign. That's why, I am just surprised. Will she come back and contact me? I will say absolutely not considering the nature of termination from her side.

 

[AndoraStar]

Finally there's some intellegence on this baord.. well said guys

 

[smooth666]

I think for girls it is much harder to get along with a breakup initiated by the man.
I know a lot of girls who were fine after dumping their BFs but when they got dumped themselves for the first time,they would be REALLY down and get a confidence crash. Some even told me they "admired" their BF even more for doing so (whatever chick logic).

I agree, my first breakup by a woman was completely out of the blue.

 

[AndoraStar]

breakups are painful either way.. When I broke up w/ my ex I missed him w/ all my heart. But it had to be done. We still talk, and maybe w/ a little bit of growing up we can work up again.

basically BREAKUPS suck ASS!! either way!

 

[GaryNas]

Break ups are horrible. I've been in a LTR for 6 years where we've broken up 4 times.

1st time (after 1.5 years) - I called her and she said she didn't want to see me anymore. I literally cried for days and broke down. Strangely we got back together soon after

2nd time (5 months later) - She told me I was mean and she met someone else. Again, I cried for a few days, but got over it quick and started messing around with other girls. When she found out what I was doing she realized that she missed me and I was a nice guy. We got back together again.

3rd time (June 2002) - She said things weren't working out and that she met a guy she can talk to. I told her to stay the f**k away from me and never talk to me again. I hit the gym, the clubs, and some girls and had a good time. Somehow we got back together.

4th time (June 2003) - I grew some balls and broke up with her for the sole purpose of messing around with other girls. We got back together just before school started (and after I hit up some ladies).

Rocky relationship, but we're still together, although I still have a craving to mess around with other girls. A craving I will follow through on, starting tomorrow night!

Anyway, those are my breakup experiences.

 

[jbbrain]

Excuse my bluntness, but your relationship (^) screams of "not worth it"..

is it?

 

[Ricky]

Damn I've been through some of the same **** in my 2+ years with my girlfriend.

Ups and downs, breakups, dating other women, etc.

I'm glad to find someone who has gone through something similar.

 

[zimzum]

girls allways give signs...sometimes we just dont want to see them...

that's why , when she tells us that she's running away with the "pizza boy" we are so surprised... And we would like to have revenge...a second chance..

The only reason I'd like to get a GF back would be to take away that sour taste of revenge...

 

[GaryNas]

Excuse my bluntness, but your relationship (^) screams of "not worth it"..

It seems like it's a messed relationship, but it's worth it. I know we're going to get married someday, but not before at least one more breakup. Everytime we broke up our relationship grew stronger. Besides, she's super hot and buys me stuff (got new shoes tonight).