Dumping A Hot Woman!

[soulforge]

hi guys

i recently dumped my girlfriend of 2 years... she was the hottest woman i have dated.

the sex was amazing too


anyhow long story short.. i fell in love with her & she claimed to love me..

1 year into the relationship she begins becoming very disrespectful & rude, hot & cold, controlling & controlling the sex too... i put up with it for a good while (my mistake) i should have dropped the b#tch soon as she started playing up... things got worse & worse, so eventually i just got fed up and dumped her about 3 weeks ago (the drama was non stop)


my question is, i doubt i will be able to find a woman this attractive again...

have you ever dumped a hot woman & never was able to find one as good looking again, or as good in bed?


would you stay with a hot woman, even if she was a dis loyal bi'ch??

 

[adam225]

She is a human being. If she disrespects you then you should ditch her. She needs to learn her place on this planet.

 

[expos]

You did the right thing. You probably don't know it right now, but you did. Once your GF starts treating you badly, it's pretty much time to go. Do you hang around "friends" who treat you poorly? No, you just stop hanging around them. As a man, you need to create boundaries and decide what you will and will not put up with. Cut ties with people with people who aren't worth the effort.

There is will be always be pretty girls, in fact, I'm sure you noticed several of them while you were screwing her. There will always be something better than what you currently have or have had - and what I mean by this is that this girl might have been a HB10 to you, but she was an a**hole and deserved to get dumped. A HB8 may come along a few weeks or months from now and treat you so much better and you'll forget all about the miserable HB10 that gave you nothing but grief. The HB8 is a better catch.

 

[soulforge]

You did the right thing. You probably don't know it right now, but you did. Once your GF starts treating you badly, it's pretty much time to go. Do you hang around "friends" who treat you poorly? No, you just stop hanging around them. As a man, you need to create boundaries and decide what you will and will not put up with. Cut ties with people with people who aren't worth the effort.

There is will be always be pretty girls, in fact, I'm sure you noticed several of them while you were screwing her. There will always be something better than what you currently have or have had - and what I mean by this is that this girl might have been a HB10 to you, but she was an a**hole and deserved to get dumped. A HB8 may come along a few weeks or months from now and treat you so much better and you'll forget all about the miserable HB10 that gave you nothing but grief. The HB8 is a better catch.

deep inside i know i did the right thing... but we had a 2 year history & there was good times too... but overall she was a pretty nasty woman, selfish narcassist

this is not the first time i have dumped her... i dumped her twice before, but after a couple of weeks, she would start mailing me, claiming she loves and misses me, so like a fuking idiot, i took her back...

we would have an initial honeymoon period, where she would be nice as pie, but then after a few turn back into her selfish self again.

but this time, i have dumped this demon for good... deleted her number, changed my mobile number & blocked her from my email.

what hurts me sometimes is, she is probably already fuking some other man.. i hate to think of her with another man... but hey i dumped her, so something i will have to deal with..

 

[MaddXMan]

Yes you will find someone just as hot or hotter.

You pulled her right? Then you have what it takes to keep pulling attractive women.

Don't let those doubts get to you.

 

[soulforge]

Yes you will find someone just as hot or hotter.

You pulled her right? Then you have what it takes to keep pulling attractive women.

Don't let those doubts get to you.

i hope so man!

i just need to start hitting the gym again, i had a great body when i met her... but last couple of months, due to mostly stress of this relationship, i have been neglecting my training!

is ignoring this woman the best way to punish her? i still feel some anger towards her, and myslef

 

[Pimp-sicle]

my question is, i doubt i will be able to find a woman this attractive again...

Your in this mindset because your emotions are all over the map. When your emotionally invested in a girl, she becomes much more attractive than she actually is.

For me, once I see a girl's true character, I no longer see her as this hot @ss girl. I see her for who she really is.

have you ever dumped a hot woman & never was able to find one as good looking again, or as good in bed?

In a word... No.

I'll let you in on a little secret, if you got a hot girl, you can get another hot girl.

Take the time to stick to hard NC, get over her, improve yourself & you will be just fine a few months from now.

Post break up always sucks for a bit, but its part of the deal.

Just make sure your learning from your mistakes, always improving your game & moving forward, not backwards.








PIMP

 

[soulforge]

thanx man!!

sometimes i blame myself... maybe if i had dumped her sooner, or cracked down on her more, when she acted out, then we could have still been together


but nothing works with this woman... if i call her on her bad behaviour, she just gets argumentative, defensiv & walks away in anger

it's not even possible to talk to her, or communicate with her, as she starts acting like a victim, or claims she is being bullied by me!

this woman does what she wants, when she wants... and never likes to be told any other way...

i really don't thing it is even possible to have a relationship with something like this

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

but nothing works with this woman... if i call her on her bad behaviour, she just gets argumentative, defensiv & walks away in anger

it's not even possible to talk to her, or communicate with her, as she starts acting like a victim, or claims she is being bullied by me!

this woman does what she wants, when she wants... and never likes to be told any other way...

In the future, when you start thinking about her, think of what you wrote down here.

 

[soulforge]

Dumping her was the right thing.

My BPD-ex was ridiculously hot. Just unbelievable. But I did have to dump her, and I won't lie. It was hard.

But, in the end, you have to choose self-respect over pu$$y.

how did you feel after the breakup? did you feel like you would never meet another hot girl?

are you over her now? are you glad you dumped her, and not her dumping you?

 

[Harry Wilmington]

In the last few years I've dated mostly hot girls, and what I can tell you is this: it will be hard for you to get over this girl... until you find the next hot girl that you end up dating. Assuming she has the right qualities, the girl you previously dated will seem less hot, especially when you really look back at her attitude. You can have an okay-looking girl with a GREAT attitude and she will become the prettiest thing in the world to you, or have a GREAT-looking girl with a stank attitude who will eventually not look so hot.

Plus, keep in mind that just because she's hot-looking to you now doesn't mean that (a) she will stay that way, or (b) that everyone else around you would agree she's hot. I've seen dudes on these boards show pics of their "10" ex girlfriend that I'd barely give a 6 to (and I'm sure some of the girls I've dated wouldn't get 10 rankings from you guys either). I say that to say, beauty is subjective, meaning it's not an actual thing, and therefore shouldn't be made a big deal about.

Oh yeah - check out my daily podcast on my link below!

 

[expos]

She's a brat and a lousy girlfriend. This is her true character. She's dated guys before you and she probably walked all over them and she's used to getting her way.

They probably stalked her, called her, texted her non-stop when she cut them lose. But she didn't care, she probably got off on it.

You turned the tables on her and dropped her, and it threw her off. She's never had any do this to her....I can bet on it...that's why she kept trying to pull you back. This is how these b!tches operate, you treat them like garbage and they keep coming back for more. The minute you start catering to them and go AFC, they lose interest and DROP YOU.

Let me tell you a story. I dumped my ex-wife twice when were dating. Once because I didn't think we had much chemistry, another time when she lied to me. This was a woman who is used to doing the dumping and she didn't even know how to handle it. It flipped her out. Begging, pleading, the same old crap you went through.

When we divorced, she tries to play it off like she dumped me because she filed. Well, I was the one who asked to leave her. I had to correspond with her about two months ago about some crap, and she treated me like garbage AGAIN. Do you know what I did this time? I threw it back in her face (I let her know I was banging someone new and she is no longer necessary in my life). A week later her an her new boyfriend are stalking me on LinkedIn, Facebook, hitting my URL (I tracked the IP back her apartment). What I said made her flip so badly that even the new boyfriend had to get involved. :crackup:

This is what happens when you regain the power. Some women secretly love to be treated like garbage....and they mistake it for "wearing the pants". Your ex-gf is one of these people. She's so deeply insecure that she clings to stronger people.

Finally, don't worry about who she screwing...if that is indeed happening. This guy probably doesn't know about this site, doesn't know about the value of NC, and will mostly likely have a full blown AFC meltdown when she drops him. Face it, a lot of guy are chumps. You will not believe some of the phone calls I've taken from friends after breakups. They do sh!t that will make you cringe. This is YOUR TIME to separate yourself from all the other dudes out there and go GHOST on this b!tch of a girlfriend.

 

[soulforge]

In the last few years I've dated mostly hot girls, and what I can tell you is this: it will be hard for you to get over this girl... until you find the next hot girl that you end up dating. Assuming she has the right qualities, the girl you previously dated will seem less hot, especially when you really look back at her attitude. You can have an okay-looking girl with a GREAT attitude and she will become the prettiest thing in the world to you, or have a GREAT-looking girl with a stank attitude who will eventually not look so hot.

Plus, keep in mind that just because she's hot-looking to you now doesn't mean that (a) she will stay that way, or (b) that everyone else around you would agree she's hot. I've seen dudes on these boards show pics of their "10" ex girlfriend that I'd barely give a 6 to (and I'm sure some of the girls I've dated wouldn't get 10 rankings from you guys either). I say that to say, beauty is subjective, meaning it's not an actual thing, and therefore shouldn't be made a big deal about.

Oh yeah - check out my daily podcast on my link below!

hey man thanx for the advice.... this is what i am worried about... maybe i was punching above my weight with this last girl...

most of the woman i have dated in the past, at best have been hb6

this one was a defo hb9 to me... i guess you are right, beauty is subjective.

what really worries me is... what if i don't do better than her looks wise... then will it take forever for me to get over her??


then again, she is 46 years old... and i am 37 years old

in 4 years time, she will be a 50 year old woman.... that beauty is fading fast & she gets regular botox, to hold onto her looks

 

[Married Buried]

Honestly, you should have had another hot woman lined up before you dumped her.

I've seen it a thousand times.. the guy dumps her and has no other girls lines up. The girl will naturally be with someone new within two weeks. The guy can't get another chic and starts regretting the dump. Then begs for the hot girl back, and the situation is 500 times worse.

 

[soulforge]

She's a brat and a lousy girlfriend. This is her true character. She's dated guys before you and she probably walked all over them and she's used to getting her way.

They probably stalked her, called her, texted her non-stop when she cut them lose. But she didn't care, she probably got off on it.

You turned the tables on her and dropped her, and it threw her off. She's never had any do this to her....I can bet on it...that's why she kept trying to pull you back. This is how these b!tches operate, you treat them like garbage and they keep coming back for more. The minute you start catering to them and go AFC, they lose interest and DROP YOU.

Let me tell you a story. I dumped my ex-wife twice when were dating. Once because I didn't think we had much chemistry, another time when she lied to me. This was a woman who is used to doing the dumping and she didn't even know how to handle it. It flipped her out. Begging, pleading, the same old crap you went through.

When we divorced, she tries to play it off like she dumped me because she filed. Well, I was the one who asked to leave her. I had to correspond with her about two months ago about some crap, and she treated me like garbage AGAIN. Do you know what I did this time? I threw it back in her face (I let her know I was banging someone new and she is no longer necessary in my life). A week later her an her new boyfriend are stalking me on LinkedIn, Facebook, hitting my URL (I tracked the IP back her apartment). What I said made her flip so badly that even the new boyfriend had to get involved. :crackup:

This is what happens when you regain the power. Some women secretly love to be treated like garbage....and they mistake it for "wearing the pants". Your ex-gf is one of these people. She's so deeply insecure that she clings to stronger people.

Finally, don't worry about who she screwing...if that is indeed happening. This guy probably doesn't know about this site, doesn't know about the value of NC, and will mostly likely have a full blown AFC meltdown when she drops him. Face it, a lot of guy are chumps. You will not believe some of the phone calls I've taken from friends after breakups. They do sh!t that will make you cringe. This is YOUR TIME to separate yourself from all the other dudes out there and go GHOST on this b!tch of a girlfriend.

Hey man, you hit the nail on the fuking head!

this woman has never been dumped before, she has always done the dumping!

when i first met this girl, i used to sleep with her twice a week, never spent much time with her... never told her that i loved her, other than fuking her, she got nothing from me!!

and guess what... she was a lot more nicer & respectful

i did not do the afc thing at all... things quickly turned to ****, once i fell in love with her & she knew i loved her...

so i guess this woman was never really meant to LTR material?? she should have always remained a fuk piece?


i,m glad i did the dumping... it took her by surprise... i know at some point she will try contacting me... but she is going to get pure silence

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

i know at some point she will try contacting me... but she is going to get pure silence

Remember this too!

 

[Married Buried]

It felt terrible because she was so hot and awesome in bed.

But it felt liberating because she had become such a monster over time.


I am completely over her and absolutely glad that I dumped her. Walking away with your head held high is far better than getting dumped.

Let's be completley honest here guys, this woman is 50, and he is 36. If this woman was 30 and hot, she would never have gotten dumped.

Come on OP, if I knew you in real life, i'd be real disapointed in you that you fell for a 50 year old.

 

[floydb25]

Great post, expos. Too many guys are confusing lust with quality, and keep running into the same problems. Like I always say, most hot girls are NOT LTR material, and what you see in the beginning (ie, during infatuation) is a CHARADE.

 

[nismo-4]

Honestly, you should have had another hot woman lined up before you dumped her.

I've seen it a thousand times.. the guy dumps her and has no other girls lines up. The girl will naturally be with someone new within two weeks. The guy can't get another chic and starts regretting the dump. Then begs for the hot girl back, and the situation is 500 times worse.

I'll give the girl two DAYS. Women always have options. Most men, not so much.

If a woman is looking for a man, she can easily find one. All she has to do is make it known she's available. What do you think happens to guys who make it known they're available. That's right, their cries go largely unnoticed, and sometimes they're invisible.

I'm glad for you OP for dropping this b**ch when she showed her true colors, but when a man dumps a woman, how long will it take for him to get another one? It takes a longer time for a man to heal than for a woman to heal, hell when was the last time you saw a woman cry about a man dumping her? Probably never.

But a man crying about a woman? I know what that sounds like and feels like, and they tend to get jaded.

 

[Tictac]

No woman is worth your sanity and self-respect.

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