secretagent
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Hey,
Here's some background information so you can better get a take on the situation:
I am 19, going to college part-time taking business.
My Ex-Girlfriend just turned 17 March 13.
Last saturday, my girlfriend came over to my apartment (I recently moved out, March 1, partially due to her advice and pressuring, but also partially due to an unstable/abussive home life) and it started liek any other weekend. We were going to go to a movie. but she had no money and then started to hassle me about not paying, so I said I'd pay and to not worry about it. Our relationship has been almost completly dutch since date #2. We decided not to go to a movie, but stay home and relax instead. I had a shot of vodka, she had a smoke. I needed to get some groccery shopping done, so we left for the store by bus (I sold my car to move out).
We did the groccery shopping. I bought her a donut and some candies. We came back, and I washed dishes while she mad grilled cheese and soup. While she was making dinner, I made a comment about how I was going bald like her dad. He's 50, and I am 19. It was more to insult myself, considering his age, than to offend her father. She took it completly out of proportion and then went on about how horrible and abusive my parents are, how my sister is such a *****, how I am goign to be a loser, only goign to college part time and that no girls will ever want me. She continued to say that she should have dumped me long ago, and any other girl would have (she brought up the fact I have not bought her any jewlery, but only things like clothes and flowers). She said her dad makes 20X what I make, and that I will never make any means as much. She stabbed my hand with a fork, which left a mark and bled a bit. She pushed me. We then went and laid in bed, while I continued to lsiten to her put me down. I kept appligizing for the one comment about her father's hair I had made. After about 45 minutes, and me laying there in a bad mood now, she started to give me oral. I wasn't completly in the mood, so I did it for her, and then it was about time for her to go.
My parents were coming over to drop off some tax filings, and offered to give her a ride home. SHe hates my parents, so I said she would pass, but she told me to accept. So they came over, she got a ride home. We said goodnite I love you, blah blah. She called when she was at home and asked if everythign was okay and I replied 'Yes, we're fine. I forgive you'. THe next day she went shoppign wit ha girlfriend of hers. She didn't leave me a voicemail like she usually does. I sensed a possibly breakup. She called me after work and said she had talked it over with her parents and her friend, and thought we be over. She said we fight too much, don't get along, and she doesn't think she loves me anymore. I kept asking if she wanted to talk about it and stated we did have problems but we could work through. She then started getting aggressive, putting me down. I defended myself. she got mad and hungup. She called me back 10 minutes later, crying a bit, saying sorry for what she had said, and told me not to hate her. I agreed and said nothing could be changed.
Background:
1 month into the relationship, I broke up with her because i was feeling way too committed, and thought I would get hurt sooner or later. She kept calling me saying I would never get hurt and that she loved me. We got back together.
Ever since, she has broken up with me 5 times since then. EVERYTIME, i have chased after her, repeatidly calling, sending emails, seeing her at school, sneaking over to her place and seeing her at nite to work througg things. We have always gotten back together, her saying it was a mistake, and that she would never breakup with me over the phone ever again. Everytime it has still been over the phone.
The last time we brokeup, she would not answer my calls for a week. Her mom and her came to my house to drop off all my stuff. I was out for a run and was just returning home when they started driving off. I ran in, grabbed my car keys, and zoomed after in my RSX. I didn't know which way they went, but finally caught up. Her mom booted it and kept driving, I was in the beside lane, shouting and making gestures for them to pullover so we could talk. they kept driving. I swirved in front and we came to a stop near the side of the road. She said it was over, but promised to call me later to talk about things. Later she called, and we worked through everything and were okay. her mom wasn't too mad after a coupel days. After reading this paragraph you must think I am obsessed. Well, I thought I really loved her and she meant the world to me.
So now she broke up with me again. I am moved out, living on my own now. I feel lonely, depressed and unsure of things. I don't know what to do. I am going to leave things be at this point, and not chase/call/write her. That's what she requested when she brokeup over the phone sunday.
All my buddies said i was whipped. that she was OVER-controlling. They were right, but I really didn't mind it. I don't know what to do. She still has my apartment key I gave her, and she said she would 'return it at her convienence' later thsi week while i am at work one night.
WHAT CAN I DO!?!?! I feel awful. I made plans to go out with a buddy friday, but it hurts. ANY ADVICE GREATLY APPRECIATED. I think i am going to get my parents to go over, get my key and shirt she still has, and move on. easier said than done, but I think there's nothing else to do.
Here's some background information so you can better get a take on the situation:
I am 19, going to college part-time taking business.
My Ex-Girlfriend just turned 17 March 13.
Last saturday, my girlfriend came over to my apartment (I recently moved out, March 1, partially due to her advice and pressuring, but also partially due to an unstable/abussive home life) and it started liek any other weekend. We were going to go to a movie. but she had no money and then started to hassle me about not paying, so I said I'd pay and to not worry about it. Our relationship has been almost completly dutch since date #2. We decided not to go to a movie, but stay home and relax instead. I had a shot of vodka, she had a smoke. I needed to get some groccery shopping done, so we left for the store by bus (I sold my car to move out).
We did the groccery shopping. I bought her a donut and some candies. We came back, and I washed dishes while she mad grilled cheese and soup. While she was making dinner, I made a comment about how I was going bald like her dad. He's 50, and I am 19. It was more to insult myself, considering his age, than to offend her father. She took it completly out of proportion and then went on about how horrible and abusive my parents are, how my sister is such a *****, how I am goign to be a loser, only goign to college part time and that no girls will ever want me. She continued to say that she should have dumped me long ago, and any other girl would have (she brought up the fact I have not bought her any jewlery, but only things like clothes and flowers). She said her dad makes 20X what I make, and that I will never make any means as much. She stabbed my hand with a fork, which left a mark and bled a bit. She pushed me. We then went and laid in bed, while I continued to lsiten to her put me down. I kept appligizing for the one comment about her father's hair I had made. After about 45 minutes, and me laying there in a bad mood now, she started to give me oral. I wasn't completly in the mood, so I did it for her, and then it was about time for her to go.
My parents were coming over to drop off some tax filings, and offered to give her a ride home. SHe hates my parents, so I said she would pass, but she told me to accept. So they came over, she got a ride home. We said goodnite I love you, blah blah. She called when she was at home and asked if everythign was okay and I replied 'Yes, we're fine. I forgive you'. THe next day she went shoppign wit ha girlfriend of hers. She didn't leave me a voicemail like she usually does. I sensed a possibly breakup. She called me after work and said she had talked it over with her parents and her friend, and thought we be over. She said we fight too much, don't get along, and she doesn't think she loves me anymore. I kept asking if she wanted to talk about it and stated we did have problems but we could work through. She then started getting aggressive, putting me down. I defended myself. she got mad and hungup. She called me back 10 minutes later, crying a bit, saying sorry for what she had said, and told me not to hate her. I agreed and said nothing could be changed.
Background:
1 month into the relationship, I broke up with her because i was feeling way too committed, and thought I would get hurt sooner or later. She kept calling me saying I would never get hurt and that she loved me. We got back together.
Ever since, she has broken up with me 5 times since then. EVERYTIME, i have chased after her, repeatidly calling, sending emails, seeing her at school, sneaking over to her place and seeing her at nite to work througg things. We have always gotten back together, her saying it was a mistake, and that she would never breakup with me over the phone ever again. Everytime it has still been over the phone.
The last time we brokeup, she would not answer my calls for a week. Her mom and her came to my house to drop off all my stuff. I was out for a run and was just returning home when they started driving off. I ran in, grabbed my car keys, and zoomed after in my RSX. I didn't know which way they went, but finally caught up. Her mom booted it and kept driving, I was in the beside lane, shouting and making gestures for them to pullover so we could talk. they kept driving. I swirved in front and we came to a stop near the side of the road. She said it was over, but promised to call me later to talk about things. Later she called, and we worked through everything and were okay. her mom wasn't too mad after a coupel days. After reading this paragraph you must think I am obsessed. Well, I thought I really loved her and she meant the world to me.
So now she broke up with me again. I am moved out, living on my own now. I feel lonely, depressed and unsure of things. I don't know what to do. I am going to leave things be at this point, and not chase/call/write her. That's what she requested when she brokeup over the phone sunday.
All my buddies said i was whipped. that she was OVER-controlling. They were right, but I really didn't mind it. I don't know what to do. She still has my apartment key I gave her, and she said she would 'return it at her convienence' later thsi week while i am at work one night.
WHAT CAN I DO!?!?! I feel awful. I made plans to go out with a buddy friday, but it hurts. ANY ADVICE GREATLY APPRECIATED. I think i am going to get my parents to go over, get my key and shirt she still has, and move on. easier said than done, but I think there's nothing else to do.
