dumped harshly

[Pave]

Hey guys.

Long story short I got dumped and my ex that is a coworker and doesn't want to tell me the reason why. Claiming she's been wanting to dump me for a week yet she brought her family to my 4th of July party and met my side of the family. We dated for 3 months and made it official for a month totaling 4 months. Next day after 4th of July we ended up going to a party and some girl wanted to fight her swung a few times and she stumbled I covered her up and extracted her from the situation. She went ghost two days after that and I saw her at work and claims the party wasn't the reason for the break up that's she wanted to for a week but didn't know how to say it yet she doesn't want to tell me the reason for the break up. She ended up blowing up on be telling me to drop it and I just walked away and haven't spoken to her since.

I didn't beg or grovel at the breakup. Just asked why and she didn't want to say so I walked away. Now I know dating a co worker is a no no but the job isn't serious and is just temporary for passing the time during school. I haven't contacted her or spoken a word to her since. She acts like she doesn't know me at work so I play the same game and just act like I don't notice her. Since she doesn't want to tell me, I've come to the conclusion she probably found some other dude. She even parks on a different side of the parking lot to avoid me. It isn't even that serious. I want to be a man and tell her the breakup doesn't have to cause this childish play at work but I'm not in the wrong so I don't confront her on it. I feel like she disrespected me so I don't even want to put myself in position of apologizing. I didn't even do anything to cause a break up.

Am I doing the right thing? Should I continue to ignore and pretend she isn't there. If you guys want further elaboration let me know. Any tips help guys. Thanks.

 

[Tictac]

Just treat her like someone you'd rather not deal with but sometimes run across.

 

[No.Danny]

She sounds like a bvtch. Thank her for breaking up with you. Now you can find something better.

 

[Pave]

Yeah pretty much how I felt about the whole situation. Imo, I reacted pretty good for her being my first girlfriend. She never disrespected during the relationship and of course I know since it was my first I most definitely made mistakes and I'll man up to that but never did I treat her wrongly. It's amazing how no matter how you treat someone they'll act that way with you. During the relationship she'd say I'm perfect and that's why everyone at work likes talking to me and being around me.

I'm focusing on me now and signed up for a gym to better myself after the breakup. I just find it funny on how dramatic she's acting at work.the whole situation isn't even that serious. Also feel like her true colors were shown and she was wearing a mask the whole time.

 

[nismo-4]

Your princess is in another castle. Accept it. Now realize that there's always someone better for you than that bytch.

Case closed.

 

[Special EDy]

Dont give her the satisfaction of caring. It will eat her up

 

[wishyo]

She sounds like a bvtch. Thank her for breaking up with you. Now you can find something better.

she is a b1tch. any decent girl would talk to you, explain that she either sees someone or whatever it can be the reason. any worthwhile girl would do that, only b1tch would act like this so...
and yea, if the way she behaves at work bothers your, you should still talk to her about and tell her to quit acting and that's everything is cool between you

 

[Pave]

I am with Special Ed.

Indifference.

So I should not even confront her on the childish behavior that isn't necessary and just go on my days like she doesn't exist correct?

Wishyo, I thought about doing that but wouldn't it show to her that I notice and still care and that goes against what I've learned from this site. Not sure if work is an exception though.

 

[VladPatton]

Maintain indifference. Make as if nothing ever happened. Hell, act happy and upbeat when you get to work, as if you just won the lottery.

 

[asa_don]

she doesnt care about you, confronting her will do no good, it will just cause a scene where she will make you look bad in front of people if you try. just ignore her as much as possible like she is doing to you.

thats why you shouldnt date a co worker, when you break up you wont have to deal with this sh!t of having to interact with her, saves you a lot less problems.