girlsarecrazy
Senior Don Juan
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- Apr 10, 2006
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Backround information:
*Started dating January 2006.
*Everything was going smooth, I rocked her world, she rocked mine.
*She was a girl of opportunities, very attractive, always up for meeting new people, always friendly to everyone.
*I came into her world, we both clicked very well, she came into the relationship saying that she wants it to last a long time, and not based on physically activities (sex).
It's been about a week since we've been broken up completely. 4 days without seeing each other in person.
Story:
I'll admit it. We spent too much time together, but it felt right. We had smiles on our faces the whole time we spent together. We started to become very emotionally attracted to each other. Too far to the point where we couldn't be 2 ft away from each other. We both couldn't go out somewhere without each other worrying about each other. We started to get stuck in this bubble. But we we very extremely happy. We had sex, never overdone that. We would always talk about the future and this summer.
After our 2 months, She went on a trip to Germany for 10 days. We had good bye sex (her idea) She cried because she didn't want to leave me for 10 days. We had a great good-bye. During the trip she called me 2 times crying about how she misses me. She then started hanging around clubs/bars and had a lot of time feeling free. She become real close to a new friend (a girl) who was single at the time.
She comes back from the trip and tells me it was a life changing experience and she feels different but we are still feeling the same way about each other and everything seems cool. Then she still continues to hang out with this new girl (who is single) and they talk about her situation with me. She persuades her that she can have sooo much fun this summer without being tied down to me. On a friday I took her to school, we're talking about the summer and how it's going to be fun together. She texts me this:
"Guess... what! I loove you!," In the middle of the day.
2 hours later, I replied, "Aw, i luv you too." Then she replies back.. "Hey can we talk like right when i'm done from work tonight"
Then she initiates a break with me which is shocking and heart wrentching to me. Because it's all a surprise to me. It seems like she was afraid to fall for me.
We talk about her break... and i'm like WTF WHY.. and she's just being a ***** like saying, "Why can't you just accept that i want a break."
I'll admit. I didn't take it too good. I got into a depression state during our break. I felt upset, lost my appetite, lost weight, felt so unhappy.
Day 2 of my break: I ignored her phone calls and text messages all day until 9PM. She called me 10 times from 3 different phones, had 2 of her friends call me and tell me to pick up the phone. I didn't answer any of those. She was begging for me! I eventually answer the phone @ 9:00PM. She tells me that she can no longer go on this break with and needs me back in my life. I told her i need her back in mine too. She cried, I felt a sigh of relief.
We made up over the phone only! We didn't see each other in person. BIG MISTAKE!
The next day we were talking and and acting like everything was cool... but it was not! It was awkward as hell. She told me she needs more time. I told her to come to me in person, don't talk to me on the phone or online. I told her to come to me in person when you want to talk to me.
She decides later that night that she doesn't want a boyfriend any more because she doesn't want to be tied up during the summer. She explains how she is still young and doesn't want to be held down. BUT she still wants me in her life and doesn't want to move on to any other boys. She still has high feelings for me.
EDIT:
Here my more to my problem:
After the breakup, she still would always call me, I started to agree with her saying that our relationship was getting to serious. and but we both were in extreme happyness. I told her that it would be cool to still have the same closeness and what not and have a more relaxed worry free relationship. I inferred a relationship based on fun and worry free to her a bunch of times when we talked in person. And i was content with that, because we both agreed to hang out and have fun together. She's usually crazy and I am thinking that i can turn this into a FWB relationship.
So she thought it was wierd that i went from a emotional upset person to agreeing with her and she said she didn't know if she was ready to hang out with me as friends yet. So we didn't plan anytime to hang.
Now we talked and we started acting our normal selves again and having great conversations.. bringing up the past and teasing each other. I told her i'll take her out this wednesday.
This is what I want: Become her boyfriend again, but worry free and less attachment, just focus on quality fun. Or an open relationship FWB to where we just worry about rocking each others world without the mushy GF/BF stuff and then potentially get back into that later when school or something picks up.
Either way i want her back but i don't want to waste my time and money on this chick if i'm not getting laid. I don't want to be the boyfriend that doesn' get any...
But I will give it her power to ask me back out, Since she broke up with me. I will not ask her back out.
*Started dating January 2006.
*Everything was going smooth, I rocked her world, she rocked mine.
*She was a girl of opportunities, very attractive, always up for meeting new people, always friendly to everyone.
*I came into her world, we both clicked very well, she came into the relationship saying that she wants it to last a long time, and not based on physically activities (sex).
It's been about a week since we've been broken up completely. 4 days without seeing each other in person.
Story:
I'll admit it. We spent too much time together, but it felt right. We had smiles on our faces the whole time we spent together. We started to become very emotionally attracted to each other. Too far to the point where we couldn't be 2 ft away from each other. We both couldn't go out somewhere without each other worrying about each other. We started to get stuck in this bubble. But we we very extremely happy. We had sex, never overdone that. We would always talk about the future and this summer.
After our 2 months, She went on a trip to Germany for 10 days. We had good bye sex (her idea) She cried because she didn't want to leave me for 10 days. We had a great good-bye. During the trip she called me 2 times crying about how she misses me. She then started hanging around clubs/bars and had a lot of time feeling free. She become real close to a new friend (a girl) who was single at the time.
She comes back from the trip and tells me it was a life changing experience and she feels different but we are still feeling the same way about each other and everything seems cool. Then she still continues to hang out with this new girl (who is single) and they talk about her situation with me. She persuades her that she can have sooo much fun this summer without being tied down to me. On a friday I took her to school, we're talking about the summer and how it's going to be fun together. She texts me this:
"Guess... what! I loove you!," In the middle of the day.
2 hours later, I replied, "Aw, i luv you too." Then she replies back.. "Hey can we talk like right when i'm done from work tonight"
Then she initiates a break with me which is shocking and heart wrentching to me. Because it's all a surprise to me. It seems like she was afraid to fall for me.
We talk about her break... and i'm like WTF WHY.. and she's just being a ***** like saying, "Why can't you just accept that i want a break."
I'll admit. I didn't take it too good. I got into a depression state during our break. I felt upset, lost my appetite, lost weight, felt so unhappy.
Day 2 of my break: I ignored her phone calls and text messages all day until 9PM. She called me 10 times from 3 different phones, had 2 of her friends call me and tell me to pick up the phone. I didn't answer any of those. She was begging for me! I eventually answer the phone @ 9:00PM. She tells me that she can no longer go on this break with and needs me back in my life. I told her i need her back in mine too. She cried, I felt a sigh of relief.
We made up over the phone only! We didn't see each other in person. BIG MISTAKE!
The next day we were talking and and acting like everything was cool... but it was not! It was awkward as hell. She told me she needs more time. I told her to come to me in person, don't talk to me on the phone or online. I told her to come to me in person when you want to talk to me.
She decides later that night that she doesn't want a boyfriend any more because she doesn't want to be tied up during the summer. She explains how she is still young and doesn't want to be held down. BUT she still wants me in her life and doesn't want to move on to any other boys. She still has high feelings for me.
EDIT:
Here my more to my problem:
After the breakup, she still would always call me, I started to agree with her saying that our relationship was getting to serious. and but we both were in extreme happyness. I told her that it would be cool to still have the same closeness and what not and have a more relaxed worry free relationship. I inferred a relationship based on fun and worry free to her a bunch of times when we talked in person. And i was content with that, because we both agreed to hang out and have fun together. She's usually crazy and I am thinking that i can turn this into a FWB relationship.
So she thought it was wierd that i went from a emotional upset person to agreeing with her and she said she didn't know if she was ready to hang out with me as friends yet. So we didn't plan anytime to hang.
Now we talked and we started acting our normal selves again and having great conversations.. bringing up the past and teasing each other. I told her i'll take her out this wednesday.
This is what I want: Become her boyfriend again, but worry free and less attachment, just focus on quality fun. Or an open relationship FWB to where we just worry about rocking each others world without the mushy GF/BF stuff and then potentially get back into that later when school or something picks up.
Either way i want her back but i don't want to waste my time and money on this chick if i'm not getting laid. I don't want to be the boyfriend that doesn' get any...
But I will give it her power to ask me back out, Since she broke up with me. I will not ask her back out.
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