Dudes who want LTR Vs. Dudes who just wanna bang

[Jvesti]

So what do you think the difference is between dudes who fall in love easily and want relationships versus dudes who just wanna **** biatches?

I mean do you believe it's social:

ex: emotionally starved guy looking for affection

ex: emotionally avoidant guy looking to just bang and that's it

or other socialized reasons


or do you think there is a biological aspect to it as there is in males vs. females such as

Testosterone levels, oxytocin levels etc

 

[DrMetallica]

That's bullsh!t that you say emotionally starved guys want to get into relationships fast. The benifits of having a continuous relationship are 10 times more than a quick bang. You get to know the person, know their family and friends, try differents things with them and experiment with things you've never imagined. You get to have deep conversations with them about topics you could never talk to anyone else about. You can just call them up out of the blue to meet you for sex, etc.

That said I just prefer to bang.

 

[Dark Nimbus]

I've had a one night stand, and I've had an LTR for over a year, and there's a HUGE difference for me. The ONS was empty and meaningless, I felt no connection with her and it was purely sex I was getting out of it, which just isn't enough IMO after you've had the experience of being in an LTR.

The sex in my LTR grew to be amazing the more we did it. Each time was better as we figured out what works and what doesn't, and there was a history and solid trust there amongst other things. It's like having a best friend with the benefit of sex whenever you want it.

I don't see the big deal in "new puzzy", it's all pretty much the same anyways. I'd rather have friendship,loyalty, and trust anyday.

 

[iqqi]

amazing, simply, amazing, the responses thus far.

so now i too am curious to hear a response from a man who prefers "empty" sex?

 

[drixsa]

Originally posted by iqqi
so now i too am curious to hear a response from a man who prefers "empty" sex?

Drix stands and raises his hand.

 

[iqqi]

Originally posted by drixsa
Drix stands and raises his hand.

that's not a response to the original post, drixxxxx....

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Onenightstands of pure sexual attraction and passion are GREAT.

 

[drixsa]

Originally posted by Jvesti
So what do you think the difference is between dudes who fall in love easily and want relationships versus dudes who just wanna **** biatches?

I mean do you believe it's social:

ex: emotionally starved guy looking for affection

ex: emotionally avoidant guy looking to just bang and that's it

or other socialized reasons


or do you think there is a biological aspect to it as there is in males vs. females such as

Testosterone levels, oxytocin levels etc

i dont know if such detail is needed

i just know that sometimes i want to wake up in bed with a girl next to me(LTR thing)

and sometimes i just wanna tag that ass hard and get all sweaty and not have any string attached

 

[Zossima]

Originally posted by iqqi
amazing, simply, amazing, the responses thus far.

so now i too am curious to hear a response from a man who prefers "empty" sex?

Okay, here's my response as a man who prefers empty sex.

I'm in my 40's and am happily single. I look around and see my married friends suffering after years of misery as the initial bloom of marriage wears off and they realize they married a piece of crap. I see the look of envy on their faces of my freedom both financially and emotionally to do all the things a man used to be able to do before feminist laws made divorce a financial ruin for most men.

Most of the women in my age range are mostly divorced and loaded with baggage that I wouldn't dare get emotionally involved with. Their stock has gone way down. As they get older, the effects of feminism turn them into haggard, miserable HO's popping pills as they try to figure out why they are so miserable and without love.

Still, they are fun to horse, toss back out to their own misery and move on without a second thought.

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

Originally posted by Zossima
HO's

...Oh sh1t....Ive never heard a 40 year old say that....lol

 

[DEKKA]

never diss the LTR. there is a certain kind of satisfaction you get in an LTR that you won't ever get in an endless string of ONSs.

ONSs are great but they wear thin and eventually you'll take the path of every man before you and want something more.

im of the opinion that in order for you to be truely able to make the LTR decision you need to have plenty of experience. you should have a firm base and know yourself. once you've matured and become a true Don Juan you'll make an excellent LTR guy.

i do see way too many guys jumping into LTRs and not realizing that they aren't ready to handle them and they end in a short period of time. they guy is then left dazed cuz he was investing too much emotion into something that he didin't have the experience to handle.

 

[So pimp its scary]

I think that fundamentally, EVERYONE wants to settle down with a partner. That someone that they can share their life with, that person that can make them laugh, that person that can make your day with just a simple smile, that feeling of connection and learning about the other person. A person that will keep you on your toes, like a perpetual sparring partner, your spiritual and mental equal that you can do battle with till the end...

Yes, empty sex IS fun, and agood ONS sure can get rid of some pentup stress, but sex with a partner becomes more and more satisfying as time goes on.

"BUT SPIS, weren't you saying just 2 posts ago that you are dating multiple women at the same time... and SPIS, I remember you saying that oneitus is a BAD thing."

True, atm I am dating a couple of women, but for me dating is just the process of deciding whether or not the woman that you are interested in is good enough for me. When I'm single, I typically spend a week or two collecting numbers, and setting up dates with as many women as I can handle. Then, as I start dating these women, I ask myself what I like about each one of them, which ones I would like to phuck, and which ones I would like to take to the next level.

Then, gradually, some of these girls will drop themselves out of contention, and I might add more names to the list as needed, EVENTUALLY, I will wind up with a favorite woman that I've been dating for a while. At this point there will be the discussion of exclusivity, and the LTR is born. (I'm actually nearing another LTR, and when that happens, I will be taking a break from the forum, and because I've much better found what it is I'm looking for, I think this next one will be a good one...)

Oneitus IS a bad thing... because you have over sped up the process, you are picking a woman out of convenience rather then by her suitability for you. When you are infatuated with a women, you do stupid things, like calling everyday, turning into the b!tch of the relationship. You live your life for this woman, and not for yourself... that is a sad state to be in.

In a healthy relationship, you should feel more and more in love with this person everytime you talk to them, not up to a certain threshold which then starts to die down (like the vast majority of relatinships do).

 

[Player_Supreme]

having a team of girls or just one girl is cool. They both fullfill a need.

You can do the same things with a team as you can with a ltr girl. The team becomes your long term relationship. You look at a team as one individual composed of several people.

When I was running my teams each person had their own contribution. One girl was good at giving head...another gave good massages...one girl was good intellectual convo...ect..ect..

 

[Pimp-sicle]

The difference is easy to point out. It all comes down to one big factor:


EXPERIENCE!!


The guys who bang girls all the time can easily decipher between a dumb broad who's a quick lay and a quality girl who's worth getting to know better. That being said, AFC's believe every girl they meet is "Ms.Right" because they don't have yes you guessed it...EXPERIENCE!! Once you've become a master PUA you'll thank us because you'll have a great power to be able to weed out the *****s from the quality chicks.

Of course the best situation is to find a quality girl who is YOUR *****!!


PIMP

 

[Tkman]

Hit It & Roll It to your friends

 

[Chaos-Knight]

hey what about Fock-buddies?

I used to be for LTR's now I acually enjoy being single,
ONS's don't do much for me either...

So why not just have a friend with benifits,
best of both worlds - no commitment- good sex.

The trouble with ONS's is you have a higher risk of catching
an STD.At least a LTR or a FB you can get them tested
and know your safe...
You can't get a ONS tested,all you can do is wear rubber
and hope she don't have anything....

And I must add that some or all ONS you bring home
drunk/pissed and they'r probably more likey to
lay on theyr backs and let you do all the work

Anyway I choose the middle path ( FB ) or maybe a LTR
safer better sex...

 

[Jvesti]

I personally would honestly feel happiest with a bunch of female sex partners in a friend-type relationship.

I find the idea of a one girl relationship ridiculous and selfish.


Imagine you had friends and friendship was supposed to be only monogamous? That'd be dumb.

So why should it be that way for relationships.


Actually the reason I talked about oxytocin and testosterone is because in males. Once most males reach a certain age the test declines and the oxytocin(human bonding hormone) increases. This is why men are more into LTR later in life.

 

[Thoroughbred]

FBs are probably the best, smartest way to go.

 

[MoMurda]

I wouldn't know, never tried neither.