Dudes are lame.

[GearsGod310]

Me and my girl been together for a month now. Relationship is super fresh.
The other day she told me to go hang out with her at her job so I could meet her coworkers.
Her boss was there.
Before this should would tell me that she was really chill with him and everyone loved her there and he was happy having her there because she gets sh1t done. Dude is a old tall ugly beer belly geeky loser looking dude.
Soon as I met the dude he was kinda chill didnt get an bad vibes.
But after he met me now she's telling me the company is switching her location an hour away from where we live( we live close by) and My gf is super stressed cause the drive with traffic is like 2 hours and she lives her grandma and she takes care of her. This locations where shes at right now is not even 15 mins away from where she lives.
Shes trying fight against the company trying to switch her but it looks like she has no choice.
I feel like her boss has a lot to do with this.
Today he brought her into the office and asked her " what does your bf think about your move"... like wtf lol why does he care?
What would you do in this situation. If she moves shes gonna be living out by her company and I'm not tryna drive 2 hours every weekend to see her. I know most dudes her are plate spinners and dont gaf about anything. But if you have some good advice it would be dope..How would you handle this?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

If you want to drive to see her then do it and if you don't then don't. I mean what advice are you looking for? This has nothing to do with you, let her figure out her own problems.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Tell her to quit her job (for you).

 

[Alvafe]

here is the thing is not you to deal with, it her thing, if she really want to follow and not find a new job, it up to her

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Tell her to mention the comments to HR. Ask HR if the comments were appropriate and say that it made her feel uncomfortable.

 

[Lookatu]

Oh well, it looks like she'll have to drive further to see you unless she can negotiate her relocation with her company.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Tell her to mention the comments to HR. Ask HR if the comments were appropriate and say that it made her feel uncomfortable.

Women in their quest for power should never allow such conversations even if allowing it gives some "brown nosing " type points. They should respect you.

 

[Bible_Belt]

This is a clear case of sexual harassment. See an attorney immediately and begin collecting a paper trail, such as flirty emails or texts he may have sent her.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

This is a clear case of sexual harassment. See an attorney immediately and begin collecting a paper trail, such as flirty emails or texts he may have sent her.

Yes it's pretty fvcking bad. If she says it made her "uncomfortable " HR will handle that situation ASAP.

 

[Romanemp22]

Me and my girl been together for a month now. Relationship is super fresh.
The other day she told me to go hang out with her at her job so I could meet her coworkers.
Her boss was there.
Before this should would tell me that she was really chill with him and everyone loved her there and he was happy having her there because she gets sh1t done. Dude is a old tall ugly beer belly geeky loser looking dude.
Soon as I met the dude he was kinda chill didnt get an bad vibes.
But after he met me now she's telling me the company is switching her location an hour away from where we live( we live close by) and My gf is super stressed cause the drive with traffic is like 2 hours and she lives her grandma and she takes care of her. This locations where shes at right now is not even 15 mins away from where she lives.
Shes trying fight against the company trying to switch her but it looks like she has no choice.
I feel like her boss has a lot to do with this.
Today he brought her into the office and asked her " what does your bf think about your move"... like wtf lol why does he care?
What would you do in this situation. If she moves shes gonna be living out by her company and I'm not tryna drive 2 hours every weekend to see her. I know most dudes her are plate spinners and dont gaf about anything. But if you have some good advice it would be dope..How would you handle this?

Whatever you do dont get violent, i made a similiar mistake before. Try looking for legal help such as attorney or inspection control.

 

[Lookatu]

Today he brought her into the office and asked her " what does your bf think about your move"... like wtf lol why does he care?

Just reread it and glossed over this initially. This does seem shady. What was the grounds or reasoning she would have to move? What does she do for work?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

The PR play. Smart Mr good lol

We must use our resources

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I edited my post. Yes it may work but OP she be thinking of himself right now.

Thinking of herself she shouldn't be brown nosing or allowing those condos.

 

[zekko]

My gf is super stressed cause the drive with traffic is like 2 hours and she lives her grandma and she takes care of her.

Why would she move if she has to take care of her grandma? I'm reading this as she's living in her grandma's house.
If I were her I would try to find another job, sounds like almost anything would be closer.

 

[RangerMIke]

@Alvafe is right. It's not your problem. It's her problem. It's not your job to fix this. She is a grown woman and can make her own decisions.

@mrgoodstuff is also right. Her boss's comment about how it would affect you (if he really said this) was grossly inappropriate. He should have just said that he made a business decision for the good of the company and that he hopes she stays onboard but understands if she doesn't want to transfer and will give her a good reference if she decides to look elsewhere for employment. But be warned, unless she has something more than this one statement, trying to pursue this with HRM or personal, or a lawsuit will be a costly waste of time.

As far as the GF.... well... she needs to learn the art of negotiation. As soon as this came up, she should have said "My BF's opinion is not relevant (that would have signaled to him that the statement was inappropriate and put him on the defensive) Then she should have asked for concessions. More money, mileage for the extra driving, different hours to avoid traffic... heck it was a missed opportunity.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

My senses are tingling...

He invited you to her work, to get you uncomfortable with the idea of her being there, and instead being at another location would be better.

Something tells me, she is just saying this and is actually just using that time where you think she would be driving, to be with her boss and he might even be getting her paid for those hours.

Old loser men with big pot bellies are very tricky and cunning sometimes, becareful here OP, this one has set my bs senses tingling

 

[mrgoodstuff]

What condos? Im going off of the information the OP actually wrote.
Jits his frame or the highway for her. Anythingthing less is selling himself short and appeasing the beta brain.

Convos. Her manager is talking to her like a dayum bimbo. It's inappropriate. She should have more self respect.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Asking how a husband father mother boyfriend or cousin feels about z move is NOT sexual harrasment nor would hold up in court. Unless he directly hit on her. Another topic. OP did not say.
String has it.
Never follow the girl. She plays in your pkayground period.
If she goes its NEXT

Do you really think HR would find the conversion acceptable?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Qote the OP. Where? I didnt see that part. What convos. Did i miss a post?

Op wrote the following:
Today he brought her into the office and asked her " what does your bf think about your move"... like wtf lol why does he care?
What would you do in this situation

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Her personal life is none of his business. The conversation is creepy. She can easily tell HR it made her uncomfortable. They will handle the situation. I don't think it'll be sexual harassment. But it is a form of harassment. HR may assign her different manager or lead. And will reprimand him.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Asking how her boyfriend felt about it? Lol dude you must not be in the workforce much. Woman TALK about their personal lives all the time.
Do you know the WHOLE picture?
Maby said women had in the past few weeks talked about the new boyfriend?
What kind of history here?

This is all irrelevant to OP. Hes lije a month in?
She stays or goes thats were he is at and should be ok with either direction.

It sounded like intimidation and he was forcing the move.