Dry Spell - Idk wtf is going on

[Konada]

I'm starting to think I might be too aloof in some situations. I asked a girl out a couple of days ago after getting her number and she said she was at a funeral and couldn't meet. Whatever, I took it for its face value and said 'I'll let you know when I'm free again'. 4 days later, I text her and get no reply.

Is this is a case of non-interest or am I being too aloof?

 

[9asus2]

Keep it simple dude. If you were interested in someone would you ignore their text?

Dry spells are gonna play havoc with you, get you over analysing everything. I know cause I'm in one too right now.

 

[NSX-R]

The funeral might not be finished yet.

 

[Lozboss]

4 days later?

Dude- it's a new age. You have a 48 hour before a girl forgets you and moves onto the next dude.

 

[stevo]

I think I might be too aloof too or just don't care that much to the point they can sense it a mile away.

A little sympathy might have helped a little but overall if she wanted to meet, she would have.

You're doing fine.

 

[EyeBRollin]

4 days later?

Dude- it's a new age. You have a 48 hour before a girl forgets you and moves onto the next dude.

Not true at all.

 

[pyros]

You're fine, she just was not into you.

See this, a week ago I met a chick, danced with her, she got super close to me etc, I got her number.
A week later, cause I was really busy, I texted her, and asked her out. She said that she had to work extra hours and was tired that week or something like that. I said, fine, let me know when you're full of energy.
It's been 1.5 weeks and nothing. I thought about asking her out again, but why should I? she already knows I am interested, and nowadays the majority of women you meet end up being a waste of time even if you get the sex.

A few days later I met a chick from Tinder. We wento to grab a coffee. She was ok.
Some days later I asked her out and she saidthat she had a lot going on because of Christmas and other events. I said good for you. Do I ask her out again? nope.

I consider myself kind of good looking and fun to be around but these girls seem to expect something better, or they don't have any interest. Wtf...? and these were just HB6-7s!

It's crazy how women behave today. They have so many options that unless you're GREAT for them, they just pass.

 

[EyeBRollin]

You're fine, she just was not into you.

See this, a week ago I met a chick, danced with her, she got super close to me etc, I got her number.
A week later, cause I was really busy, I texted her, and asked her out. She said that she had to work extra hours and was tired that week or something like that. I said, fine, let me know when you're full of energy.
It's been 1.5 weeks and nothing. I thought about asking her out again, but why should I? she already knows I am interested, and nowadays the majority of women you meet end up being a waste of time even if you get the sex.

I disagree personally. I would rather call then text. Texts get lost in translation. I'm guilty of ignoring texts from good friends every once in a while. I mean to respond and just don't. Calling is better IMO.

A few days later I met a chick from Tinder. We wento to grab a coffee. She was ok.
Some days later I asked her out and she saidthat she had a lot going on because of Christmas and other events. I said good for you. Do I ask her out again? nope.

Or... she really did have a lot going on because of Christmas. Geez guys, these chicks do actually have lives as well. I didn't go on any dates the week leading up for Christmas. People do set aside time for friends and family.... You sound kind of butthurt.

I consider myself kind of good looking and fun to be around but these girls seem to expect something better, or they don't have any interest. Wtf...? and these were just HB6-7s!

It's crazy how women behave today. They have so many options that unless you're GREAT for them, they just pass.

Some of it is just timing. Don't give up so easily. Also, these chicks have never met you. Why on earth would they be interested enough in you to ditch family or friends?

 

[El Payaso]

You're fine. The funeral was just an excuse.

 

[RangerMIke]

Best advice I can give when you hit a dry spell is actually counter intuitive.... Many guys will lower thier standard to "break the slump"... This is the WORST thing you can do.

What you should do... And trust me this works.... is go after even HIGHER quality women. It puts you in a better frame of mind and makes you work HARDER to get results.

I learned this from baseball... players get into batting slumps all the time. The slumps usually end when they have success against REALLY good pitching. Up your game and the slump ends.... Trust me this works... but you have to AIM REALLY HIGH don't worry about rejection... it's about te effort.

 

[JohnChops]

I agree with Mike. Keep on keepin' on and doing your thing. Dry spells happen, just like women they come and go. I like the idea about aiming higher and upping your game. I can relate, I lowered my standards once after a dry spell and it initiates a cascade where your standards change, indefinitely.

example : you bang 7-8s , dry spell hits, you lower your standards you bang a 6, then a 5, then you just don't care, then you have to work hard to get back to where you were pre-dry spell. Never lower your standards, at the end of the day you WILL regret it.

 

[Robert28]

What's funny is eventually you'll land some hottie and then all of a sudden EVERY girl will be interested in you. Girls that are married will suddenly be separated and randomly reaching out to you, girls that have had the same boyfriend for years will suddenly be single and friend request you on facebook, b!tches that turned you down months ago will seek you out and give you some bs story about "I was stupid back then, I always knew you were a good guy and now I know what I want", hoe's online will blow up your inbox, random slvtbag in the grocery store will strike up a conversation with you or drop something in front of you and bend over to pick it up so you'll check out their @$$. Just say "the hell with you all, I hate you and you need to die".