dropped POF

[Purefilth]

Had a profile for a look at POF while everyone was talking about it.
Lots of flaky chicks for sure, chatted to a few got a handful of numbers.
of these only 3 turn out not to be flaky.

So, as im starting out on bootcamp once again, and a few DJ soldiers joining me, I have decided to drop this dating site since i believe it will only act as a distraction and flakes are not good for morale.

I know they shouldn't matter, and they dont really since I half expected them from the posts ive read here, but theres still a little of a downer in the back of my head, since i know these wouldnt flake if I had met them IRL.
(not 100% non flake IRL but I can count on 1 hand the few who have in my whole life! )

Anyway just sharing that, as it would be my recommendation for any others starting out to do the same.

POF=Fail

 

[Poonani Maker]

For some reason, I was cold on POF for the past 2 months. Now, seems to be a spike in interest from the ladies, I mean, messaging me out of the blue, and not half bad lookin. Of course, I've started logging on more here recently. I agree though that you'll be in touch messaging, and then one week, she just drops off, never messaging me again, so what can you do? I have 2 right now, though, who are Very interested. Maybe because Labor Day, they didn't have anything to do? It always seems to pick up around a holiday...St. Patricks, Valentines, Memorial Day, there seems to be a spike then.

 

[foreverAFC]

its cause a lot of these women are really 45 year old guys trying to get **** pics, not all of them are real.

 

[incognito42]

Yea that...Or they are really young sloots waiting to get banged

To the op, I actually did exactly the opposite. I started a bootcamp and after 2 weeks all the other 20 members I cludi g myself had given up. It just happened to coincide with naughty ninja showing me the ropes on Pof. I gave up on the bootcamp and started banging chicks on Pof with ease.

Ask yourself this...Why do you take Pof so serious as to care about the dumb flakey wh0res on that site and the actions they take? Is it because one or two "seemed" normal and showed you attention and when things were going good they disappeared? Of course they disappeared, they're simaltAneously receiving dozens of messages from horny guys. And guess what? They ENJOY the attention no matter how normal you think one or two of them might be


Why would you completely be willing to set your ego aside and go through something as time consuming and mentally stressfl as a dj bootcamp (assuming you're an act and you really need it I'm sure it will be), yet you won't set your ego aside and treat a website like Pof with the same level of "who gives a fvck!"? It's even easier to not be anxious and be free to experiment on Pof because you're not face to face with them and you or they can bail at any point without it being very awkward.

If you have a 'sound' strategy and put your ego aside an treat Pof like an experiment it should be a far easier And more practical stepping stone towards increasing your confidence and working on your inner game with women not only online but in real life.

I could barely approach before and now I am much more comfortable being myself and interacting with people. The most practical advice or help I got on this site visiting here sparingly over the course of 7 years was by far my initiation into Pof by naughty ninja. I could bAng 100 chicks off Pof in the ne t year if I want but only because I was willing to put my ego aside and deal with tons of dumb flakey wh0res without taking anything personal. Just roll with the punches on there, don't invest anything into any of them other than your dyck, and just reap all the rewards of the dirty nastys that inhabit that site and will soon be begging to have you come over and fvck the shyt out of them

 

[incognito42]

Double post

 

[incognito42]

Purefilth, while i respect your decision to cut your losses and discontinue trying to pick up girls thru pof/online dating, i have to say that i think the purpose should be to get used to flakiness rather than avoid it.

Girls will be flaky in real life and online. I think you should focus on letting this happen to you so many times that eventually you won't feel anything when you are "rejected" by these lesser women. I think it will lead to actually building your confidence if you're able to maintain the right attitude.

best of luck!

-bd

Nice post brad you just summed up what I was trying to say in 1500 less words. You're spot on

YOU need to be cutting and running from these chicks faster too. Send them 3-4 messages and move on with Or without the number. I've had countless chicks respond to my opener only to stop responding once I ask for the number. Just move on. I have no problem with that, but I'd prob ly be miserable and wanna give up too if I had a back and forth exchange with a chick that was 20 messages long, where we both got bored to death and she eventually stopped responding out of boredom.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Also, AS NaughtyNinja (I think) said once, Sunday evening (especially after a holiday, like now, Monday, cookouts, bbq's, are going on and these b!tchez are Bored at them accessing POF through their smartphones). I've been messaged like 6 times (I haven't viewed no profiles) unprovoked tonight after 30 mins online. That's like more than a entire weeks from unique individual POF decent-looking (some damn cute, with no kids) chicks.

Tonight alone, I've had 6 (initiated) messages to me, 2 favoriting me, and 2 "[screen name] has expressed interest in you! (This is a flirt option for women)" so NN's advice on the Sunday evening being worth your time logging on is correct. I've found that through the years to be the case. Tonight, after/during a holiday, confirms it. These b!tches are painting to me, a picture, of having a full and busy holiday weekend. I wonder why they are messaging me then, if they so busy. So I just straight up let them know that I didn't do sh!t this weekend except yard work, studying, and sleeping. Was invited to parties but, really I need the fvckin rest after months of no time off from work, just makin money non-stop since April, my last vaca. I don't care what they think about me not celebrating Labor Day. Really, I don't care. Sleeping is what I need, on the couch during the day, and upstairs in bed at night. I Really needed this extra day, BAD.

 

[omega05]

I dropped pof and went to okcupid

 

[Krueg]

Try craigslist, my friend seems to be banging lots of low quality chicks there... I'd try it but, I'm afraid my d!ck will fall off touching one of those ho's! I think its the casual encounter or misc romance section.

 

[Purefilth]

Cheers for your input guys. @ ingognito & bradd80 I get what you're saying, but doing the bootcamp is for on self improvement, I personally don't feel that sitting in on dating sites is going to help me in any way, since its not all about svxing up h0es for me. (My tally has me quite happy). I agree, I probably should experience more flakes, but since I Am The Prize, and must be won... (Yougetwhatimsayin ). However in the event that I drop out of bootcamp again, or drop a few plates I may well turn back to Pof or whatever site is the recommended one at the time! Once again I appreciate the effort you've put into your posts.

Peace.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

Also, AS NaughtyNinja (I think) said once, Sunday evening (especially after a holiday, like now, Monday, cookouts, bbq's, are going on and these b!tchez are Bored at them accessing POF through their smartphones). I've been messaged like 6 times (I haven't viewed no profiles) unprovoked tonight after 30 mins online. That's like more than a entire weeks from unique individual POF decent-looking (some damn cute, with no kids) chicks.

Tonight alone, I've had 6 (initiated) messages to me, 2 favoriting me, and 2 "[screen name] has expressed interest in you! (This is a flirt option for women)" so NN's advice on the Sunday evening being worth your time logging on is correct. I've found that through the years to be the case. Tonight, after/during a holiday, confirms it. These b!tches are painting to me, a picture, of having a full and busy holiday weekend. I wonder why they are messaging me then, if they so busy. So I just straight up let them know that I didn't do sh!t this weekend except yard work, studying, and sleeping. Was invited to parties but, really I need the fvckin rest after months of no time off from work, just makin money non-stop since April, my last vaca. I don't care what they think about me not celebrating Labor Day. Really, I don't care. Sleeping is what I need, on the couch during the day, and upstairs in bed at night. I Really needed this extra day, BAD.

Sunday nights and late friday or saturday nights when they're drunk and horny is best. Most all of those chicks are using Sunday evening to night as POF checking time before their week starts and any chick on POF late Fri or Sat is horny, drunk, and doesn't have someone to fvck her. They are looking/trolling for some c0ck. Anyone on a dating site on late Friday and Saturday nights is just looking for 'trouble'. The night of a holiday is best too. Like Poon said after a while of being on sites like POF you can tell which are the best times for some "fun".

 

[Solomon]

POF isn't worth it too many single mothers who want yo to jump through hoops before you bang, and the single chicks flake worst then a minneapolis snowstorm

just not ****ing worth it

 

[muscleman]

Sunday nights and late friday or saturday nights when they're drunk and horny is best. Most all of those chicks are using Sunday evening to night as POF checking time before their week starts and any chick on POF late Fri or Sat is horny, drunk, and doesn't have someone to fvck her. They are looking/trolling for some c0ck. Anyone on a dating site on late Friday and Saturday nights is just looking for 'trouble'. The night of a holiday is best too. Like Poon said after a while of being on sites like POF you can tell which are the best times for some "fun".

This is a good observation and I've started noticing this too. I've had girls (below my standards, but nonetheless) message me saying they want to blow me, roughly around these times.

To be fair I've had more success on Facebook, but POF is still a resource to be utilized.

 

[pdx1138]

There's a few gems here and there on POF....though pretty rare.

I'm spinning 2 of them right now. Actually attractive too.

I wouldn't drop them so fast for the lack of phone number. Quite a few
these days have had bad experiences with stalkers or bad dates harassing them after the first meet up
didn't go well for them.

What I do is give them my phone number and say something like "it's easier then using pof messaging."

they may or may not decide to text me and thats fine.

If the first date goes well, I get a text from them about it, then I have the phone number.

 

[Droz88]

I found that women IRL flake more than women on POF. For instance, if a woman on POF gives me her number I have probably a 50% chance of seeing her for a date while a woman IRL who give me her number is more like 5-10%. Then again the women I meet off of POF tend to be a lot uglier IRL once I meet them.

 

[incognito42]

There's a few gems here and there on POF....though pretty rare.

I'm spinning 2 of them right now. Actually attractive too.

I wouldn't drop them so fast for the lack of phone number. Quite a few
these days have had bad experiences with stalkers or bad dates harassing them after the first meet up
didn't go well for them.

What I do is give them my phone number and say something like "it's easier then using pof messaging."

they may or may not decide to text me and thats fine.

If the first date goes well, I get a text from them about it, then I have the phone number.

You're right but those chicks aren't worth pursuing IMO. Why waste your time With them when there's so many that ARE willi g to give their number right away? Not worth the effort to me. My strategy is low effort and high results. Don't have time to decide I they're being cautious or just AWs, And even if I know they're being cautious and are interested why take the time to crAck that nutty slvts case when there's other nutty slvts that do t require effort? In my mind there is not differing levels of quality chicks on Pof. They're all trashy, and therefore one is not more deserving o my time an effort than any other

 

[Zarky]

POF=Fail

For you :yes:

 

[Purefilth]

For you :yes:

Agreed, I'm writing from my own perspective

However the most disturbing part if it is the quantity of warpigs that think I would respond to a 'meet me' or a "hi hun"!

Ok si I did get a couple of decent lookers off there who so far haven't turned out to be total frikkin nutjobs.
I'll let the plates spin and next them appropriately:crackup:

 

[Zarky]

There is no doubt that the online dating sites do not get the hottest women. As I always say, online dating is good for quantity, which is what I'm interested in. If you're looking for HB8-10, you won't find them there. Or if you do, they'll be snapped up within a day or two. And if they're not it's usually because they have 3 kids or a gimp leg (true story) or something.

 

[incognito42]

Agreed, I'm writing from my own perspective

However the most disturbing part if it is the quantity of warpigs that think I would respond to a 'meet me' or a "hi hun"!

Ok si I did get a couple of decent lookers off there who so far haven't turned out to be total frikkin nutjobs.
I'll let the plates spin and next them appropriately:crackup:

That's a little harsh. How dare those water buffalos attempt talking to you?...lol Come on dude have you neve been shot down by a chick that deemed you to be below her standards? You should be flattered by it...not a dyck. Im not saying don't ignore them but they're just playing the same numbers game that we are. Messaging the people theyre most attracted to hoping to find 1 or 2 that'll be into them. Plus if you've failed on Pof you may have unreasonable expectations about what type of chick you can get. Not trying to be a jerk just giving advice