Drinks this weekend. Tips for a fella?

[MoreThanSmooth]

Had this girl I was friends with post a thing about her day on FB the other day. Commented on it and she hit me up saying stuff like "Hey! Glad you liked the post, I'm loving life. Newly single and feels great filling all this time I have. Still getting over a year with my ex."

Seemed kinda weird she brought up she was single without me saying anything, so I kept chatting out of curiosity.

Anyway we discussed some shared interests and she started saying we should hang out and do stuff. Then she said "We should get a drink actually. I live near X now and there's a bar 5 mins away. You can get transport there easily."

We talked a bit more and she started getting maybe a little flirty, just talking about what she's like when she's drunk basically.

These are all pretty strong signals right? Not gonna lie she's really hot, definitely my type physically. I'm kinda hoping I can actually have a good time here rather than getting friendzoned like a chump. Unfortunately I'm not jacked like I was when she last saw me, so I doubt I'll manage to make it happen.

 

[backseatjuan]

$25 for a first date. Keep to two drinks for yourself. Then either you two go somewhere, your place for example to continue, or end the date on a high note. Don't be kino and stuff at the bar. If you going to touch isolate first, someplace where you can fck her. Flirt, banter, two drinks no hurry, $25 - $30 for entire date for both of you. You got more drinks at your place.

 

[Epic Days]

I don’t understand wasting time on drinks but it’s fine by me I guess.

So you’ve never talked to her in person or is she just a Facebook thing?

 

[Epic Days]

How can you not understand it?

"Hey! Glad you liked the post, I'm loving life. Newly single and feels great filling all this time I have. Still getting over a year with my ex."

 

[zonn]

She does want you but might not put out on the very first date.

 

[Focal core]

Cocaineee

 

[jaymbrs]

This should be an easy one. Just go with the mindset that you will be physical with this girl this weekend. She's literally throwing herself at you, it seems. Normally girls are coy and don't do all the initiating she's doing. But when they do, they're looking to hook up.

 

[redskinsfan92]

She's down to f

 

[Visionist]

You had better sex this girl.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

Had this girl I was friends with post a thing about her day on FB the other day. Commented on it and she hit me up saying stuff like "Hey! Glad you liked the post, I'm loving life. Newly single and feels great filling all this time I have. Still getting over a year with my ex."

Seemed kinda weird she brought up she was single without me saying anything, so I kept chatting out of curiosity.

Anyway we discussed some shared interests and she started saying we should hang out and do stuff. Then she said "We should get a drink actually. I live near X now and there's a bar 5 mins away. You can get transport there easily."

We talked a bit more and she started getting maybe a little flirty, just talking about what she's like when she's drunk basically.

These are all pretty strong signals right? Not gonna lie she's really hot, definitely my type physically. I'm kinda hoping I can actually have a good time here rather than getting friendzoned like a chump. Unfortunately I'm not jacked like I was when she last saw me, so I doubt I'll manage to make it happen.

The signals are sooo strong I'm almost suspicious.

Have a good time though, try not to think too much about it. Just be normal seems to be the playbook here.

 

[Julian]

just take her to fkin pound town

also why are u not jacked anymore. too bad

 

[Robert28]

The last two sentences she said are HUGE red flags to me. I swear it feels like she’s going to try to force you into the friend zone even though she’s making this “feel” like a date. It’s not. It’s to set you up to usher you into friendsville.

 

[Black Widow Void]

Last thing I want to do is sound discouraging, but in any case, keep in mind that this is toward her and not you.

The "still getting over a year with *my* ex" is something to consider.
Anytime I hear a female say "my" when referring to an ex is usually not a good sign. You might possibly get some rebound s3x out of this, but I'd caution you against investing any additional energy.

Hopefully not the case. However, at any point you feel certain that your presence is more of diversion to her than anything else, you are free to eject without apology.

 

[Poonani Maker]

You need to do 2 to 3 "venue changes" upon first meeting her if you can. The last venue to get you two a little more privacy for touching her arm, hand, lower back or kissing. Lastly, you tell her you want to show her some stuff at your place or see whatever she has at hers. Stay in the kitchen fix something and chill get a drink too (she will think why isn't he making a move on me asap, your not showing your eagerness will make her feel more comfortable), then move to the couch, then maybe back to the kitchen, while on the couch, attempt a kiss, if she makes out then move to a bo0b, if she resists then stop and try again in 10 minutes, resistance again then try again in 10 minutes, after the 3rd "No" you say that she is going to have to tell you from now on if she wants you to do something because no means no, then get up and go to the kitchen or start doing something else, pull away. Once you break through the bo0b barrier, you can go to the bedroom to show her a decoration in there or something or to ask her where she sleeps if at her place. The last resistance point is her panties, make her wet Through her panties, they should definitely come off then.

 

[Visionist]

I like to tease a girl who I know is definitely into me, but I wouldn't tease if there isn't blatant strong attraction on her behalf. If there isn't, follow the post above. If there is, tease her physically for as long as amuses you, before letting her have your mouth and d!ck.

My method for a first kiss is always to engage her mind in something intellectual or otherwise non romantic, and whilst she's absorbed, ask her "which way do you turn your head (insert girl's name)?" She'll either instantly be ready to kiss or she'll be confused, whereupon a "let's find out..." from you is all that's needed. I actually got my very first kiss this way. I'd been showing her clunky old cars on my laptop which I said she should buy. After kissing her quite abruptly and aggressively (hey, I was a teen) I went straight back to the topic of cars. She was all over me promptly.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

So the drinks got moved to this weekend. Unfortunately I'm already getting a friendzone vibe all of a sudden. She keeps saying she's excited to hang out but at the same time she's now decided she's not drinking because she's driving and she had a party last night too. Bad timing...

I'm going to try and flirt regardless. I don't get why she'd say she's single and ask to hang out if she's not up for a date atmosphere, it's just weird.

At the same time she was telling me about her lack of inhibitions today and how she'll talk about literally anything with me, whatever tf that means. Again, that sounds flirty but the rest doesn't. Wut.

I think at the very least I'm obviously not going to get anywhere sexually on this "date". I'll be lucky if I even get a kiss out of it. Lol. Anyway, positivity...let's hope I have a chance at something other than being the "friend guy".

 

[lamath]

So the drinks got moved to this weekend. Unfortunately I'm already getting a friendzone vibe all of a sudden. She keeps saying she's excited to hang out but at the same time she's now decided she's not drinking because she's driving and she had a party last night too. Bad timing...

I'm going to try and flirt regardless. I don't get why she'd say she's single and ask to hang out if she's not up for a date atmosphere, it's just weird.

At the same time she was telling me about her lack of inhibitions today and how she'll talk about literally anything with me, whatever tf that means. Again, that sounds flirty but the rest doesn't. Wut.

I think at the very least I'm obviously not going to get anywhere sexually on this "date". I'll be lucky if I even get a kiss out of it. Lol. Anyway, positivity...let's hope I have a chance at something other than being the "friend guy".

Saw your op and i was gonna suggest that you make your intent clear af, then this update of friend zone vibe coming afterward.

Making your intent clear is not that hard but it will make it clear that your goal is to bang her and not cuddle her/friend zone her.
It will avoid wasting time on someone who is just looking for validation and on the plus side it can create attraction.

 

[2Rocky]

Do what feels right and remember, She's not your Girlfriend, It's just your turn...

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

Well it was an...unusual night. Kind of insane actually, like the king of mixed signals.

Bit of a long story but whatever, I need to explain all this stuff to make any sense of it.

First of all she opened by talking about her ex. Fine, we both knew the guy, so whatever. Then she started talking about herself...for like 40 minutes (!). I couldn't get a word in edgeways, it was kind of crazy. She starts telling me how modern dating sucks but she's banged a couple of people recently (okay, why is she telling me this?)

Tried to take some control of the conversation a bunch of times but got nowhere at this point, she was still talking 90% of it. Then she kept apologising for talking too much! Eventually she asked about me and I got a few minutes to talk about my own life. Then it was back to her stories again...riight.

Then we moved to another bar. We sat at a much closer table this time, and since I'd been holding a lot of eye contact, I moved to attempting kino. Limited success. She didn't withdraw away when I touched her hands and arms, she didn't react at all, but she did move her legs when we touched. Then I tried again and she didn't move her legs this time, but also didn't actively reciprocate.

Anyway she shows me some stuff on her phone pretty close to me and our arms were left touching a while, but really I didn't get anywhere further with the physical touch. Here's the thing - on her phone, she's showing me all these loser guys who are trying to slide into her DMs, and she's laughing about them with me. Clearly she doesn't consider me one of these jokers, but I thought this was weird. Some kind of social proofing? Trying to show her value to me? Or sees me as a gay best friend?

Then she says "Men are just garbage I guess."
Obviously I'm not going to listen to that. I responded in a friendly but straightforward manner and said "Yeah, that's bulls**t. Not all of us. You need a better type of man."

That's a pretty heavy f*cking hint from me there, right? Then she responds with:
"I know, but these are the only options I have right now."

WTF? The little voice in my mind was like "You have an educated, single hot guy sat across from you and you're saying you have no options but these fuccbois? WUT."

Seriously f***ing weird response from her. Frankly, I'm also hotter than her ex...I dunno, she's showing me these garbage tier Gamma males and yet she doesn't see me as an alternative? Freaking crazy.

Anyway I wrap the date up, she was keen to keep hanging out even longer but I ended it. Got the usual hug, no kiss, she texted me telling me she had a great time. Despite all this insanity I decided to test the water with a "We should do something again" and she said she likes the sound of that, but honestly I have no idea WTF the night was all about tbh.

Another note: she was playing with her hair for the whole damn time. Like constantly running her hands through it. I normally take that as a flirtation signal but the kino went absolutely nowhere.

She also drew my attention to her boobs a bunch of times and even her thighs (she was telling me she works out and stroked her inner thigh a bunch of times, like pointing her legs out). At one point she discussed bras and literally started pushing and holding her boobs up and down, talking about her hips and dimensions and everything. Again, this should be flirty asf right? But she shut my kino right the f**k down, so I have no idea.

Perplexing. I guess the fact it was even confusing means it's basically game over here.

 

[backseatjuan]

First of all she opened by talking about her ex.

Bra, now gonna read the rest. First reaction to this, rebound. Let’s read more.

Then she started talking about herself...for like 40

Now this one looks like lost btch with issues. Last time I took number one of this btches, ready to go home and hit her up, but then after she told me str8 up she don’t see anything between us, I deleted her number infront of her told her nah this sht is not for me and left. Let’s read further for more.

Clearly she doesn't consider me one of these jokers

Nah. She could be ng at you actually.


Bro, honestly I thinks she a wh0re and wants a dck. Be bald, invite her to your place bro after some time off. 2 weeks btch.