Doubts on date ideas

[rjaudenes]

Hello guys,


Im with a doubt. Im dating a girl who i know 3 weeks ago, let me explain the events in order:


1. I invited here to a pub. We did kino, kissing;

2. I called here the day after and said i would like to continue knowing here (i know, i should call here 2 days after to set up a date and no saying things to get here validation - lesson learned!);

3. After 4 days i called here and suggested 3 date options (for the 2th date): (i) Cinema; (ii) Camping (another mistake, too early to suggest a camping!!!); and (iii) Go to a dancing club. At the first moment she choose the camping but she changed here mind at the "last time" to the cinema;

4. 2th date (cinema): More kissing and kino (very hot!), i suggested we go to my house, she said no, but suggested the way she should go to my home is by a dinner;

5. 2 days after i called here and invited here to a dinner in my house (im live alone), she acepted.

My best friend told me is a mistake because is too early to invite here to my home, he said im passing the impression im only wanna sex or im desperate (because the camping). He said more:

"Hey Rafael, dinner program in home is when both of you are feeling relaxed about eachother, she'll reject the date idea at the "last time", like the camping!"

He suggested i should change the date.

Has anyone have some idea or commentary?


Thanks,
Rafael, from Brazil

 

[Walden]

Try it.

If she changes the date at the last minute , fine.
If not , take her to bed that evening and call your friend to boast about it in the morning.

Remember , shes supposed to know you want to f*** her, becuase youre a MAN.

Good Luck

 

[penkitten]

take her to a concert dude

 

[DoubleD]

In my opinion she's already made up her mind about you..as in if she wants to bang you or not.. if she wants to know you more or not.. I reckon stop analysing so much and just go for it. From what you said that she accepted the camping I'd say she wants to bang you and get to know you sexually.. now since the dinner date is set up go for it.. See how it goes.. if you feel like ****ing her give her a massage.. escalate get that top off and do it. If not then don't .. but don't think "i feel like sex.. but what if she doesn't" that will be the ruin in the end. So just chill and go with it. If you try and change now it may be even weirder.. especially cause you're thinking about it so much..

Enjoy dude!

 

[rjaudenes]

Thanks for all of you Guys!



You are right DoubleD! Im thinking too much and not enjoy the moment and this put me in anxiety and get out all of my naturally, and hell, Werden is right, im a MAN, not a AFC that's have doubts about his desires.


I make up my mind, and I'll go for the dinner.


Thanks!
Rafael
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The best way to learn is going to the field

 

[Slickster]

Hey Rafael,

Sounds like you are doing good.

One comment though.

Instead of giving her options for a date just give her one.

That way you will always have new ideas to surprise her with.

 

[rjaudenes]

Hey Guys,

You are all right. The dinner was setup and we get f****d yesterday (and today)!

Ok, the DJ way is long and it's to early to celebrate, but im finally feel im going to the right path.



Thanks!
Rafael, From Brazil
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The best way to learn is going to the field

 

[disciple]

I've got two things to say.

One, don't give a girl 3 choices of date ideas and then leave it up to her to decide.

You are the man and the woman wants you to take the lead and act like a leader and make a decision.

If she is really interested in you, she will go along with your idea unless it is something she really has a problem with like sky diving or bungy jumping or some crazy sh*t like that.

If you invited her to play pool with you and she doesn't shoot pool or even like pool, she'll still go along just because that is what you want to do and because spending time with you is her first priority, not where you go to hang out.

Second, there is nothing wrong with inviting a girl to your place.
You just have do it the right way and be smooth about it.

You could invite her over to watch a DVD and have a drink with you or you could tell her she should invite you to her place and do that there.

When you suggest a DVD movie and some drinks, chicks know what the deal is.

They know that this is a booty call and women know from the first time they meet you whether they plan on sleeping with you or not so this just gives them the opportunity to let the slut out without appearing to be a slut.

Ya feel me?

In fact, this kind of date idea is great because you put her to the test and find out if she is going to f*ck you or not.

Also, it is a very cheap date.