Dont question no contact

[Dubh]

No contact is simulated walking away if you havent messed up to bad you can reframe with this method it lets the girl think about what she's missing if you did all of the things you learned on sosuave correct becuz most people espically (girls) dont appreciate stuff people give to them with out hard work or chasing=cat and mouse.

IF U HAD ANY POSITIVE EFFECT ON THE GIRL YOUR TARGETTING THIS WILL WORK SHE WILL BE WONDERING
WOMEN-"WHAT HAPPEN"? "IS IT MY FAULT"?
MAN-U ACT LIKE NOTHING HAS HAPPEN AND YOU HAVE BEEN BUSY, IE SPINNG PLATES=MACKING TO OTHER FEMALES LOL


WILLINGNESS TO WALK AWAY IS YOUR MOST POWERFULL WEAPON AGAINST FEMALES NC MAKES PERFECT SENSE
Its like a restart button for gamers ie xbox/ps3 in real life

 

[lorekeeper]

No.

No contact is not simulated walking away.

No contact IS walking away.

No contact is a method for getting over a girl, getting that part of your life over with and moving onto greener pastures.

What you are talking about is something else, I remeber seeing it when igetit! Posted it. It's similar but is NOT NC.

 

[xtxt105]

Yeah I think it's called ganji games. Totally worked for me as a reframe: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=172617, but now I need to act like a man and become more of a challenge.

 

[Dubh]

True But Its Also Apart Of Your Game For When You Have Messed Up Somewhere With A Female You Can Use It Both Ways What Are You Talking About?

 

[Joey Too Nice]

If you are using "no contact" as a manipulative tool to try to get someone back in your life and regain the frame YOU yourself have never had .....You're better off not using it AT ALL. Think about it.

 

[Forty0ztoFreedom]

Whats the alternative when you feel things are about to fizzle out?

 

[starplayer]

But even if she comes back you will almost definitely lose the frame again.

No contact is for getting over a girl, not getting her back.

 

[Forty0ztoFreedom]

If you're a 100% AFC, sure, but what if you just slipped up?

 

[In$tinct]

I feel that it can lead to getting them back, but your focus should be on taking that time away from her, and focusing on yourself. Use the time you were thinking about calling, texting, checking email, and facebook to do something for yourself. If you moving on makes her want to pursue you deal with that situation then, instead of letting her consume your mind, because that day may never come.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

What are we talking about?

We're talking about the difference between NC and a Take-away.

NC is employed when you were in an LTR and things went south. Whether she cheated on you, disrespected you, dumped you, whatever. It's very simple, yet all too often becomes overanalyzed. NC is getting on your horse and riding away.

Take-aways are used when you're gaming and you lose ground, maybe you went a little AFC, or showed your hand too soon, or paid her too much attention, etc.

It's putting her on the back burner (Take-away) vs. saying "to hell with you" (NC)

 

[starplayer]

If you slipped up enough to lose the frame before then it's only a matter of time before it happens again with that same girl (unless it's been years and you've both changed).

No contact does work quite well, but if you're using it to manipulate her into coming back then you've already lost the game.

I think the aim should be to actually move on and start looking for other girls to bang, instead of playing some passive-aggressive mind games to get back one who lost interest.

Don't pretend to walk away; ACTUALLY walk away.

 

[Forty0ztoFreedom]

I think the aim should be to actually move on and start looking for other girls to bang, instead of playing some passive-aggressive mind games to get back one who lost interest.

Haha, can't it be both? I hate the idea of games too, but there's a point where things seem to be fizzling out . . seems like its either NC/take-away or dropping some HAIL MARY move.

But I don't know, I'm still learning this sh*t.

 

[bukowski_merit]

Its like a restart button for gamers ie xbox/ps3 in real life

I'm sick of reading nonsense about NC being some ultimate technique to reclaim a woman's desire!

Don't sell these guys false dreams...



The only way no contact will act as a reset button is if the woman is really into you and you're using no contact to punish her for bad behavior. That's the only time NC should/could be used as a "technique". If a woman's Interest level is high (at it's peak) and you NC her - NOTHING is more powerful than that! You will destroy the safe world she walks on and drive her nuts! You will likely get a hail storm of text messages or phone calls. This is NC at it's best. But it will ONLY work if she has high interest in you.

The only problem with this is MOST guys are incapable of cutting contact with someone who has really high interest in them because of the way that woman's interest makes them feel.


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If you're using it to try to increase a woman's interest when it's dropping - it normally won't work. Why? There's a few reasons a womans interest level drops. All of those reasons WILL NOT result in her asking herself "why doesn't he contact me anymore?" (the one exception being - her interest level is dropping because you're spending too much time together; in that case - NC could work)

For example - If you no contact a woman who's interest level is going low - and her reasoning (known to you or not) is that she has another man in her life - then if you NC her - it will be a blessing to her; because now you are out of the way and she won't have to worry about feeling bad for being with anther man while you're still around.

I've seen a lot of threads on here that go like: "I broke up with my girlfriend. I no contacted her and she hasn't contacted me in 3 weeks! What's going on? I'm dieing here!!!" - - - What's going on is - her interest in you wasn't high. You broke up with her thinking it would make her come crying back to you. She's probably out sucking some other guys d!ck and you're at home crying!

As stated - no contact if not used as a punishment method - should be used to get you over a woman. To assist you in moving on.

No contact combined with you going out and meeting (and hopefully fvcking) other women is the winning combination for moving on.

It's really that simple.

 

[Dubh]

I stand corrected take away is not no conctact, no contact is long term take away is short term

 

[AFCchamp]

If 'No Contact' isn't the optimal way to bring back a fleeing girlfriend, then what is? I've personally gone 6 months NC, no real response from her outside of a "Happy birthday, hope your family is doing well".

 

[bukowski_merit]

If 'No Contact' isn't the optimal way to bring back a fleeing girlfriend, then what is? I've personally gone 6 months NC, no real response from her outside of a "Happy birthday, hope your family is doing well".

She has obviously moved on. Best if you have as well. As stated myself and others - NC is a way to get over a woman; not to get her back.

Best way to bring back a fleeing girlfriend? Depends on what she's fleeing from and for.

In almost every case - jealousy works. Dirty tactic; but it works. Women (even ones who have friendzoned you) can't help but get jealous when you turn your attention to someone else.

 

[OFWHAP]

She has obviously moved on. Best if you have as well. As stated myself and others - NC is a way to get over a woman; not to get her back.

Best way to bring back a fleeing girlfriend? Depends on what she's fleeing from and for.

In almost every case - jealousy works. Dirty tactic; but it works. Women (even ones who have friendzoned you) can't help but get jealous when you turn your attention to someone else.

It really will grab your ex's attention. However once you've grabbed some other girl, why would your ex matter anymore?

 

[horaholic]

Getting your girl back is a SIDE EFFECT of no contact. The point of no contact is to find OTHER WOMEN. If you are using it for manipulation, guess what? You're SUPPLICATING. You are changing your behaviour to fit some womans needs, which is a BYTCH move. all you newbies trying to 'get your girls back;' Dont you all realize that the first thing you need to learn is how to be attractive to ALL women? That means FORGET the stupid hor who has control of your emotions, and go find/game/bang OTHER hors. IF your original hor comes back, you can evaluate the situation, but if you are doing anything right at all, you will realize that she AINT SHYT by that point, and you'll have new chicks on the burner.

READ THE GODDAMNED DJ bible!

If 'No Contact' isn't the optimal way to bring back a fleeing girlfriend, then what is? I've personally gone 6 months NC, no real response from her outside of a "Happy birthday, hope your family is doing well".

Answer: You DONT bring back your fleeing girlfriend, you get a new and (hopefully) better one. Move forward with your life. You want your GF back? Act like a fvcking MAN, be all you can be, and DO NOT make a woman the center of your world. All women complain that their man doesnt pay enough attention to them. You never hear them complain about a man paying too much attention. You know why? Cuz she dumped his needy ass to go out with a guy who doesnt NEED her. Think about it.